Guys, would you appreciate a woman rejecting you for good reason?

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I plan to always turn down guys and I consider it a great favor. I think men can do better than me physically. The thought of a man being in a relationship and intimate with me is nauseating.

I’d think to myself, why is he wanting to have sex with me when there are MILLIONS of women with better bodies? Why is he doing this to himself when he can do better? I’d assume he has low self esteem and thinks he can’t find someone better or has sight issues. I think I’d hold a man back to his fullest potential in a woman.

I lost a lot of weight, I have some loose skin, saggy boobs, wide shoulders, small hips, skin discoloration, strawberry skin, a smaller butt, etc. While there are women with perky boobs/butts, nice hips, perfect skin, etc. It’s a win win. I think it’s a great thing because if I turn down a guy pursing me, I know he’ll make a smarter decision in the woman he chooses next time. And it will also save me the guilt of feeling like I’m holding him back and the embarrassment of showing my body to him while intimate. 

Questionsweask · Accepted Answer

well i like saggy boobs, jiggle more when on all 4. they are soft when we cuddle. Broad shoulders, well thats means your strong, capable, and probably take it from behind longer, small butt well i like a tiny butt, you can hold it more firmly. looks nice in pants, panties, or nude. Then sounds like your thoughtful, smart, educated, who dont want that in a SO. So other then how you see you i hear someone that we would all enjoy being the one we come home to or cuddle up with for a movie or the one we share a intimate moment with. I would say you should close your eyes. see you as the world should see everything. Not the physical appearance, but the beauty it holds within. See a man wrote about his life of 50 years with his wife. He said he never kept her from changing, but instead learned to enjoy getting to know her again and even more then before with every change. I find this true, we once worked and raised kids, now were home, kids are grown, we have changed in many ways. Most importantly we changed our outer shells as well. we no longer look the same as we did 30 years ago. I'm 50 and time has took its toll on me. I am in great shape but with body changes so does hair, and wrinkles, your skin as well. So when we pick someone for their looks well how long before we need another as they won't stay that way unless they are George Clooney, So we are better off picking out a car for reliability not how it looks, pick a home thats gonna stand up to the weather and keep us safe, not if it is cute or not. Our soul mate is even more important, as they are all that seems to help you get through the hard times, the storms of life, and give you the reliability in life to know you just might make it to tomorrow. As if you dont have that i have to imagine it would feel impossible on many days. Besides that what if you miss the guy that is the one and sees you for you and together you become so strong that your bodies begin to change and its a change you appreciate. Well thats the magic of life sister. To get magic you have to take a risk now and then. Its hard , we get hurt but we are strong we adapt and we keep going. its human nature to survive, its also human nature to want someone to hold and be held by. So i wish you best of luck and when he does come your way , let him be the one.

PrudentGuy · Accepted Answer

Two guys before me had good opinions and I totally agree with them.

Yes, good reasons for breaking up include you already have a boyfriend or find him not your type. Others include lack of compatibility as you know him better.

But for the reasons in your long details, no. This is because much like "one man's food is another's poison", what you view as "ugly" could be beauty to him. You never know until you both reach that level of intimacy.

Finally, after us few guys here shared similar views despite not knowing each other, if you continue to insists on your reasons as "good", then I think you have a much more serious and "uglier" problem than your physical form.

Until you correct these mental and emotional hurdles, yes, don't date.

Cherokeehp · Accepted Answer

You aren’t doing anyone a favor. You’re just insecure about your body. It’s ok to reject people cause you’re not comfortable with showing your body, but don’t pretend like you’re saving them from some terrible fate.

0112358 · Answer

For a good reason, perhaps.  your reason is a terrible reason.  why? Because he’s more than capable of deciding if he finds you sexually attractive. You worry about if you find him attractive.

cth96190 · Answer

What you appear to not understand is that he was interested in you, not someone else.

chriscdi · Answer

if i guy is coming for you and you reject them cause of your insecurities then thats not really a good reason, you seem to be your worse enemy here lol

havingfun101 · Answer

I've been rejected once; she 'had a boyfriend' or she had a boyfriend, I can't tell.

Valnac · Answer

Depends on the reason.

Younghungguy17 · Answer

If she is honest yes

Baseball21 · Answer

If a girl was gonna reject me I would rather her tell me your too fat your to skinny you are ugly and so on rather than just lying to me oh I have a boyfriend or your personality is great I’m just not ready to date. I don’t care if my feelings are hurt I just want them to be honest.