Girls, If you want to get turned on does porn help?

[Makeushiver]

If so what tyoe of porn turns you on the most? If not porn, is there anything else you use?

[AmandaYVR]

It can be a turn on. But paradoxically it can also have the opposite effect and be a turn off. If it is overly fake, or aggressive, or lacking in any connection between the two, or the people are ugly, or the room and lighting is very bad. That's how fickle a woman's arousal can be.

So great porn is extremely rare. I don't make it past the home page often. What does it look like? It's homemade. There's an emotional/familiarity and connection between the two people. They aren't just strangers using each other to get off, selfishly. The lighting is dim and flattering. Neither if fake nor acting. Both are equally engaged. No one is entirely dominant or in charge the entire time. They switch, and are copacetic. The guy speaks. And moans. He verbalizes his pleasure. The positions don't matter (except no anal.) Authenticity and connection and his pleasure is what does. Forget cream pies, close up cum shots, volume, all that. They can happen, but they're not important like you think, or for yourself. Long and wide angles. And show the whole story, start to finish. The only ones I have ever liked show happiness and playfulness, gorgeous warm light, connection, and the guy in ecstasy.

[Makeushiver]

Thanks for the detailed and thoughtful response. May I ask if there are any particular sites that fulfill all of your criteria?

[AmandaYVR]

I spend so little time on them, I wouldn't be the person to ask about that. They seem very similar to me. I've browsed pornhub and am most familiar with that one, but I really couldn't say it's better or worse than any other. I never pay for it (unless a guy wanted to, in a hotel room, as a special thing on vacation) because I'm usually turned off or disappointed, and it's hard to predict what they will be like. I am not anywhere close to a typical male consumer who's probably much more easily satisfied. Though it does sound like most men go through phases, mature, and develop specific preferences which nullify the vast majority of content out there. We basically want real, don't we? Well, me and the guys I have known. I like decent, good, regular guys. I've never known anyone with extreme or disturbing fetishes. However, I can tell you that Eros Exotica, which has several video excerpts on pornhub, does fulfill the aesthetic and sensuality side of my criteria. The interior design (in India, in a large secluded room draped with lots of lush, colourful fabrics all over the floor), gorgeous lighting (with fireplace), and more sensual nature of this tantric-style sex is good. The short-ish videos are teasers, to try and lure you over to their pay site, which has favourite subscription rates but I've never tried any.

[AmandaYVR]

Also, you could check out Erica Lust, is a pretty well known female director out of Sweden.
https://erikalust.com/
Her work is said to be less misogynistic, more female-centric, though I honestly see it as just regular sex, nothing particularly pro-women; but I suppose in contrast to a male pov, it is less graphic and gratuitous and misogynistic or something. There was one, XConfessions 5, I think, which came on my TV once years ago, and is a series of vignettes; in one skit, a playful guy in assless chaps and a cowboy hat was dancing around for his muse, having a great time. This was the most playful porn I have ever seen, and him laughing and dancing was very fun, I must admit. Sex certainly does not have to be serious. It wasn't the cowboy theme I liked in particular, but the levity, and beautiful loft setting. All the other vignettes were in great interiors as well. Perhaps this is because Erica is Swedish and the single 1-hr one I saw was all set in Europe, which I loved. I personally thought the sex was very standard, nothing very memorable. And they felt like strangers, all of them, unfortunately.

It does seem almost impossible to look at a beautiful space with beautiful lighting, and have it be homemade. I look for intensity and passion + love + smiles and playfulness, and there's no particular dominance from just one side. That would be the jackpot.

[AmandaYVR]

I"ve got two bookmarks saved currently, and one is an Eros Exotica clip as mentioned above. They do erotic massage and oral and it's narrated as an instructional video but is incredibly aesthetically beautiful and erotic. I like hearing him cum, too, got to have that (no close-ups necessary. He's inside her completely and I like the wide angle that shows the whole scene.) The other is a couple, it's homemade and the room completely sucks, but this guy whispers "I love you" very very quietly in her ear at the beginning which you only hear if at max volume through headphones, and he is in such ecstasy during the blowjob, his reaction is the best porn I have ever seen. I've watched this video easily a dozen times, by far more than any other my entire life, and it's because of the intensity and authenticity of his pleasure (and his connection with her), which I think is surprisingly lacking, typically. So it breaks the rules, my criteria I listed above, in that the room and lighting is whatever, but when the guy almost winces and then looks like he's in another dimension during the bj... that stuff is gold.

[Anonymous]

Yes it helps. I look at only amateur stuff as the scripted stuff is way too fake. I look at doggy with spanking, nipple stimulation, threesomes with two guys one girl, girl on top and missionary. It does help with getting turned me turned on. But I’m very particular about what I watch.

[wubatubbub]

Its more of an enhancer if Im not already horny then porn likely won't do anything for me

[rachel776]

sometimes if i'm in a hurry it does, but not often

[HollyF]

It can help but I often spend ages searching for something that isn't fake and offputting that I just get bored and forget about it.

[babieg]

Porn doesn’t really turn me on anymore. My fantasies do.

[tralalala38]

No not for me, I use my fantasy

[SouthGeorgiaGirl]

Yes, porn helos me get turned on

[Nazgol]

Yeah. And also fantasizing

[Anonymous]

Yes, it makes a big difference.

[Anonymous]

I'm turned on most of the time anyway so the last thing I need is porn.