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After a while, would you feel like you’re no longer “enough” to sexually satisfy someone whos slept with a lot of people in the past?

Call it insecurity if you will, but I just feel like people who need to sleep with a lot in life aren't sexually satisfied for long. I’d feel like theyre always looking for something new. I remember my first ex said no matter what we do or try sexually, there would always end up being someone else because he can't be with only one pssy in life. He continuosly cheated on everyone he dated. He even told me once “Hey you’re gonna be wifey but a man’s gotta have girlfriends too.” GOSH, first boyfriends are the worst 🤣 So glad i stepped up and stopped taking him back. At the same time, I dont feel sexually satisfied for long, but i dont allow myself to be with many. I rather watch porn if need be or if im dating, keep learning some new tricks (though i’m not open to most). Personally, I wouldn’t be able to live with myself if i surpassed a certain number of partners in life. But at the end of the day, we’re all different. #FeelFreeToList #AnEasyScore #NeverSatisfied
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  • That’s why I wouldn’t be with someone that has had a lot of sexual partners in the past , meaning one night stands and random hook ups with a track record of different guys , to me that is just dirty , a person like that would never be satisfied in a relationship and very high chance they will get bored of you and cheat , Now if she had a few long lasting relationships with others that didn’t work out then right there tells me she has potential and a higher chance she will stay faithful , To me sex is best when you stick with one partner and get comfortable with each other , when people have to use others to fulfill their sexual needs then they aren’t with the right partner , I even feel if a girl has to bring different sex toys to bed , that would be a turn off to me considering I would feel like I didn’t satisfy her enough , if it was just once in awhile then that’s a different story but I feel people that need sex toys constantly aren’t with the right partner , when you love and value each other that’s the only thing you need is each other,

    • So glad someone gets it. People below act like im insecure just because i know their hoeasses would cheat lol. I fully agree with this “That’s why I wouldn’t be with someone that has had a lot of sexual partners in the past , meaning one night stands and random hook ups with a track record of different guys , to me that is just dirty , a person like that would never be satisfied in a relationship and very high chance they will get bored of you and cheat”

    • And i agree with sex toy and threesomes meaning you're not enough. Im not into none of that

    • Then to me Desi , you’re a girl I would date

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  • No, I have had a few partners who had a relatively high number earlier in their life but they got tired of the revolving door and realized that they wanted to settle down.

    The most important criterion is that I want a partner who will be faithful and treat sex as something special to be shared only with the relationship with me. If someone has a sexual history, that is an important piece of information in predicting their attitude about sex with me, but. . . if they had 30 partners before age 25 and have only had 2 partners since then, then they have probably changed their attitude. On the other hand, if they have only had 10 partners in their entire life, but 9 of those partners were in the last 2 years, that is somebody who I probably don't want for a naked bed partner.

    • For me, i just prefer theyve had no more than 3 in life

    • Have you had more than three?

    • Nope. 2. One at 15/16 and one at 23. And refuse to surpass 3.

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  • No woman will satisfy a man who craves more than one woman - I’ve read online about men who marry gorgeous woman and than cheat on them with average looking ones - I’ve even read about men who marry average looking woman and cheat on them with extremely ugly ones - the thrill is in breaking boundaries or elevating the self or escaping commitment and responsibility - not in the sexual act so no woman no matter how attractive should attempt to change a player.

    • I agree

  • I don't think it's always about being sexually satisfied or not being sexually satisfied for people like that.
    It's more about the newness, or the thrill of wanting what's forbidden... I actually had one guy admit that. Wanting things or a person once he was told or knew it was forbidden. So someone like that will never be faithful to just one person.

    • Yea i agree but few beg to differ. Still, i ain't tryna date no one else like that

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  • It is a simple insecurity. You get more experience with seeing and feeling other people's bodies when you get with a lot of people, but you can only learn how to please someone better by repetitions with one person. This is also known as a relationship. There just isn't as much feedback, or caring about pleasing when it's a ONS, friends with benefits or NSA type deal.

    Like are you going to put your all into giving head to some guy you're never going so see again vs. someone you plan to see for years? To simplify the comparison.

