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If your answer is no, what if she offers you FFM? Would you change your mind?
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- If it's a nude beach then sure. An empty beach of course ehy not.
But a busy beach with her being the only one topless I'd advise against it. Not because I mind her being seen but because I will mind her being approached and flirted with over it.
I would rather not spend the entire day punching guys in the nose for making inappropriate passes at her.
That being said I encourage all girls to go topless at the beach. Once it becomes the norm it won't be something to have issues over instead it will be common and accepted1|00|0Is this still revelant? - If she wants to free the puppies at the beach while I'm around, that's fine with me. I would not want her to do that if she was by herself, though. It only takes one asshole to cause problems, even if 1000 other people on the beach are cool.3|50|0Is this still revelant?
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- seeing as we go to nudist beaches together it doesn't arise, but it should matter, because if a couple has any sense then things like this could be and should be talked about before the couple get serious with each other, that is the trouble today no one seems to talk any more1|60|0Is this still revelant?
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13121- "Let her"? I don't "OWN" her!!! OMG, she makes her own choices, for herself, and I respect her, and what she thinks and believes!
If she chose to go topless, I would be fine with it, because I have no issue with nudity, and don't understand why some are still so hung-up on women being topless!!
I have seen women, openly nursing in restaurants, and it seems totally normal and natural. SO WHAT, if her breast shows, a bit?
I'm just wondering why it isn't Legal, in America!!1|00|0People have to have some sort of boundaries otherwise the world would be complete chaos. I am personally not OK with nudity. I would not want my children to see some random naked woman on the beach.
@Sarahr123 I respect you, and your feelings, about this. If it isn't too uncomfortable, I would like to know why, for you, personally, as a woman, that a topless woman, on a beach, perhaps a mother, with her children, makes you uncomfortable. I just want to understand, and I am I NO WAY judging! OK? You can be as honest as you wish, and I will not be offended, OK? I just want to understand.
There ARE impromptu KNOWN nude beaches all over the U. S. where people go to swim naked and hang out naked. The people who go there are usually not a bunch of yahoos salivating over naked women OR men. They're just a bunch of relaxed folk who like swimming naked and hanging out more or less clothed. People sneak peeks, but that's about the size of it.
Puritans settled America. It's unfortunate they did. That's why there are so many uptight people over here. It's sad.
I think there should be designated areas at most beaches that are "clothing optional," where people can be left alone. You know there will always be a minority of goofballs coming and going and staring. But if you're enjoying yourself, you never notice them anyway.- Show All Show Less
@Screenwriter Great POST!! Yeah, certain places, is good, and those that are 'Nudist's' don't care if there are some looking, if they are respectable!
I don't have ANY problem, with a woman, nursing an infant, in a restaurant, at the table, if she prefers. Nothing "nasty" about a normal, common thing. I have seen it, a few times and never offended!
How is that upsetting, or disgusting, as virtually every adult, has seen a bare breast, and they are for nursing babies, as a natural act, and not sexual.
I think the ones that have issues with it, are the ones that have their own personal issues, and psychological problems!! Sadly, I can't help them with their issues!
- I'd like to hear true stories of what happened if a couple were at a beach and the guy says "NO" !! Is it a nude beach, or no? Is she taking off her top to sunbathe, and is you off in a private spot, or openly visible?
From a general standpoint, my girl wouldn't think to do that a family beach in the USA, or any place where it's not culturally acceptable. She's got class. But we have been places around the world where topless is fine on a family beach, and the little ones see it all the time. So I can't really answer "would I let her" because I wouldn't have to. All I can say is if it's acceptable, or if we're secluded, go for it babe !!!0|00|0 - yeah if I'm there then there shouldn't be any issues.
also as a person who's been to nude beaches in the past I have realize that women on bikinis get stared at more than nude women for the fact that bikinis appear far more provocative than actual nudity1|00|0Interesting. Don’t you think it is more of curiosity rather than being more provocative?
You mentioned that bikini seems to be more provocative than being nude itself. Also how men tend to stare more. My guess would be because they are curious to know what is “hiding” behind those bikinis.
