Why do you think feminity and mascularity dont go well together?

[Smurphanie]

In my opinion I think a balance is needed between both.

The terms masculinity and femininity refer to traits or characteristics typically associated with being male or female, respectively. Traditionally, masculinity and femininity have been conceptualized as opposite ends of a single dimension, with masculinity at one extreme and femininity at the other. By this definition, high masculinity implies the absence of femininity, and vice versa. In other words, people can be classified as either masculine or feminine. Contemporary definitions propose that masculinity and femininity are separate dimensions, allowing for the possibility that individuals may simultaneously possess both masculine and feminine attributes. I think an article written by Tania Fletcher. (Tania is a female empowerment coach) said it best. Here is a part of what she said. SO, WHAT IS MASCULINE/FEMININE ENERGY ANYWAY? The Masculine/Feminine energies represent the expression and traits of the two energetic polarities that exist within all of us. While it is common to associate men with “the masculine” and women with “the feminine”, it’s important to note that these energies are not necessarily specific to gender, nor do they dictate sexuality. We all embody both, but will generally have a dominant or “core energy”. Ideally, this is the energy you want to operate from. The key is to understand how these energies are expressed and how they complement each other to create polarity, because that is where the magic happens! CHARACTERISTICS OF THE MASCULINE/FEMININE ENERGY: The Masculine and Feminine energies have different physiology, patterns of focus and language, so it’s important to be aware of what your true nature is and to embody it as best you can.

[Screenwriter]

I assume you mean MUSCULARITY?
I think it's all about the LEVEL of muscularity. I'd guess a plurality of men don't want to be with a woman who's physically more muscular than THEY are.
I believe most men want to feel stronger than the woman they're with: mentally and physically and they feel threatened emotionally by a woman who is either or both physically and mentally more powerful than they are.
So, they declare that a woman being muscular or more muscular than THEY desire isn't feminine. They'd feel the same about a woman smarter than they are.
Femininity, by definition, seems to indicate softness, weakness and pliability.
Masculinity indicates, hardness, strength and solidity.
Those two don't meet anywhere.
FORTUNATELY, people are not all one thing or the other and everyone overlaps in a host of areas.
And, I also think MEN who are hulking don't look MASCULINE. They look bizarre and overblown. Extremes are EXTREME!
So extreme muscularity is equally unattractive on men and women.
You need as much muscle as you can develop without additional drugs or extreme diet changes or excessive weightlifting.
You need as much muscle as you NEED to perform the physical duties you regularly participate in.
NOW, if you're a competitive weightlifter, WELL your physical needs are completely different from an ordinary person lifting weights to keep themselves fit, toned and flexible.
Any human has a balance of femininity and masculinity. You may look atypical. Doesn't mean you're any LESS feminine or masculine. It's all a matter of taste.

[Apope16]

I was invited to answer this question so I will.

I think relationships are often about power and control. Unfortenately this dynamic also creates abusive relationships. What is best is a certain degree of complimentary chemistry or balance.

Femininity and Masculinity are often in conflict because both idealize empowerment. The former empowerment of women and the latter empowerment of men.

I date feminist women. I realize that when they start to like me or fall in love they are more submissive with me in private. So to the public they are professional and powerful and independent. But when they are alone with me they are submissive sexually or they take down their bitch face and are sweet and kind and cuddly.

So these relationships can be very strong and powerful. They can be one of the most amazing bonds you can ever experience. But the couple has to have an understanding of what the balance is. I like situational power. Or having both of us have pants in the relationship based on the situation of what our best qualities are.

Sometimes it is agreed upon too. When i am at her house I am more submissive and follow her directions in the kitchen. When She is at my house I tell her "In my castle you follow my directions in the kitchen." (Because it is romantic to cook a meal together, have wine, then fuck each other).

