Does sex change a friendship?

[StarsInTheEyes]

Well, if you've known each for a long time, you probably know each other well at this point. On top of that, if you have feelings for each other AND have sex, that would definitely make your friendship confusing and ambiguous.

You also need to consider why you're having sex with each other but not making it a relationship between the two of you. If you've known each other well AND have feelings for each other, AND want to have sex with each other, what's the point of staying just friends? Would you be friends with benefits then? Would you become a couple?

[Curmudgeon]

"You've known each other for a decade and recently found out you've both had feelings for each other for a long time. Would sleeping together make it better or worse?"

It could go either way.

"Would it change anything?"

YES. Undeniable Truth Of Life Number I lost count: Sex changes things between people. It might make your relationship better, or it might make it worse, but it WILL make it *different* from that moment on.

[Apope16]

Sex always changes a relationship but not in the way you think. You see it depends on the people. Most of my friends that I've had sex with has ended on good terms. Never love yet. The sex with a friend is actually surprisingly comfortable and very pleaurable. The orgasm can be intense. But in the end there was always something about your friend or what you had between you both that made you only friends. For me its weird. Its like i can live with them and have great sex... but there a romantic chemistry that is missing. Or something about them that draws you away. Sometimes its personality or values or quirks.

[winterfox10]

You should just go through life assuming that sex complicates everything always. Even if you think you are one of the people who can have complication-free sex, you probably aren’t and the other person probably isn’t either. Friendships change when they become something more. It’s one of the most beautiful, frustrating, anxiety inducing things ever.

[Kaamraj]

Yes it does, and in my experience more from the female's side. Men want sex (physical intimacy) and women want commitment. If there is sex in a platonic friendship, the man has got what he wants, not necessarily from her, but from woman-kind, while the woman has not got more commitment. Traditionally sexual relationship have been an exchange between the female's sexual and reproductive capabilities and the man's commitment and provisioning of resources.

[PBandJ_Nerd]

Yes. Anytime you add something that is not platonic into a friendship, it will change it. Romance, love, and/or sex will always change a platonic friendship (it's not platonic anymore once you do these things). If you like the person and want to make it work then you can be together. But if it doesn't work, then you guys may or may not be friends anymore depending on how you both feel afterwards. Just be careful.

[StarryCrossing]

I asked a similar question, except mine wasn’t a poll lol


It did for me. I was friends with a guy, then we called and talked on the phone together, and then we played games on the switch. After that it eventually got sexual and he assumed that when we had sex, that we were boyfriend and girlfriend. It was fine because I had feelings for him, but adding sex into the equation can change the whole dynamic.

[jshm2]

That's called "friends with benefits" deary. It usually lasts until one of you finds someone you really like and then you can neither be friends or fuckbuddies.

[hellionthesagereborn]

Well if you both liked each other I would imagine it would change things, almost certainly for the better. IF however the feelings are not mutual it would change them for the worse.

[Danish87]

When you both have feeling for eachother and want to be in relation (assumed) than what's problem in getting intimate with that person?

It's just in mind that if we get physical all things will be runied. Maybe you two get more closer to each other.

[JKingOff]

It's very rare that I say this, but if you've known each other for over 10 years and both of you have feelings for each other then go the distance and wait a little bit longer until you get married. The experience will be very different if you do that as opposed to having sex beforehand.

[RawIronhide]

It would change things no doubt. But if ya both got feelings already then it shouldn't ruine anything sounds like you've always been more than just friends anyways.

[JamesTorquay]

Depends who it is happened to me 3 times, made sure it wasn't a problem and it wasn't, I've never made the first move even if I was in the same bed, girls always trusted me even when I'm drunk

[1stranger]

Yeah..
A decade and mutual feelings are great.
Changes to a love based on friendship. It would be a very strong relationship like in the photo.

[EssenceOfLight]

Yes.
I slept with my long term friend as both were singles. I tried to gain distance for a while to her after sex, because I didn't want any romantic feelings from her side. Fortunately she didn't develop any.

[JPrez]

Anytime there is kissing and you put a D in a V, at least one of you is going to catch feelings. So, yes, it will most certainly change things.

[Ripper_E]

Depends on you. Is it just sex? or do you expect something out of it? Communication is always important. Our actions always have consequences, so it really depends on you.

[MannMitAntworten]

The “feelings” for one another are what changes the friendship.

[BeyondCuriosity]

It changes things, but I say all for the better. Helps you to be closer and more comfortable emotionally to do so physically.

[bulletbob555]

Change yes but not necessarily for the worse. Does putting syrup on ice cream sundae change it yes is it bad no.

[Anonymous]

It’s all fun and games till one of you falls in love

[fxllenone]

Narrow-minded people tend to keep their sexual life and family + friends life separate. They hide that they are even sexual beings. This is how people from the Middle-east, Asia, and North America behave. Europeans are different when it comes to this and I like that about them.

[NYCQuestions1976]

Yes. It almost always changes everything. Sometimes good, sometimes bad.

[chHaynes]

I wouldn't think it would it would just give you a better understanding but for some people it may

[clampfan101]

I believe that’s what’s called friends with benefits.

[SenseiSeptred]

It would change for the better depending on each other's actions.

[Clarke498]

Why not start dating? Friendship AND feelings? Isn't that all one would need?

[SongBird3]

Once you've seen eachother naked, and cross that boundry, you can't really go back

[Newhead]

Go ahead and ruin a decade long friendship, Satan is waiting for you both in hell.

[UnknownGagsUser]

Yes because sex and friendship are two different thing you don't mix it up or it will become poisonous

[michael1469]

Friends having sex is friends w benefits... why would change?

[Anonymous]

Nope--wouldn't change a thing!

. . . the FUCK is wrong with you?

[rebeliouse]

not necessarily

have u ever had sex with a mate?

[bclbn77006]

yes, it does.
when you have sex with your friend it becomes beyond friendship.

[Anonymous]

It'd get better. If it's a true friendship it won't get worse, you've worked everything else out before right.

[DaMack999]

Never fuck the following. Your co workers, your friends, your neighborhood pals girls that's mancode. I don't know about the woman.

[Silver158]

Depends on the people tbh. Some friends with benefits situations work and some don't because someone catches feelings. But either way it would definitely change things.

[shiril]

It's about individual values, bringing up - culture and maturity ( on account of experiences and AGE)

[FriendlyEnigma]

Yea, too much risk, a small chance for reward that doesn'r ruin the friendship. Not worth

[Zygum]

Sex means, intimacy, so sex bonds to lovers in strong friendship

[iseekpinetrees]

100% changes a friendship

[SjE78]

it can yes, but only if you let it..

[themythos]

Yes you're having sex, thats a major jump from friendship. you open yourself up a lot

[Sparda20xx]

Yup
You can't look at them the same way

[Ilickvulvas]

Always. Sometimes for better and sometimes not

[Twalli]

It would change it a lot.

[COMMODOREII]

I haven't yet tried it to see.

[harmon]

Who the fuck voted for "No"? LMAOOO

[krin_m]

It makes your connection better!

[Anonymous]

It would make it worse

[Anastacia1989]

Yea sometimes for the worse from my experience

[Kelly6]

It’s will make friendship better

[SexyAsian]

It usually does.

[icequeen03]

I'd imagine it would 👁️👄👁️

[r_r_g]

Certainly

[JennieF]

Often. Not always.

[Valnac]

It wouldn’t change.

[QueenOfAshland]

it can and usally does

[jimmy2]

Sure it would especially if a child comes

[ETfoneh0me101]

Yeah it ruins it