#Poll Which do others shame you more for?

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Also, do you self-shame for any of the above? I think sexually, everyones shamed for something whether by others or by themselves. Even if not often, I’m sure we’ve all had at least one experience in which we were shamed sexually. Whenever I have sex, I think im shamed for never wanting to stop. This could be by the guy or by myself. But i view it as a bad sex addiction like i once had a softporn addiction. So yea after sex, I often force myself to return to celibacy since im not yet married because I think i would literally kill his dick if i didn't stop and i’d prob cause myself not to be able to walk for a good while. I’m shamed by others for being a bit of an exhibitionist and enjoying sexual things in public places. And then I’m also shamed for not wanting a lot of sexual partners in life. A lot of people feel the more partners, the more experience. But I dont see it that way. You can experience/learn a lot with just one person.
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For Having been sexual at such a young/old age

For Having been sexual with too many people

For Having certain sex fetishes

For Not having been sexual enough with my partner

For Not having had enough sexual experience

For Not having had sex at all for my age

For Having chosen to save myself for marriage

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Answer 1

lilyanony1 | 157 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

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My ex shamed me for a lot of things.
He accused me of being promiscuous when I had only had sex with men I wanted to have sex with. When we met I had only had 3 sexual encounters. And he decided being good in bed meant I was experienced!
I don't think I ever want to settle, deep down because I watched relationships and people always try to control others.
I'm a free spirit. I'm not a slag, I'm an adult making decisions based upon what I want to do.
I'm consenting and so is he.
I'm intuitive and I really enjoy sex. But whatever I possess isn't respected.
I have dealt with his insecurity avd his disrespect simply because he thinks he's better than me.
Making a choice to do with my body as I wish made him think that I don't deserve to be treated with respect.
I will admit some encounters were rushed but after he and I split. I didn't want to be alone. Guys approached me and friends encouraged me to go for it.
They weren't bad people I see now that we weren't compatible. He was trying to control me instead of see and love me for who I am, warts n all.
This is morning new to me and that's why I'm bullied a lot.
My father suggested I was a lesbian I'm guessing because he could see I wasn't prepared to "fit the mould of a dateble heterosexual woman" - just watch programmes like married at first sight.
Women act up a lot and take their time to shape themselves for a man, men mostly fight when they see someone they deem out of their league.
There are some crazies but through stories come from a place of pain.
Watching my parents, where my father disrespected my mum just as another person and her staying because she wanted to create a normal environment I learned was toxic. What I got was piggy in the middle.
My mum vented all her stress because she felt powerless at me.
I don't want that for myself anymore.
I literally spend my life now on the outside looking in. It's safer for me.
It is lonely at times but I'm not going to keep being bullied or disrespected.
Take work for example people using flattery and whatever else just to coax me to do more than is expected or work with them their way. When in reality at the beginning they had no faults with my work.
They got annoyed because of their "I'm the only one, I'm the best ego"
Power is a dangerous thing in the wrong hands.
A lot of people abuse it just because they can.
I'm not as I am for being pure avd righteous I'm like this due to pain and learning. I know I act dumb and naive but it's mostly because I don't want to be proven right I'm looking for a glimmer of hope.
I talk a lot about my ex because I really loved him but my love isn't enough.
As I don't fit his "ideal woman" mould so it doesn't matter what I do I'd always be beneath his expectations and undeserving of his "goodness"
I will always be his trial run before the "Alicia keys" looking woman.
I'm sorry I'm ranting I'm just accepting the truth and it's been painful.
I don't want to be controlled or disrespected anymore so I've shut myself down for others in all honesty.

DizzyDesii

1 mo
Wow your dad really gonna try to call you a lesbo for that
lilyanony1

1 mo
My father was a ladies man. Women fell at his feet. He is a fully black man but he looked like whatever country people he was in. When we went to Egypt people would talk to him in Arabic. In Greece people thought he was Greek. Etc etc. Because of this women would disrespect my mum in an attempt to get with him and many men admired him. Don't get me wrong when he was "normal" he's a really funny charming man. But as my father he wasn't the best to me. I always felt neglected and disrespected. Like he was disappointed in me. He was there and he talked to me, like I knew my father was always there but he hardly ever had time for me, due to running his own business. (No excuse really) I was as many called me an oreo or coconut. My mum encouraged me to explore what made me happy. I listened and loved all kinds of music, my favourite artist growing up was George Michael from wham to the end. I went through a gothy stage and went to metal bars as I got a little older. I had a mixed group of friends. Since I live in a diverse city. I had never had a boyfriend as I wasn't allowed. I didn't have siblings. My best friend was a guy and I wasn't into pink and dresses I was definitely a Tom boy in jeans and t-shirt. Because well I felt unsure about how I looked. I had long hair mid back which I straightened mum wanted to build some confidence in me as I had terrible pigmentation from spots. So adults said I was pretty and peers poked fun at me. Girls tried to cut my hair in school. Etc. I was just a misfit, being all those things and as my father said bossy. He concluded I'd be a lesbian. It's funny he's not the first guy to say this and certainly won't be the last. These days after all the pain I've endured dating men I've considered thinking about trying women but deep down it doesn't do a thing for me. I'd rather stay single in all honesty.
DizzyDesii

1 mo
I dress tombiyishly so only lesbians thought i’d be lesbian. Bt im so boy crazy and make it known from the get go that thats all im about. Guys never thought i was guy. Family only assumes it when you dont have kids as young as they did

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