    • Like i said, i have to be in love. So yea he won't be gettin head no time soon. And i dont do friends with benefits. Also i know manh who were virgins but porn teaches a lot. It would surprise you. I knew a lot nyself because of it. So i dont go based off the sleep with more to gain more experience bs. I prefer my guy be inexperienced or a virgin anyways

    • Porn teaches you to have sex that looks pretty, but isn't necessarily going to feel the best. And don't judge, I've been in love with myself in each and every encounter I've been in after my first marriage lol. Seriously though, don't aim for a porn blowjob or sex, early on just figure out what feels good for you to do to each other. Mutual masturbation would get you farther in knowing how to please each other than binging on porn. Don't be so serious either, it's for comparison, the person you see a future with is the person you put more effort in with. Your mindset is you only have sex with people you love, it isn't necessarily your partner's mind set, or it may be now but hasn't always been. It could lead to that feeling of not being enough, you're basing your actions and reactions off porn, an imitation of an imitation rather than experimenting with each other to see what your natural desires and reactions are.

    • I make sure to find people with the same mindset. My past partners felt the same and porn taught us a lot. The sex was awesome. what works for me doesn't work for everyone but it works for me and whoever im withh

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  • When I was younger, I tended to feel that I needed some differences. When I married I never felt that again. I guess you find the right person and love is greater than sex alone.

    • Thats good

  • It is insecurity for the most part, but not unfounded. I just personally wouldn't date someone who had a lot of sex with a lot of people if I found I had a personal issue with it.

    • Yea i def dont date those types. One at a young age was enough

  • Interesting posting. Thank you for sharing.

    • Thank you

  • I think an emotional connection beats a random hook up any day. The way I’d see it is if he hadn’t had an emotional connection with all those women and he does with me, I wouldn’t be too concerned.

    • Oooh thats a good point

    • :) :)

    • But u can't be too sure if he has that connection with u, to my understanding women only sleep with guys they feel have a connection with.. mostly... So all the others he slept with and cheated on mustve felt he made that connection with them.

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  • I feel like I'm not enough to satisfy anyone under any circumstances.

    • You are. You are definitely enough for at least one person in this world

    • I've got two decades of life experience that says otherwise but I admire your optimism.

  • I'm not even sure where I'm am now 😅 given I've yet to have that chance yet

  • No... because that is insecurity and false trust rolled into one. First of all, if a person is the type to think this way they shouldn’t be having sex with folks who are more experienced and secondly, you shouldn’t generalize so heavily because the reason why you are insecure is because you disregard the nuances to the individual circumstance.

    • Either way, i prefer virgins over experienced. So i’ll prob stick with someone whos been with less. I’ve only dated a few whos been with more and one of them was a rape victim turned sex addict turned rapist so yea i just can't go down that path again. He didn't know how to control his urges like i learned to control mine. I dont have faith in him and i didn't have faith in myself for a while either

  • Maybe if you’re getting off purely through physical pleasure. I know for me sex was different and incomparable with all of my exes because of the different connections I built with them. Romantic sex. Lustful sex. Playful sex. Boring sex. It’s always been different with me depending on the girl.


    Sex is always different for me because every girl is different. So the connection we build will be different. If that makes any sense.

    • Thats true. With the first, it was forced sex. With the second it was passionate sex.

  • I don't know.
    I would have never been with anyone who has slept around.

    • Same lmao

  • No, but I wouldn't have any expectation that I'd be with someone like that for anything but a fling.

    • Yea true

  • I think what you describe is a very common problem, and am at a loss to understand how to live with it successfully. You are honest here and need to have some long discussion with a partner and level with each other on how you want to explore the options and STILL remain a couple.

    Good luck

    • Thank you :) yea i will when i meet the right one

  • Haven’t so far so no

    • Thats good

  • Yes, I would.

    • Ok im not alone here

  • No. Definitely not.

    And your first ex sounds like he should be treated like I treated my dog. He behaves like one, so why not?

    • Haha

  • I agree with u

    • Yea like i need someone whos only been with maybe one other person. I thought i wanted a virgin but they get too curious and wanna try at least one more pssy in life. Mad annoying

    • That makes sense. Or at least only a few people.

  • You're first boyfriend is the kind of guy I would falsely accuse of hitting me after I punch myself in the face.

    • Lmao dont be that girl. I know he was the worst but dont be that girl

  • I would worry about that, absolutely.

    • Glad im not alone

  • He hasn’t slept with anyone, so no.

    • Thats good

  • I don't think so.
    I mean I definitely don't trust people who can't seem to maintain a long-term relationship, but that's not sexual insecurity.
    I just feel like they don't focus their love on one person and they're really just too selfish to be monogamous for long. They don't value anyone more than their own impulses.

    • Omg yes this!!

    • Thanks. Do you think CT and Big T will hook up? I'm starting to think they're a cute couple.

    • Lmao i hope not. I can't stand her. She doesn't fit him. He wouldve been cute with kam if he didn't try to play her

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