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I have to disagree with you on this one bro. at least the part when you said that bikinis attract more attention. I've witnessed the opposite. Bikinis are way more common and thus don't stand out much. It's the ones who go topless or nude among a bunch of people who ARE wearing their swimming suit that stand out and get stared at. I remember watching a video of a guy walking around at a beach with a GoPro and he happened to pass two ladies who were sun bathing topless. EVERYONE in the comments was talking about these two ladies and putting up timestamps. If it were a nude beach, then it wouldn't be so spectacular.
Also, some bikinis are "sexier" than others. So the staring also depends on that factor. But overall, as a person who has been to many European and Asian beaches, it's the bikinis who stand out the least. The onyl scenario I can think of of a bikini that gets stared at is when a woman wearing a bikini is walking on a nude beach.@TruthBringer damn that sounds like so seriously thirsty vampires alright. the beaches I been to rarely stare unless the women going topless got boobs like Leanne Crow
@CasaNorba The beaches in Europe and Asia are more modest I can tell you that. We can't call them 'modest', but compared to America, it's much better here. So people are more prone to eyeball.
@TruthBringer I actually never been to a nude or semi nude beach here in America and I’m not planning to. The ones I been to are located in the Caribbean. Though is obviously the European women that vacation there that never mind letting their boobs hang out at the beaches
@CasaNorba Yeah here in Europe they do it aswel, even though the eyeballing is strong. But what did you expect from western women, eh? They like it.
- That crosses an intimacy line for me.
So, that's a deal breaker. I just leave the relationship and go find someone who doesn't go naked in public for all the men of the world to leer at.
FFM? I do not do threesomes... it is just her and me... NO ONE else.
That is also a deal breaker. Any girl who is into those and has ever done one or wants to do one, I walk away from the relationship and go find a sweet, romance, relationship oriented girl who doesn't get naked in public and who is 100% monogamous.
Public nakedness... deal breaker.
Threesomes... deal breaker.0|10|0It's good to see a wise man with a healthy amount of self-respect and good standards under this post. I was shocked at the male responses under this post. It seems there are many men with some (mild) cuckold tendencies and that's just scary
- Let her? Man, are you lucky she isn't hear too see that one. She'd waist no time correcting you on the assumption that anyone "LET'S" her do anything. If she doesn't want too cover her breast, I'm not going too give her a hard (another double entender, sweet 🧁🎂) time, metaphorically seeking, that is, about it. Literally, I always give her a hard time, or is that hard on, yes. That's it!!! If she doesn't want me hard, than she definitely needs too cover up them things.1|00|0
- "Let your girlfriend?" I think it's your girlfriend's CHOICE if she WANTS to go topless at said beach.
If your answer is "No," I think any self respecting woman is going to have a problem with you and go to the beach alone...1|30|2"If your answer is "No," I think any self respecting woman is going to have a problem with you and go to the beach alone". Translation: I'm guilttripping any man who has values and isn't okay with letting his woman advertise herself to the world.
No woman of class who truly respects herself will go topless on a beach for everyone to see other than the man she committed herself to. She wouldn't allow herself to show intimate and very personal parts ofherself to everyone to see. Also, a woman who doesn't keep her man's feelings, norms and values into consideration is not a woman worth committing to.
Clearly our views on "self-respect" differ. And any self-respecting man does best to avoid a woman with yout mindset. I smell feminism- Show All Show Less
Sure..."let".
If I am against it... I break up with her.
That is the way relationships work.
If 1 party pushes lines and boundaries too far... they leave.
@Miristheiss Exactly. It seems like communication is not allowed. Gotta love how she thinks that a man who isn't okay with it isn't allowed to have an opinion on it
@TruthBringer A secure man has no problem with nudity in the right circumstance. If you're at a nude beach or at a nudist colony, everyone is doing the same thing. People aren't there to ogle each other. They're simply there to relax with no clothes.
I've gone to a nude beach with a boyfriend who had no problem with it and though I was a bit uncomfortable since I'd never done a nude beach before, there was nothing bad about it.
We're all born naked, we only have a few chances to be naked in a public venue, why ladle a bunch of judgement on doing so?
Has nothing to do with self-respect. It's just a body, for heaven's sake. We all have one, and we're all, more or less, similar looking.
I would not "guilt trip" a particular man if he didn't want to go to a nude beach. I'd only GO to one if both of us would be comfortable. That said, having gone to one before and feeling how relaxed and ordinary it was, I enjoyed the freedom to swim naked. Was a wonderful feeling in the water.
