Am I unrealistic for expecting a man to wait till marriage?

I’m in my mid twenties and have only had sex with one person. It was with someone I dated briefly and really wish I would have waited. He had sexual experience but I didn’t, he wanted to have sex and I just went with it because I figured I was in my twenties so I should get it out of the way. He clearly was a shitty person for saying that he would have preferred to not wait. Men are so scummy, the next time I date someone (if I ever), I want to wait. I’m not a sexual person to begin with, I don’t ever masturbate. I need to see how committed a man is before ever considering to have sex again. Am I pushing it? It’s just so unfair that I was never able to attract a good man from the beginning, I only attracted a loser who was eager to get in the sack.
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  • Quite rare that men would wait nowadays, but if your social circle is large, I think you may meet one or two along the way.

    I hope you don't mind me being so forward: assume you're fortunate enough to meet one or two virgin guys, they probably are waiting for virgin girls. So you may not get your chance.

    Nevertheless, if you merely want him to wait irregardless of his past, then yes. I think men who want to "settle down" will wait.

    To conclude, you probably can't get a virgin guy. But if you OK with guys who had "sow enough wild oats", yes, one of those could be your life's partner.

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  • I would say it's unrealistic to expect a large majority of men to do it. They're will be a few around who are very religious but they get married very early in there lifes bc well sex.

    I personally wouldn't not sure if i ever want to get married tbf

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  • I can fully relate. I too had regrettable sex with one person at 15. I gave into peer pressure. I returned to celibacy and went back to waiting til marriage. Me and this one virgin guy i dated tried to wait but gave in after a year and a half. I didn't regret it as much as the first guy but i still regretted it. Anyways, there are many out there who will wait til marriage, even with a nonvirgin. Just have faith. Dont give up and dont give in

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  • Sigh. Yeah it's unrealistic. Guys don't look for girlfriends so they can not have sex. And who's to say your relationship is gonna work out? Maybe after a year and a half you find out you're not really compatible. Can you imagine going out with a girl for a year and half, waiting for marriage and she breaks up with you? There's no guarantee marriage with your current boyfriend/girlfriend is the absolute.
    future.

  • Well, when I was in my 20s or 30s, I don't think I would have agreed to do that

  • Not at all realistic unless the guy is super religious

  • Everyone can have expectations, like dating or marrying a virgin for example. But the numbers dwindle as people age, and you get older. As for sex, the heart will do what it wants. You may end up dating someone new and sexual emotions will take over because the match fits.

  • yea nowadays yea but its possible

  • Yes, and very unreasonable as well. But oh well, it's your life.

  • yeah. You picked badly, had a bad first time and now you are going to universalize that. Get a guy that treats you right and the sex will be good. Most men over 20 are 1) not willing to wait until marriage and want an adult style relationship 2) have plenty of alternatives to a frigid girl. I mean seriously, what are you bringing to the table other than a vagina that you will reluctantly and unenthusiastically share only after marriage? Sounds like you'd be better off alone anyway.

  • How long ago did you last have sex because they will make all the difference too?

  • It is not unrealistic but it's going to be hard for the man but he will be fighting you every step of the way

  • Do you tell guys you are a virgin?

  • Now you are. I'm not going to feel respected if a girl sleeps with someone but for me to wait. ME wait, scumbag got it. Bullshit. I would never be into that proposition. If you were a virgin i would absolutely wait for marriage but definitely definitely im not waiting that much for a non virgin. I really hope you made him wait months. I think thats the best you're going to get out of men who aren't like simps.

  • I suggest you start masturbating just so you know what your body likes

  • Yeah most likely if you are in the western hemisphere

  • No , not at all.

  • Good luck with that.

    You're actually a good example of why I would never marry a woman without having a sex life with her for some time beforehand. I want to know what I'm getting into before it's too late. Sexual compatibility is far too important to leave to chance. You making a man wait, just for him to discover you are "not a sexual person to begin with" seems pretty brutal to me.

  • No nothing wrong with that