Why is sex so much more satisfying when your partner treats you like you’re their worst enemy?

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You know, intentionally causing you a lot of pain, entering you while you’re still dry, making sure you don’t get any physical pleasure from it, doing it in the least comfortable positions for you, acting like he’s bored and repulsed by you, mentioning how ugly you are, slapping and spitting on you, making sure you bang your head on the headboard, insulting your body and your sexual skills, stopping if you appear to be at all close to orgasm, squirting into your eye etc?

Like it SHOULDN’T feel better obviously, but it just does? Help me understand?

PrudentGuy · Accepted Answer

I'm very sure not everyone likes rough sex, because I've been to a few other forums including Christian and non Christian ones.

Statistically,

1) many (girls especially) have fetish and wanted role play like being raped, or tied up and such.

But these are like fetishes and after tried, she's satisfied.

2) in "normal" sessions, it appears that 50/50 wants rough (not enemy) vs romantic sex.

3) in this forum, i estimated ahout 30% wants rougher (not enemy) sex, while 50% romantic and the last 20% not sure.

To conclude, i think your desire for "enemy sex" is a one off fetish. When you finally got it, you'll probably be ok rough sex. But even here in G@G, a large number of girls actially wrote that they like romantic lovemaking. Hence i would have to classify you and this question as a special case.

razelove · Accepted Answer

Grudge-fucking is what you're talking about. Hate is a powerful aphrodisiac if you leave a good long while in between. Never heard specifically making sure not to cause any pleasure as being rough can be pleasurable... though take some R&R later.

You could just be really masochistic, which is a nice thing too, though you'd have to look a little to find someone who'll take humiliation to those extremes. It's a thin line when people like being humiliated as not far enough isn't satisfying and too far is devastating.

Newhead · Accepted Answer

Lmao, is this how weird couple do it. this explains a lot, thanks for that haha. I don't know maybe you too found a way to make it work.

Hangry22 · Accepted Answer

I always had a thing for hate sex🤤 Bur not this repulsive

AustinMan · Answer

As what appears to be a submissive masochist, you thrive on the humiliation and dominance.

chihuahua011 · Answer

Masochism and a fetish for hate sex can be good if your partner just the type to play into it. Good for you and enjoy it, but not everyone likes that AT ALL.

Jean-Marie_Céline · Answer

Because you either beat them, or screw them. And since I'm just 162cm while she's 174 and with muscles, I prefer to screw her rather than end up on the floor.