It was comical, in a sense. Guy floating on a float, woman changing her daughter's diaper on a blanket. Some people clothed, some half clothed, some unclothed. It was all natural and not lascivious.
There are such beaches all over Europe. But here, we're so Puritanical about nudity.
There's nothing wrong about it. People think it's unacceptable because they tie it to orgies or something.
There were no orgies that day. I barely saw anyone else and it's impolite to stare. I was a little embarrassed. But tittillated? No. That was never what it was about. It was the opposite of that.
It was a beautiful lake, a beautiful day and ordinary people. Not a bunch of perverts.There are people who go topless on normal beaches. As a European who has gone to many European beaches in many different European countries, I know this. That’s where all the staring happens. There is a reason why places for nudity are being separated. Then again, there are people who aren’t okay with going to such places and strip naked if they have a more conservative mindset. If a woman wants to take off her top, then she better not get with a more conservative-minded man. In this case, it is a matter of incompatibility.
You say “it’s just a body”, but lots of people in society do not see it that way. They see a sexual object they can lust over. That’s where the individuality and respect will be stripped away from the person. And in this case, mostly for women, they are exposed to objectification. And not everyone is okay with that. Many people see their private parts as private and not something for the world to see. Hence why they are called PRIVATE parts. And many men aren’t okay with having their women go topless. They want to be the only man to see their partner naked. It makes a man feel special and feel that she is truly committing only to him. They also know there are a bunch of perverts who want to feast on these possibilities.
I remember finding a video on YouTube of and the YouTuber walks with a camera in tourist places like beaches. And he happened to walk past two women who were on the beach topless. The entire comment section can’t help but to focus on these two women in a lustful manner. If you want to go topless, go to a nude beach as you said. And if a woman wants to go topless and the man is not okay with it, then he deserves better. I will never date a woman who thinks it’s okay to go topless or nude in a public place. Including a nude beach. But those are my standards. In any case, no self-respecting person will be with someone who thinks it’s fine to go nude in front of others if they are not okay with it.
@TruthBringer I agree, you should not make your partner uncomfortable. That IS disrespectful. But I would be surprized if my partner was so uptight and this would be a bone of contention..
Back to "let"
Your rambling about every human on Earth should be fine with his girl or wife going around naked in front if everyone and that should be the one and only feeling anyone should ever have... has nothing to do with "letting" someobe do something.
Yes ANYONE can let or not let someone do something.
I can go to a bar tonight and have a one night atand with some girl if I want. My wife cannot stop me. But zhe will divorce me and I lose my marriage.
She did not "let" me.
If my wife starts going naked at beaches or posimg nude foe drawing classes or camming. She can do it... but I leave her.
That is an intimacy boundary of our marriage.
Let the exhibitionists hook upwith their own kind and they can be naked for everyone all they want.
We all can let or not let our mates do certain things... they can always leave and find someone they are compatible with.
@Screenwriter at least you manage to see my point of view. That alone is a good sign of a healthy-minded person. Then this is a matter of compatibility. A man like myself will not engage into an argument, or as you've put it, make a "bone of contentment" out of the situation. I make my standards known and all you can is accept or there will be no relationship. THAT is called having self-respect.
@Miristheiss You NAILED IT!@Red_Arrow He's not a newbie, just a really conservative guy who thinks in a restrictive manner about "his" woman who is "his" personal property and if she shows herself to anyone else, besides a medical doctor, that brands her as a "whore."
These kinds of comments are very old and very tired. But if that's his bent, I'm sure he can find someone to tell what to do and she'll be satisfied with that. To each their own.@Screenwriter Ah yes, if a man is not okay with his woman flashing her tits, but still lets her wear normal bikinis and V-necks is considered "really conservative" who sees anyone with tits out as "whores". If believing that helps you sleep at night, by all means stick to your delusional thought.. What's actually tiring is shaming people who aren't okay with putting themselves or their partners out there for perverts to drool on. There is something called having class. But you and @Red_Arrow would know all about that I'm pretty sure. Don't worry, plenty of desperate simps with cuckold tendencies will be okay to let you go nude in public just so they can have a piece of ass to lay down to at night
@TruthBringer Dude. I have done that once in my life at a nude beach. I've never paraded around with ANY of my body parts hanging out. I don't wear low-cut tops, or dresses or skirts that have my ass hanging out. I NEVER have. I think it's immodest.
