Girls, for a (long term) relationship - do you prefer to be treated well/as someone special, like any other person, or with extreme drama/sex/passion?

[prince370]

All three are possible, and it may be a personality question, but if you try for special, a she usually just wants to be normal or make it more about (dirty) sex. In my experience, sex and drama always work, treating her as special all women I have met shied away from (regardless of the fact they all seem to be marketing that is what they want)

[SueShe]

In a serious long term relationship, it will most likely start with "Special and Caring" together with "More sex" but certainly not with drama and tension and will end in the category "Like any other person".

In today's superficial society, I don't believe in anything special and caring for a longer period of time. That may have been true for our grandparents but not for the younger generations where everything must be sexualized.

Personally, I prefer to be treated the same way from the beginning to the end and that would be "Like any other person". This way, you are not expecting any ups and downs.

I don't like to be treated specially because the person giving special treatments is not acting normally. That special treatment ends latest when the honeymoon period is over.

I am not into sex, drama or tension and to me, that is out from the start because all three topics are highly fake in a relation. If you build a relation based on any of the 3 options, it is doomed to end pretty quickly.

[prince370]

Well, women stereotype it all - yet none is prepared to go with natural and spontaneous; all have these grand preconceived ideas and box yourselves into what YOU consider boring. Why do you do that? Fear of death, fear of seeming stupid/inept? Yet you endlessly promote confidence (that I really have minimal appreciation for - vulnerability and honesty are far more interesting and important - and the only way to be who you really are). You have already included the end in the relationship from the outset - which kind of means it can all play out within 30 minutes. Is that your desire, to be able to hop from one man to another - and, if so, why do you not do it?

[prince370]

You also skipped romance, entirely. The best part. Trust, too. Warmth, caring, togetherness - all that is included is being a fucked princess that gets dumped without much fanfare.

[SueShe]

I think you are slightly triggered here. Sorry for that. All the years here on G@G have really opened my eyes on our modern society and how vain, superficial and inept to commit it has become. All that counts nowadays is sex, sex and sex again. The hookup society is what counts. The more body counts the better, at leas for a great number of guys and girls as well. This is also why I do not plan to be in a relation because trust is what is lacking nowadays. You are speaking of romance and trust, caring and togetherness. Let's talk again in one year, after you have seen what people here on G@G think of faith and trust. G@G is an excellent mirror of our corrupt society that has lost the traditional values and prioritized sex and pornography. Look how many guys ask about the penis size, look how many complain they have been cheated on and look how many are narcisstic and egocentric. Talk to you in one year again. Have a great Sunday.

[prince370]

I am not the one who is triggered. Women take this 'emotional high ground', as if they somehow either understand the flows of emotional states better, or are able to guide/influence them - yet, when I connect it perfectly validly (verifiable/repeatable since that is simply the way it is) - it is women who get lost and start decomposing emotionally. I am not the one who jumps from one dick to another, nor a big appreciator of variety, and certainly not promiscuity. The funny thing is that I am the one person that can perfectly afford and do all this, I just don't see the point, since it is inferior to trust and caring. That being said, if no woman is capable of making a DECISION to be committed, but instead secretly assumes variety and as many partners as wild as one can handle are best - then I don't have any reason not to win in that game (again, funny as it is, a man beating you on your own terms in the game you have set up). Maybe some cutie along the way realises getting fucked by as much different dick as possible doesn't work to her advantage, unless she plans on being a bankrupt old drug addict hoe no one will speak to a few years down the road. We all make our choices, there is no 'society' out there that forces you to decide more dick is all you really want.

[prince370]

You have also summed up the entire collapse of connectedness in one word - YOU call a person that CARES - triggered?

[Avicenna]

Good question. I think people want to be treated welll.

[prince370]

Yeah, as a man, sure you do. Women o sess over who will stuff what up their vagina, ass and mouth and are much more interested in perversion so they can cause or shift blame. None I know seems remotely capable of accepting being treated well (though all scream that is what they want... maybe too many people stuff too many thing up them for them to have the time for good treatment)

[Iron_Man]

They want a special man that respects them

[prince370]

That sounds fairly sane (sanity being quite a rare commodity on GAG at least). Would be good if a woman stated that (rather than 'oooh, yes, I want mystery and sex (which comes down to an abusive manic male) and then to be treated normal before we end the relationship, i. e. she wants to pretend she is 'repairing' what is clearly broken - being a man - whilst milking him for sex along the way, until she moves on to the next victim)

[Anonymous]

I think that it comes down to the individual lady. They all want what they want