LADIES (and guys) I have a question that I feel dosent get talked about enogh! any takes?

[Anonymous]

hey so im just going to be extremly blunt here~ i think that guys/girls should fix how they react when you come out! like you slowly break
up with them because you have a bit of a problem with your sexuality! personally this has never happend to me but i had it happend to a close friend
not to long ago and i am thinking that no one really talks about this because people dont really support lgbtq+. so tell me ladys? have you ever came out to a guy and had to break up with him? if so did he treat you like shit afterwards? let me know?

[NamerOfStars]

Not being attracted to someone because they're the wrong sex isn't exactly "a bit of a problem". They're very likely going to feel used and insulted. If you're old enough to be dating, you're old enough to know your own sexuality. I suppose it's somewhat understandable if you're dating someone in Iran, or the 1950's, but now?

It's reasonable to ask for some tolerance and respect, but that goes both ways.

[JesterRose]

As someone that fits into the B in Lgbt i feel there is too much attention put on " coming out". Its not a party or a celibration, its your sexual identity. If you need the validation of others to be who you are its best kept to yourself.

I have been openly bi for 20 years and have had next to know issues. Sure some gravitated away from me and others where vocally antagonistic but in the overall it doesn't matter.

[boggboss]

Wait what if u was with a girl long term and she one day came out and said she was gay ofc I would be mad not because she is gay but she has essentially wasted years off my life why wouldn't I be angry

[Asker]

when a girl feels the way she feels she has to tell you before it is even more wasted years! all that time she was with you she loved you up untill she was gay... think about it~would you rather her come out and there would be just a couple wasted years, or have her keep pretending and it will be a lot of wasted years?

[boggboss]

I'm not in the camp that believes 1 can just turn gay so that maybe somthing that we won't agree on and yes she has to then say it but I would prefer we had never met

[Asker]

im not the kind of person to dis others so if you feel so strongly about that then ok. but when you are angry at her try to think about what she has gone throgh aswell, for example... she has probaly thought the same thing like that "i can't just turn gay" and mabey she was having sexuality battel in her head while she was trying to hold your realationship together to preserve your feelings~ but after the fact that she can't fight it and starts getting interested to girls... you can't really do anything else...

[boggboss]

I dont feel dissed dont worry about that As for the sitaution for me if she was gay she must off had those doubts from the start which yes I feel sorry for her but that dont change that essentially years of my life and now my future was wasted and on somthing I would have preferred she let me now from the start then allow me to believe in what was essentially a dream I dont see how I would not be passed or angry at her in that situation

[Asker]

i get were your coming from and understand your point of view but can i ask this out of respect~ what was she suppost to do she was a heterosexual for quite a bit untill one day she got interest in girls... she thought she was crazy and fought it... then after some thinking she finally realized... she does like girls... so tell me if you were this girl with a boyfriend... what would you do?

[boggboss]

So for me she would off had to be bi from the start again i don't believe ones sexuality simply changes but to entertain the question I would still be angry at her yes it may not have been her fault but I have still essentially wasted all this time I have been with her that dont mean I would be a asshole or abuse her but I would be cutting her off after that I wouldn't be able to continue any type off relationship with her

[Asker]

ok! thank you so much for your opinon it was extremly helpful to have a guys prespective on this. I will think some more about this in the meantime mabey you can consider getting a new girl ~ (do you have any close friends that are female) get a girl or whatever your interested in~ and makesure she is loyal and will have a convorsation with you about your situation and mabey get a secend opinuion from another female. i wish you luck!

[boggboss]

Oh shit sorry that didn't happen to me im just saying how I would respond to it I have a girlfriend and we have funny enough spoken about a subject like this before I fully understand its not entirely her fault but in a situation like this everyone is a loser no one comes out on top

[Avicenna]

Well, it’s not something people think about because it doesn’t happen very often

[Asker]

yes that is true, but it also because the world is in a state were anyone that is not heterosexual is frowned apon : / but you are right somtimes that is the reason..

[Iron_Man]

What’s the problem you don’t know about your sexuality