It has NOTHING TO DO WITH THE MAN I'M WITH. IT has to do with MY modesty and self respect.
I swim laps when I swim and I always wear one piece bathing suits. Bikinis are impractical and the one time I wore one and dived into a pool, IT FELL OFF. So that was my one and only and never again.
If I am on a PUBLIC beach, I am modest. I wear a sarong to cover my bottom. I don't sun because it's not good for your skin. So I'm not wearing anything revealing. I wear loads of sun screen, so I keep under an umbrella or cabana.
You don't know who I am so don't judge me or the men who've been with me. I went to that nude beach when I was 23 to see what it was like. It was Nice, family place where there was no obvious perving going on.
On an ORDINARY public beach where women are wearing bikinis there is likely more lascivious staring than there is at any nudist colony where people are used to naked bodies.
But, I think the women wearing those bikinis are displaying themselves to be ogled.
I don't and with that one poolside time where I wore one, I've always worn a one piece that was modest.
Few people go out to DISPLAY themselves. Most go out to get sun and relax and have fun with friends.
Women with great bodies might want to show them off. Just like men with great bodies do.
I don't care. It only concerns those who they're with.
You say you don't want to be with that type of woman. We know. I suspect any woman with you won't want to do the former.
Just because I champion someone's freedom to be nude doesn't mean I choose to be nude. I DON'T.
I'm nude, just like you choose to be, with my significant other and no one else.@Screenwriter You took much of what I said personally while most of what I say is aimed in a general sense. Also, if you don't like to be judged, then don't judge others. You don't know my level of conservatism and who I see or don't see as a "whore". Also, plenty of beaches I've been where all people do is stare at one another. My girlfriend was clinging to me because she saw women staring at me. And mind you I didn't even wear something odd like a mankini or some speedo. Guys check out women all the time, whether they are with their families, in a group of friends or alone. So the prejeduce towards those who choose to be more conservative and expect the same from their partners while you claim to be on the more conservative side is quite the irony.
@TruthBringer I defend a woman's right to wear or not wear what she wants where she wants. I also understand that a respectful person would not want to make their partner uncomfortable.
However, I don't believe EVERY man at the beach is a pervert because he LOOKS at a woman in a bathing suit. Nor every woman. Of COURSE we like to look at attractive people. But I don't believe every look is perverted. In fact, I think those kinds of looks are less common than the nudge and wink.
I don't know about you, but I go to the beach to enjoy THE BEACH, not to sightsee human bodies.
I people watch a little, but I'm usually looking for shells or birdwatching or looking through my binoculars at oil rigs in the Gulf, or shrimp boats.
I'm sorry you've had negative experiences. Perhaps you can find a less crowded beach? Or a private one attached to a vacation home?
I truly don't pay attention to who's looking at me. If anyone is. I've never been to a beach that's had so many people on it, like sardines. I don't know what beaches you frequent. I'm in the Gulf South and I've never been on a crowded beach such as those in L. A.
I go out of my way to find beaches that are uncrowded. Maybe you can go with groups of people like yourselves (at some future date of course) and create a buffer zone of like persons.
@Screenwriter Again, I'm not talking about you. Never did I claim every man is a pervert. Like someone else has said under this post, among a 1000 good individuals, it takes 1 bad person to ruin things. But yet that's in the extreme cases. My point and that and that of @Miristheiss are mostly based on exclusivity within a monogamous relationship. There are a lot of people who simply aren't okay with either going nude or topless and are neither okay with their parents doing it. Because they want their partners all for themselves. Trying to imply I try to restrict people's freedom is also absurd. Since I'm in the Air Force and I fight for people's freedom. Doesn't mean I don't value a more traditional/conservative view when it comes to sexuality in public. So me valuing a more traditional and modest view doesn't equal me restricting someone else's freedom to wear whatever they like. I'm no dictator and neither are we living in a dictatorship. People lust over sexuality, but respect modesty. And with my mentality, and that of many others, it is degrading to an individual who sets themselves up to be "eye fucked" by strangers. So I expect my partner to keep her dignity and not allow herself to be degraded to some lustful object. In the end, it also reflects to me.
