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if you cut contact, what would you do if she reached you out?
Again depending on my state of mind. If im really struggling as aforementioned my defence mechanisim kicks in and they are for all intense and purposes dead to me. I dont even acknowledge themI actively try to not let that happen though. Its the main reason im in counselling/therapy
means she has no chance to talk to you?
Yep. As i mentioned before it is a defence mechanism i had years ago when i was going through my own personal hell, it was the only way i found that helped me deal with what i was going through, dont mistake it for not caring about people. I didIts just when it came to emotions from me my automatic response was to protect myself and i did that by emotionally shutting down, i generally become cold, blunt and snarky when this happens. Acting almost exclusivley on logic than emotionHowever it was not a temporary mechanism. It became 2nd nature and maladaptive. Thus why im in therapy now to help me undo almost 9 years of this
I see.. hmm :( I hope you'll get better
If you have questions. Im happy to answer, just ping me a DM
:) sure. but I don't have anything to ask.. hmm.. I'm confused about him..
and does it work to not fall in love?
Sometimes. Other times no
what did you do when it you failed to fight the feeling? stopped seeing her?
Usually lay my cards on the table And shoot my shot... then distance myself if she doesn’t feel the same
what if she doesn't distance from you? would you response to her like usual?
Like if I’m trying to keep my distance and she’s pursuing?
Then I would go back to the conversation we had when I took my shot and she wasn’t interested and say hey what’s up
means that's her fault?
No but I’d be curious as to why she’s pursuing it still
what did you do when you started to like him?
we ended up together