[Kaamraj]

I believe that masculinity and femininity as traditional concepts are complementary and contradictory to each other. In older, Neolithic times, when our ancestors were hunter-gatherers or even lived in small settlements, both the concepts were equally valued and complementary. However, as society progressed, survival became more of a socio-economic endeavor which is traditionally a masculine endeavor; eg. hunting, leather working, tradesmen, mercenaries, metal workers, potters, mining, etc. This was reinforced by the emergence of religions, particularly monotheistic ones which reinforced the superiority and dominance of masculinity over femininity. So this resulted in an attempt of masculinity (men) to control femininity (women).

[centerline]

as long as the traits are in 2 different people, they can go very well together.

but a woman body builder who buffs up as much as is possible, yet still tries to maintain a feminine appearance and personality is going to have a tough time of it...

and her guy will forever be in a state of confusion...

I know because my little wife is one who has her masculine side that thinks it can do anything that a 6'6 guy can do, doesn't like it when guys (including me) hold a door for her, tries to help her carry anything, fix something thats broken, or just being courteous to her because she is a small girl... BUT still wants me to treat her like a delicate little princess, ALL the time... its an impossible thing to do, and yet, because I am considerate, helpful, involved and caring, I try the best I can... but its a catch 22, because if im playing to her masculine side, im stepping on her femininiy, and if i play to the sweet little princess in her, im stepping on her independent masculine side...

and if your talking about a masculine guy who has a feminine side, its generally best that he keeps that in his private life, as there are very few of us that would be comfortable KNOWING that our big tough masculine guy that we call a friend and have known for a long time, could, at anytime he wanted to, over power us, turn us over and butt or face fuck us, without us being able to do anything about it... he will be a better friend if we dont have to carry that thought with us as we are out fishing, riding quads, hunting or working on cars together... although there are those who WOULD enjoy that guy, but mostly not for the rest of us.

[Maraneva]

It's not just masculinity and femininity. No two things will go together in the eyes of someone if they're not accepting of it. For instance, I'm not a fan of lassi. I think yogurt and sweetness do not go well together. Doesn't mean it is true everywhere for everyone. Acceptance of things like this is subjective. People will always have varied opinions which would lead to something not being good in their eyes which would be acceptable for others.
I'd say not to worry about this in the slightest 😊

[Andres77]

Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. I've never dated a body builder because I never thought I'd have a chance.
I love the female body and knowing how much you work on yours... that alone is attractive.
I don't know why some people don't appreciate what you do. But you can't please everyone so be true to yourself and surround yourself with people that appreciate what you do and just keep being the best you possible. Fuck what others and haters think and say. They can never move the weight that you do.
They're most likely jealous.

[Tstrbrainer]

I don't really know about that, people tell about balance and I guess that's a thing.

From the point of view of others in the society, normally a man's body is more masculine and strong than a woman's.
Maybe deep down, the feminine nature/softness etc which are known as the female qualities plays a role in attractiveness.

That's why many people seem to think like that.

Anyway, both genders sometimes require both feminity and masculinity. One need to have both qualities to fight and to love.

[Lliam]

I initially misread the question because I thought you wrote "masculinity". Then I realized that you mean "muscularity".

First, I'll say that people can do what they want. A woman can become a body builder if she wants to. And some guys might like muscular women.
That's not for me, though. Women who are graceful, fit and flexible are ideal. There's nothing wrong with being strong, either. But defined or bulging muscles to me look masculine. I like women to be be soft, not lean.
Something that is quintessentially female is the fact that they are built to store healthy fat in their breasts, hips, butts and thighs. It defines the feminine shape. I also like a thin layer on their tummies. in my opinion, women should be bouncy and jiggly in the right places.
So, for me, the body builder look is un-feminine.

[milettescheepers]

As a tall girl with very broad shoulders cause i come out of a huge family, i dont like it. I went to gym and built a lot of shoulder muscle and i now see how masculine it is. And i want to be as small as possible, which means a lot of dieting! Minimum muscle. People told me noooo i won't go big but i will cause its in my genes

[Smoke-n-Growls]

I don't think that.