So to your original post, yes I will NOT 'LET' my girlfriend go topless in public. In your eyes that means restricting one's freedom on a physical level. In my eyes it's setting a standard on a moral level. Ultimately, my partner is an adult and can choose to do what she wants physically. Which includes going topless on a beach. I'm not going to punch her to stop her. Instead, she will have to deal with the moral consequences which is losing me as a partner. In the end, sometimes you have to restrict certain freedoms in order to maintain something bigger/better in the long run. Just as you don't LET your child do many things that will either damage property or harm them.
I find it funny how your original post contradicts the words you later give to me. Which is first you say a self-respecting woman will have a problem, and then you mention the importance of keeping your partners feelings in account. You have to pick one. Either be a rebel against your partner's wishes or you 'LET' yourself be restricted when it comes to this topic. Because so far, it seems you want to have your cake and eat it too. There is something called 'compromise' within relationships. And it's a very important thing within relationships. Trying to shame people who don't allow their partners to flash themselves to strangers pretty much sums up the delusional mindset.@TruthBringer We're not talking flashing someone, are we?
But here's the bottom line. If for some reason this issue comes up with a partner you have, as in, Truthie, the beach we're going to Sunday allows nudity. I think it might be fun to go topless and get a tan. How about you?
Then, you say, No, I find that offensive. I don't want my girlfriend parading half naked in public.
So, she either says, I never thought you'd feel that way! I'm surprized. OR
Wow, I've always wanted to go to a nude beach. Part of it's curiosity, part of it's I like to hang around au naturel. I don't guess I've told you. I don't want to offend you, but that IS the way I feel about it. OR
Well, it if bothers you, we don't have to go.
I assume there would be discussion no matter what the answer was.
I'm modest, in general, but I defend someone's right to do nudity at a nude beach or go topless.
I truthfully don't register the perverts issue and don't believe everyone is looking at You or your girlfriend. I think you're hypersensitive about that.
Most people are worried about themselves, not about how YOU look. Naked OR clothed.
There is the issue that breasts women's bodies are sexualized by men. But WORRY about it? Or feel threatened by it, or assume it means your partner has loose morals or isn't truthfully yours if anyone else sees her naked? I think that's overarching/overreacting.
I'd feel the same way about my male partner. We're just out there to relax au naturel.
If you make a big deal about it, it IS a big deal. It doesn't have to be.
But, of course, it has a meaning to you I've not encountered in my life.AH yes, here you are attributing your own feelings and emotions to what men feel or should feel. We are not the same in our way of thinking and the way we feel things. I've witnessed staring to myself, to my partner and to other people countless times and it's usually men who do this. Don't forget we have like 20x more testosterone than you ladies. So therefore, we are more inclined to look. That's how we are biologically programmed. Also, according to my girlfriend and other people, I get stared at by women at the gym, in the tram or at the beach. People do look. That's part of our curiosity. Some are more obvious than others when they do.
There are certain morals that people don't want to stray away. Not for themselves and not for their partners. Relaxing shouldn't come at the expense of these morals. Wanting your partner to conserve themselves from prying eyes and to exclusively leave their intimate parts only for you to see being "overreacting" pretty much sums up my point about having a delusional mindset. Not to forget to mention that you're totally unaware of the male's perspective.@TruthBringer wanted to reply but you are basically taking words from my mouth hahhaha
@TruthBringer Oh, Truth. I know men stare more and more obviously. I've seen my husband do the same. He did it quite tastefully, though, and we discussed the female he was looking at to his amusement. I didn't come down on him. The female/females he glanced at were something to look at. Very beautiful, excellently dressed, both, OR very obvious. It was always a fun TALK.
I'm sure there are horndogs salivating over semi-clad females. I think they're the minority. Most sane testosteronic, young and older males have learned subtlety in their looking at "the cheese," as an old friend of mine said a long time ago.
I have to note that even at the nude beach I NEVER SAW ANY WOMAN displaying her "private parts." That would be odd. If they were, I'd suspect they wanted people to look. That too would be odd and creepy.
Guy's parts are up front, but I didn't see any guys walking around in a manner that would've been considered "display." However, I WASN'T LOOKING!
