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When your boyfriend prefers oral to sex, how can I also get what I want?

I’ve been with my boyfriend for about 6 months but he doesn’t seem to like sex as much as oral. I’m usually the one that initiates sex but he seems to always want to get me to give him head and all of that, even though I’m not overly keen on it. We’ve talked about it and how he has an oral fix from watching porn etc, and I’m only his 2nd girlfriend.
I need more, like I need sex more often and I want him to want me more but I feel like he just won’t... he says he thinks he’s small/average and he can’t please me the way I want, I have a high sex drive compared to him so he tends to like to use fingers more than actual sex most of the time to get me off... how can I sort this and also get what I want?
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  • Let me get your details right:

    A) he wants you to give him fellatio to his orgasm

    B) in return he fingers you to your orgasm

    C) he after orgasm from fellatio, does not want PIV.

    Is that correct?

    If yes, i agree with another guy, he's the champion of Selfish.

    Solution:
    1) he gives you cunnilingous until you orgasm.

    2) you give him fellatio until he orgasms.

    Done. Or

    3) do 69 until both very high

    4) conclude with PIV.

    PS: hack the "too short" excuse. A great carpenter never blame his tools. Same for a great lover.

    • Yep that’s right. It seems selfish doesn’t it, I need to talk to him about it all I think but can definitely try 69 until close and PIV. He really wants to me to swallow but he knows I don’t really like it, and once he comes he won’t again either... so I know if I give him head then he’s out which I hate :(

    • If he expects you to swallow, then make him show you he swallows your female juice also. PS: TBH, cunt juice is intoxicating, after acquiring the taste.

    • The key is explore and be adventurous. But i think he's still quite self centered. Hope you can get him to expand his sexuality like you are now.

Most Helpful Guy

  • It depends on what you want. If you want oral sex too, then make sure he gives you oral sex before you give him a bj. If you are talking about vaginal sex, then make sure he gives you PIV sex to where you orgasm, before you give him a bj. Or you could each take turns doing the other, on different days/nights. Whatever plan you decide on. But don't keep giving him oral, if he's not giving you what you want, as that will become habit, and he won't feel like he needs to take care of your sexual needs too.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • Can he please u with sex?

  • Discuss it like adults outside the bedroom.

  • So he's just insecure about his size. Not much you can do tbh, he just has to realize he's being a baby about it and snap out of it himself.

  • don't get him off till you got what you wanted xD

  • Yikes, talk about selfish, he wins first prize. If he's not willing to satisfy your needs in return for what you do for him, then its time to ditch him and move on.

  • My guess would be to tell him that he has to do you first and then he'll be next would be the best answer I can give

  • Don’t give in to his needs make him beg for it after your satisfaction see who gives in more or just cut him off completely

  • He like receivng oral or giving and more important you like regular intercourse that us what you meant to say, right?

  • While girls do enjoy penetration, most girls I've been with say they get the most intense orgasms through oral

  • Quid pro quo...

  • I was like your boyfriend. I never liked sex but it was because of sexual performance anxiety. I just gave my partner oral.

  • Is his size enough to please you?

    • Yes and I’ve told him this, he’s great

    • So then it's just that he doesn't believe you? That's really too bad he thinks like that. If he loves giving you oral, at least have him use a dildo on you at the same time. My boyfriend does that and it's amazing.

    • Yeah he hits my gspot at the same time and that was amazing when he did that, he hasn’t lately but I should get him to again. Once he comes then he’s done so I only get 1 choice and it always seems to be head over PIV :(

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  • Some guys just like oral more

    • I love giving oral

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