I think femininity and muscularity go together great. Strong muscles mean rounder butt, better stamina, shapely figure. Plus strong muscles mean better health, better bone density, and better mental health.

There's so many ways being muscular benefits femininity. Way more than ways in which they don't go well together.

[Oigit]

I do think they can. One of the main reasons people say they can is because we have a bad habit of getting in our head and staying there. Also a unwillingness to accept that the world and humanity are constantly changing as well as moving forward in new directions. So people end up holding on outdated ideals and ideas that humanity have moved past a long time ago.

[AshrafWest]

Actually, femininity and masculinity go together perfectly.
A lot pf people mask themselves as feminine or masculine, by acting not the way they are. This is either developed as a coping mechanism or due to something that happened during childhood.
In that sense, masked femininity and masculinity do no go well together. Otherwise, masculinity and femininity are the perfect match.

[Nalix]

Well they are different lifestyle optimizations, designed to complement each other, make up for the weaknesses of the other, and that also means that they will naturally conflict on values. A bit like motorcycles vs vans. Both can get the journey of life done, but have different ideas about how and why to do it.

[SenseiSeptred]

Because it is not a surprise for people who underestimate you as a woman for if you ever get attacked and have to defend yourself. They are automatically going to consider you a threat without getting to know you, or want to be around you depending on who it is.

[Lionman95]

I think they do if they are rightly balanced. At the moment men and women are out of balance because women become more independent and self-reliable which makes men uncertain of their role in a relationship.

[PBandJ_Nerd]

Some people may think they don't go together if the woman is very feminine herself. But I do think having muscles and abs can work for women depending on her body type. You don't want too much but you also don't want too little either.

[ohshee]

Sometimes i just amaze myself for all the things i dont care about,, so i dont think about it because I don't know about it ,, and if I seen a mascularity femininity walking in the store I would just say dude looks like a lady

[ct1243]

I believe that one should be open to their sexuality ; there’s no limit to being balanced or who you can love. I support any relationships that make you happy

[Jack_tyler]

Masculinity or muscularity is always related to men. It's common stigma around the globe, people always relate muscle with men and against the idea of women lifting weight. I have seen lot of people saying if women lifts weight she would look like a man which total BS. Its more of mindset thing.

[Bee-Hatch]

They are invented constructs that simply don't work. T's like political leanings. Nobody is all one thing, theyre a bit of one thing, and a bit of the other.

[CasaNorba]

people have shed a lot of negativity on these two over the years. specially now when people can't even tell the difference between the two and believe that anybody is entitled to either practice it or reject them regardless of their gender

[argyle]

I think there's a certain evolutionary balance between masculine and feminine, even though the lines are blurring big time of late. Body types are a lot more fluid these days. It comes down to whatever works for you.

[OlderAndWiser]

I absolutely love feminine women and I thank God that he made two sexes who can enjoy each other!

[luvstoned4him]

I believe they can

My masculine and feminine side are blended. Plus I can choose to play up either side in the right situations.

[kemo56]

Read the book Man are from Mars women from Venus... It doesn't have all the answers but it sure describes our differences I think in a way that most people that read it can understand

[TeeBar]

? ? ?
If you haven't noticed, the two have "gone well together" since the beginning of time: one attracts the other.
As the adage goes: "Familiarity breeds...".

[modelUN242]

They do, duh, it's logical. Look at the natural world, animals even know their place. You fight evolution/biology, you're gonna struggle with life.

[cth96190]

They do go together well, because that is the intent of the design.
Unless they have been indoctrinated with insane Marxist ideology, men want feminine women and women want masculine men.

[Happy7777]

Love it.
We are both former bodybuilders, both heavy weights at the time, I competed at 253 pounds, she at 149 at 5’10”+. It’s how we met; incredibly muscular and feminine.