So, if there were people ogling me or my boyfriend, I never noticed because I was more worried about being naked in public for the first time!!!
After we returned from our swim, I did look around because I was more relaxed.
What I saw was a beach scene. A guy floating on a raft, a woman with her toddler. They were naked. That was the only unusual thing. I looked, but didn't stare. And OF COURSE I have to base my feelings on what I saw and TRY to extrapolate. My boyfriend was looking around TOO and he told me to look at this one or that one and I looked. He looked MORE THAN ME, yes. But we were involved with each other: with having our picnic. I put my bathing suit back on and so did he.
We ate our lunch, kept looking around casually and having a normal conversation that included some of the sights we were seeing of naked people.
I'm not saying WHAT MEN FEEL or SHOULD FEEL. I understand about men's biological programming.It's mostly about looking for THREATS: physical threats or emotional threats. I think this is what you're talking about. You call it morals. I call what you are talking about biological programming.
If no other males or females see your partner, there is no chance your partner will be desired.
I'm not delusional in ANY sense. I get what you're talking about.
What I'm saying is no one's stare is a threat to my relationship with my partner. If that IS the case, then I didn't have much of a strong relationship anyway, did I?
You and your partner have the right to your physical privacy if that is what makes you most comfortable.
What raised my haunches was your saying, "Let."
I believe it CAN be a joint choice, but for me, it's MY choice, and if my partner trusts me, my being partially or fully naked on some beach where there are others doing the same, is a no brainer. It's NO THREAT TO HIM in any way.
I am completely aware of men's perspective on nudity and women's bodies. They often go gaga over a woman's physical, attractive body.
My point is their staring is not an ACTUAL threat to your status as your woman's man.
Your feeling it is is a normal reaction, though. I defend your FEELING and your choice to SAY, NO, I won't LET her! It's a threat to your relationship, in THAT sense.
As it has already been stated multiple times.
Objecting to the word "let" is just semantics on your part. Unless anyone out there is chaining people in closets and holding them hostage then no one is stopping anyone from doing anything. Any adult can do whatever they want. Some choices may just have consequences to the relationship. It may be strained, a rift my form, resentment may ensue, arguing may ensue or the relationship may be ended.
"Threat"
I do not know if you mean the men are a threat? They will steal the woman from her partner or they'll attack and try and rape her? Do you mean it isn't a "threat" within the woman's heart? She still feels the same for her man and nothing has happened to change it?
For me it is just intimacy. It would hurt me for men to be given that amount of access to her body and to see and soak up the intimate views that are special to me. It would be hurtful and a breach.
I could never stay with a woman who went nude for all to see and allowed other men to have her with their eyes.
So there isn't a "threat".
If my wife decided to pose nude for an art class so strangers (many men included get to star at her nude for 30 minutes straight to an hour) or she decided to be a cam model on line.
No one is threatening her or us... but in my heart an extremely painful offense has taken place and my feelings for her would be altered. She chose to grant this intimate knowledge to these other people. Whatever thrill and sexual lusting and titillation they experienced (or did not experience) she chose to expose and reveal herself.
It would cut my heart. It would disgust me. I'd literally have no choice but to end things and get away from her. Our relationship values are 100% incompatible. Even if she promised to never do it ever again... it is too late. That cannot be undone.
Being with a modest woman (which my wife is) is a non-negotiable part of the relationship.
I could never be with someone who lets guys see her naked and let's a host of people enjoy her nudity. It is in my hard wiring. I'd end the relationship immediately and move on to someone who is modest.
"Letting..."threats"
I feel like you are sort of chasing red herrings.
If it did bother her guy... but she just went on and did it anyway, why would you even want to stay in that relationship?
Why would the guy not be strong enough to begin with and not settle for someone who has a different value system then him? He'll just be miserable anyway.@Miristheiss I get what you BOTH are talking about. And if it did come up between two people, it would appear someone who felt strongly one way about that issue, OVER and ABOVE the feeling of their SO, doesn't value their SO much.
However, perhaps their could be compromise. I don't know HOW, but maybe, if these people love each other, they can agree to disagree. No one disrespects anyone and they leave it at that...@Miristheiss My friend you took the words right out of my mouth. And yes, all this time we are just seeing a bunch of red herring and mental gymnastics all over the place. I am speaking from a general perspective and this lady keeps talking about herself.
