Well, first of all, as you might already know, real sex may not always be perfect like that.
And I can understand your situation, if you feel so sad by watching it, then better avoid it, those scenes are primarily aimed for entertainment, if it's not entertaining you, you should switch to something else.
Sexual energy can be deviated to an extent through exercise and keeping yourself busy.
But I guess, in your case, it's the lack of emotional intimacy that's making you feel sad. Unfortunately I don't know how to deal with it, but you can spend more time on yourself, being creative or spend time with friends or family.
Or you can get a pet, if you like.
These will keep you engaged
Ah I feel you. It sucks. But you know that you won't be alone forever.
If I was you I'd stay away from those movies for a while, and take my time and think of the situation unbiasdly.
When you watch those sex scenes, try to learn something from it so you can use it for your future guy
Simple. Stop having yourself to be watching that things that you should not be watching. You're polluting not only your mind but any future desire to have sex in the future. What you're seeing is perverseness in the first place. How do I you going to control yourself when you're already exposing yourself to things that you should not be exposing to? That's like saying how in the world can a virgin not be tempted to do something and you're watching pornography let alone masturbating? Simple. Don't do it. It's torture enough being in this body.
What you're seeing is just lust. Don't let that fool you before you become greatly disappointed. Men use and abuse you just as women use an abused men. If you going to be watching that stuff. Look at what it takes this for them to get that, not be something you really want something like that would you prefer to share a life with a person you're going to get married too, have a family, and I can build a life with. Sexual intimacy is private. It should not be exposed. That's why if you want to share that kind of life and bond with a person, you get married, constipated, and be happy who you're with. Because you like what you see on those television shows you going to screw up your life.
Lol I feel you but maybe try and shift your focus into other things because focussing on what you don’t have isn’t going to do you any good, it’s only going to make that feeling worse. Also, it’s good to use these moments/events as an opportunity to tap into that emotional level — as in think to yourself that you will experience that/you’re on your way to experience it (I know it’s so hard), and that way it’s easier to manifest into your life.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!These are some things i did when i was a virgin / celibate after losing it: (not in order)
1) don't read/watch sex scenes and romances.
2) exercise. I ran. Yes, literally RUN.
3) start a business. Learn to trade the stock market.
4) search for my SO (eventually lose it)
5) avoid food that excites.
6) minimize masturbation (it only increases the desire)
It worked and helped until i had my First. Hope it works for you.
I controlled my urges by distancing myself. Its easy to say no to sex long as you're not in anyones lap. But you should maybe try phone sex. It’ll keep you calm for a bit since someone elses voice can guide you on things to do
So true
@DizzyDesii I thought you were just saying that phone sex was bad.
@Jamie05rhs its bad when you’re addicted to doing it with just anyone. Last year i only did it with whoever i was dating. 2016 i was doing it with just anyone i was attracted to
You could either stop watching them or you could go to romantic movies that don't have sex scenes. I don't know if reading literature would be better or not. But I've never had a relationship either or anything like that so I do get how you feel. I usually want affection most of the time. Until I realize no ones there and I get upset.
simple ! stop watching romantic sex scenes ! thanks
I can help with that problem. PM me, sweetie. I'll break you in very lovingly!
Lol just know most of the time sex n romance is nothing like those scenes. Sex doesn't last long if your actually in passionate mood. It happens very fast and quick and things go from 0 to 20 to 2 very quick
Don't watch so many romantic sex scenes, and you can choose what your mind focuses on.
I would say this. First... i have been there. I didn't lose mine until age 27. Its okay. Guys are turned on by virginity because you have been plowed through by 50 guys.
Second. Enjoy masturbation. Understand that each time you orgasm by yourself you are understanding what feels good to you. This means when you do start having sex you will be better prepared. Okay?
Just enjoy the feeling and know in your heart that someday you’ll have someone special like that
I would advice you to stop seeing them.
They'll give you wrong expectations making it so disappointing when you deal with reality.
I don't know what to tell you
When you realize that the scenes are fake and some of the actors don't even like each other.
Use different masturbation techniques. Different sizes and shapes and textures of dildos and vibrators, change it up a bit. Don't give it up before your ready, there's no going back and you don't want to regret your first time.
I can relate. Sometimes I feel like masturbating when I see things like that as well.
My best advice to you is just to avoid those types of shows.
Thank you so much. It's just an emotional thing and loneliness being a factor but i wanna share it with someone whom i have a connection with of course not just anyone. And by the way, im sorry for how i approached you last time. I felt bad i misunderstood you if you remember.
You're welcome. It's okay. I'm sorry, too. I was probably being too stubborn and hotheaded to realize where I made a mistake.
But by the way, those feelings would never cause me to actually have sex. That is a line that I just do not cross.
One day you will get married and make sex with your man as much as you want 😊
Better be with your real man then being used and dumped by a douchebag who will break your heart...
Now i'm lonely too and i do wish if i'm married especially in some rainy stromy nights 😊
I'm a man who never have sex outside marriage...
Which means your not the only one 😉
I can relate a bit. I'm a virgin too. Feel like waiting for the right girl to lose my virginity. It is emotionally draining. Maybe we can share our experiences and see if we can help each other. Is it fine?
Lol experiment or get a guy friend ;)
Even those of us That aren’t virgins know how you feel
Just go with them. Nothing wrong in wanting intimacy. One day you will find the right guy.
I say it's time to get yourself some sex toys that should give you some practice sometimes yourself is what you need to get a little familiar with something that you'll probably be able to get later on
I think no matter what you do you'll still have those urges your a human being you're also young with raging hormones. Hang in there you'll find that special someone then your be begging him to stop 😂
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