[Anonymous]

They actually compliment each other really well when each deals with their issues. Typically a lack of communication (men) and I'm sure men could point out where women could improve some (with communicating - again learn to do this guys).

[psychoticanimallover]

It’s hard to explain why good and evil are incompatible, but I suppose I would start by saying: a huge cock will not fit into a small vagina.

I hope that helps.

[RolandCuthbert]

Doesn’t that depend on how you look at it. You don’t meet many people who embody both traits in equal measure. But you do find these opposites being attracted to each other.

[winterfox10]

Men and women have stopped wanting to work with and help each other. Masculinity and Femininity are opposites to each other. They balance each other out.

[Djaay]

Accually they permanate perfectly together. The genders and they're obscurity towards difference is the epitomy of humankinds downfall that obscures and sends darkened shadows of evil over those who oppose the similaritys vrs differences.

[volleyball_bigirl]

Not a harmony, you need give and take not a show of who is better

[ThisDudeHere]

What? I was under the impression that they function best when together, not appart.

[Guffrus]

Because muscularity is inherently a male trait due to the roles assigned to our genders in nature.

[Browneye57]

Tell us why you think they don't. Cuz I think they work perfectly together - a LONG history of successful masculinity, with femininity. My women have ALL been ALL women.

[cunnilinguist]

Not sure. Might be something to do with why you don't put salt in your breakfast cereal.

[Silver158]

they complement one another really. The issue is that today kids are raised wrong and it is why you get masculine women competing with men and feminine men who are far too submissive. That's what doesn't go well together.

[princessde]

You're mostly experiencing some depression. I suggest you to see a psychologist. May be have some therapy.

[Lion91]

It all depends on the Girl. Theirs a Girl I know with Six Pack Abs that's not a Relatively a Gym Fitness Fanatic. Five Foot Petite that you would never know unless She's in a Swimsuit or Crop Top.

[broken_heart_at_48]

I don't see why they can't. I'm masculine and my wife is feminine

[karolaga]

It's just a general notion but in my opinion one thing doesn have to do with the other.

[SomeGuyCalledTom]

I don't understand the question. They are complimentary polarities.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Because the untold rules have been broken,

Men and women are like Ice and fire one will always have the upper hand untill people can learn to adjust and adapt

[EssenceOfLight]

In which context?
As individual, as couple, as society... it depends on context.

[JKingOff]

Because they're opposing view points to extreme opposite ends of the spectrum.

[Waldoe]

its hard to be two things at the same time, a masculine person is not also feminine... I've never seen it, you can be one or the other

[TheAfrikan]

I think tbey can go together if there is some real strong mutual understanding between the two parties.

[bulletbob555]

I don't see a problem. I think they could complement each other. That is correct spelling on compliment in previous sentence.

[Spalliger]

Wtf? Their existence is meant to be in order to work together. I don't know what are you talking about, stop listening to stupid ideologies.

[Anonymous]

Yes and no. Both sexes like the opposite when it benefits them.

[Anonymous]

Because they're polar opposites, like chocolate and celery.

[allin3]

Easier to sale stuff when you can target and label a group of any kind. Its all commercial.

[chHaynes]

It goes down to the chemical hormones from males and females

[misanthropistkev]

Because I don’t think we were meant to go together we just complement each other and make up for one another’s own weaknesses

[thothamon]

Ideally they're supposed to complement each other. Also men and women are taught not to acknowledge femininity in men and vice versa.

[monkeynutts]

Interesting question, androgynous people can still be attractive. Plus it fits better with eastern ideas of yin and yang.

[007kingifrit]

they do, they are biologically designed to work well together

its just that feminists have tried to change what feminism is and what masculinity is

traditional gender roles work. modern ones don't

[OddBeMe]

Is mascularity what happens to mascara when you laugh really hard?

[DominusFreud]

Becouse its dealing with trauma of the ego.

https://youtu. be/K6zh4t7KdxU

[Alpha09]

In my opinion they do, but the context here is what I'm curious about.