In any way, if there are men okay with having their women show nudity to other men, that's on them. Some of them even enjoy it, which screams "I have cuckold tendencies". For those who won't 'let' their women do that, to me it shows values, morality, self-respect and STRENGTH. No true self-respecting man will allow such basic rule of intimacy be breached. And it's clear that miss Screenwriter here wants to guilt trip these type of men because the feminist ego gets bruised. While in my experience and what I've witnessed, it is the men who don't LET their women do things that would breach their values, are the ones who are mostly respected by their women and also happy. And this is what feminists can't stand.@TruthBringer I am NOT talking about myself, except when I talked about the nude beach. I'm talking about a situation between two SO people. I'm trying to cover the bases you're mentioning. So stop saying I'm talking about myslef. This is not about me and a partner. It's a guess about what happens between two people who are serious about each other and how they might or might not feel. It's all supposition.
Anonymous1 moIf it were a not crowded beach, and if most other girls were topless, it would be OK with me. It would not be OK if the beach was crowded, or is she was the only one, or one of just a few, that were topless. In other words, if her toplessness stood out, and drew special attention, it would not be OK.1|00|0- No and no. I got standards and principles. I also don't have cuckold tendencies. If I'm in a relationship with you, it's a no go. If we're our relationship is anything but a serious monogamous relationship, You're free to do what you want1|10|0
- I dont think I would say. No. Not unless I had a reason and if she said yes I would say fine. Then I would pull off my pants and underwear and so ok cool let's go ,, she can't bribe me just like I can't tell her what to do2|00|0
- If you are going to a nude beach why not and why would you have to bribe him with a threesome honestly this question is stupid and I feel like a man made it1|60|0
You are the stupid one who responded to this question. There is no stupid question, but there is an idiot who answered it. I am a woman and have been here since 2011. You can fuck off with your stupid pms syndrome.
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The best (and in my opinion the only) place to go top-less is a nude beach as you said. The real question is, what will you do if he makes it clear that he is not okay with having you go topless at a beach, in the first place? Will you respect his boundaries of intimacy or cross the line and disrespect his boundaries?
- That’s so totally her call. Her tits, her toplessness.
I fail to see the link with the FFM.1|00|0I am saying if he doesn’t agree to it, I would offer ffm and see if he is going to say yes.
Yeah, I got that ;-) But where I come from toplessness is not so rare that it would require a FFM to 'pull me in' ;-)
- The girl should be able to do whatever she wants to. She would never need my permission. I have been to nude beaches and it is no big deal.2|10|0
- Anonymous1 moNo I would not let my partner show her sexual parts in public, I expect my partner to have dignity and self respect
I also would not agree to an FFM because again I expect my partner to have dignity and class and I don’t believe group sex have either of those1|00|0 - If it's on a topless beach I'd be more open to it or accepting of it. But overall I think I'd have to simply learn to trust her and her choices2|00|0
- It wouldn't bother me but if I knew the end result of not letting her would be ffm then I'd definitely put my foot down.
For a minute anyways0|00|0 - I'm kind of socially conservative with clothing so it would be a no normally but im also really into ffm Lol so that would be a great way for her to incentivize it. Though that's probs not good for long term relationships if you're both not open.1|00|0
- If it's just the two of us, I would love to go with her to a beach where she's topless. But not if it's public. And if she offers FFM, And she is serious about it, then she is not the girl that I thought she was when I started dating1|00|0
- Anonymous1 moof course. if that's what she wanted. I would feel uncomfortable with everyone staring at her boobs though. lol @ FFM? Would i get to pick the friend? haha1|10|0
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- As for me I don’t have a girlfriend as of the moment & if I did & she wanted to run wild on the beach more power to her & it’s ok to me.1|00|0
- Let? I would be the one taking their tops off when they arrived!
Ensure no one was in doubt how fine her puppies were.1|00|0 - I wanna say yes and ide def be tempted... but no. I don’t need a3 way and I don’t want people thinking I’m dating someone without class.1|00|0
- Ya, I'm fine with that, there's no need to offer the FFM.
However, I wouldn't mind being in a FFM nor would I mind giving her a MFM in return.0|00|0 - I’d love her to go topless at a beach. As someone who would love to try nudism, it would be a great start. FFM would cool as well but I’m more into the nudity than sex.0|00|0
- It is fine if she goes naked, so why would I be bothered by top;ess?1|10|1
- It's her body and her choice regardless of whether I'm with her or not.1|00|0
- If she wanted to I would as long as it was a topless beach, nude beach and I was with her. If she offered a threesome with another woman would be a surprise since I don't see it happening.1|00|0
- I'm not going to partake because im not in shape but hey she can do whatever takes her fancy1|00|0
- If that's the style there and she wanted to. She has nice ones so we don't have anything to be ashamed of. I would be concerned with her getting sunburnt nipples and that might ruin the trip.0|10|0
- If it was at a beach that allowed that absolutely. A naked beach is even better!1|00|0
- If it were a known topless beach and others were uncovered, yes.1|00|0
- If it's a topless beach or if we're in Europe, I'd have no objection.1|00|0
- If she wants to free her breasts, I’d let her. I’ll be able to brag to others that my girlfriend is beautiful.1|00|0
- If She wanted to go topless at the beach, and the coast was clear (literally) I'd rip EVERYTHING off!2|00|0
- Sure I would. She can go completely naked if she wanted to. It wouldn't bother me at all. Actually, I'd love it if she did1|00|0
- She can wear or not wear whatever she wants. She’s an adult.0|00|0
- Been there. My wife has great tits and guys were looking. I tried not to look at the euro babes. Tough on both ends. We did have good sex back in the hotel.1|00|0
- What good is a question, if you don't write it all in English. FFM is not an English word.0|00|0
- I want my girl to be sexy with me on the beach. Nude with me even. But alone? Hell no1|00|0
- I'd prefer it if she didn't and no that would not change my mind.1|00|0
- If it was a topless or nudist beach, Yes, otherwise, No.1|00|0
@TeeBar Why, just at those 'exclusive' places? Why can't a woman be topless, on an lake-side beach, with families and children around?
It's not like the children haven't seen "mommy's breasts" while nursing before.
Is it just some "Prudish" thing, that some cannot get over, having their own issues, with their own bodies, or sexuality and impulse control?@TeeBar Openly nursing in restaurants doesn't seem, to be a problem, where I live, and I am not going to complain!!!
Maybe it is more like with the TV shows, and "Censoring" words, or some nudity: If nobody complains, what is the problem?
Like George Carlin said: "Cop didn't see it, then I didn't do it!!" :) :) Live and Let Live!!
- Lmfao of course... in fact I would be fine with my girl going bottom less to a beach side bar near closing time by herself even before the second offer of fmf but I'm probably the least jealous guy I know none of my friends agree with me lol1|00|0
- I don’t see how I would get a say in what she wears1|00|0
Well if you agreed with her wanting to go topless/nude, you can’t get the ffm. That’s the deal.
Lol sounds like a bad deal. I don’t want to control what a girl wears but I do want the FFM
- If it is allowed, of course! And ffm? I have had 5 so far in my life and will take another one!!! :-)2|10|0
- Of course especially when you're both at a nude beach together.1|00|0
- if that's a beach where people do that, i'm not against it.1|00|0
- Yes everyone should be allowed to go topless whenever they want2|10|0
- No... I am greedy, I do not like to share my treasure. plus they way I love do not allow strangers so it will be a double no1|00|0
- Well either way I'd at lest try it once with her an see how she act's an if it went well I'd do it again.
God Bless1|00|0 - I demand it, especially if she is a feminist. I got tits, she got tits, her are nicer mine are stronger. So why cover up?1|00|0
- It is my choice and not for him to let me or not.1|70|3
- I would.
I would let my EX-girlfriend even go full naked1|10|0 - I don’t even think as a girl I’d be ok with my boyfriend letting me do that... lol1|30|0
- Nope it would cause too much unwanted attention a girl can wear a bikini that's about it1|00|0
- I would not let her
I don't do threesomes
nothing would change my mind1|10|0 - I wouldn't mind. Its kinda like showing off. "She's with ME!" Just my.022|10|0
- no and i she gives ma offer of FFM then my answer will be the same0|00|0
- Still no, unless in an open relationship or it is a nude beach1|00|0
I would think the only place you can be nude is a nude beach or you're asking for someone to call the cops.
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