Several ways, currently have two right now and met them under different circumstances. One being a friend of a friend I met during an overnight trip. Became sexual with him initiating sex when we were in the same bed. After kind of communicated with him that I was only interested in that vs a relationship as I was still; was not over the drama from my ex boyfriend, but of course needed the sex. SO I try to pull a guy within my friends' circle and make him promise not to tell them. or we're done.
Found another guy using tinder, which I'll have on hand to find additional friends with benefits prospects. Won't communicate with the ones who act too thirsty or only talk about "wanna fuck baby?" as its a total turnoff. Its best for me to control the situation and draw him in so he doesn't feel bad about wanting sex. My conditions are that if friends with benefits, we keep our interactions solely about sex. If I text him, its because I want to have sex with him. Will not stay around after for that much longer after the deed. No talking about my private life regarding family, friends or feelings, just sex.. If one i'snt available, I text the other one as both will have different ways of satisfying me. Always keep some level of distance between your partners as to avoid one catching feelings or wanting more. This arrangement works perfectly for me as I simply do not feel like getting caught up on the emotional dramas dating and relationships have, but can still get the best benefits of them, the sex
That is a good description, thank you very much for sharing!
Do you let both of them cum in your pussy with no condom?
@BellowYellow nope, always condoms with them
Welp, you just ask. I’ve had a few actually. The first was a guy I was friends with in high school. He had a crush on me but I turned him down several times so he simply offered to go down on me instead, so we did that daily until we graduated. The second was a guy I met at a park. I had just gotten out of a bad relationship and so I told him I wanted someone to practice kissing and doing sexual stuff with so I could get better at that. So we did that until he started acting weird and we stopped talking. And the last was a guy at my college. We were friends until one day he offered to go down on me. So he went down on me daily for a few weeks until I decided to have actual sex with him and then I moved in with him that day, and then after weeks of living with him and having sex with him I decided to make him my boyfriend.
Thank you for your lengthy description, much appreciated! :D
Lol I didn’t mean to be so lengthy. I just wanted to show the point that the only way to get what you want is to speak up and ask.
Nono, I didn't mean it in a negative way. I'm glad you took your time to explain your story like this, your point came across well 👍
My friends with benefits was my ex, but from the beginning i only wanted sex from her and one month after I graduated i broke up with her and then a few months after, we linked up to be friends with benefits and it was fun. Only sad part was i had to wear a condom so i wouldn't have mini-me's But she stopped because i was too horny, basically i asked to much. My sex drive is off the roof, since i was 8.
Thanks for sharing! Becoming friends with benefits with the ex seems one of the most common ways to get one ^^
YW...
I've used a site called secret benefits. I've met quite a few women on there. I still see two of them from time to time.
Never heard of it yet, thanks for the tip!
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!Marriages fail, and romantic partners cheat. So the option you're looking for is a pretty nice option. I have four close friends. Two girls and two guys. We met in school, and formed a study group.
We don't have sex as a group, but we do meet up one on one. There's no big action going on. It works great for us.
But this just kind of fell into place for us. But as to where you should look, I'm not sure. Before March bought OK Cupid and turned it into a hot, steaming pile of shit, I would have recommended that to you. It would have been the perfect place for you to look. But you would have to be OK with your friends with benefits being married.
Hah, it sure is nice how things just "fall in place" sometimes... I'm envious of the situation you had ahahah Still, thanks for sharing! I'll try not to have high hopes if I happen to try Ok Cupid (the "ok" is part of the name?)
Just wear a T-shirt with the words “Down To Fuck?”
I fear that would not have enough exposure these days... You know, with quarantine and all 😅 Still, I may keep it in mind for this summer or whenever things get better
Put an ad out. Best way
Have any suggestions on the font I could use? 🤔😂
I just mentioned sexual stuff in front of my guy friend a lot and looked at how he responded and felt and started mentioning friends with benefits and asked him on his thoughts and BAM!!! We were friends with benefits in no time and it was amazing.
Heh, sounds easy enough worded like this 😂 Thanks for sharing, hopefully it'll be as easy for me too
I was in a sexual relationship with an ex for a few months. It started off as girlfriend boyfriend but after we broke up we just kept sleeping together. It was fun sometimes but often left me feeling unfulfilled bc I had feelings for him
It doesn't really help in my scenario, but thanks for sharing your experience. I appreciate it and will try to learn from it too (especially the last part)
The important thing is to be honest and respectful. I have had a friend ask me outright “can we sleep together” and I ended our friendship because it offended me. Also, with my ex and our history I didn’t get angry at him because he was content with a sexual relationship and didn’t make an effort to get back together. I became angry at him because a few times he had pretended to still have feelings for me because he wasn’t satisfied with my decision to end our sexual relationship after a few months. I really wish he had respected me decision and not played with my heart and head just because he wasn’t done yet. It’s selfish. So two tips: 1. Be honest, grandparents, and don’t overstep boundaries. And 2. Try to create some chemistry but don’t just ask and don’t EVER force them or pressure them into something they don’t want. I’m not going to lie to you though, it won’t be easy to do things the honest way when it comes to sex. You may fail to get what you want from a particular person, however you can still have casual sex or a friends with benefits relationship with the people who are interested in you. But it’s a hit or miss because it requires consent which you have no control over. Being honest is still your best bet because nobody gets hurt and you don’t have to degrade yourself trying to pretend to be something your not
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Go online lol... I have had an off and on friends with benefits for about 10years. Literally the best sex ever.. we tried dating.. but inxoilsnt trust him. Whenever I've been in a relationship, I don't want to cheat so we are off.. but when he's in a relationship, he doesn't care but I do so still off lol.. im married now to a woman n he thinks we are ment to be and if or when I get a divorce he and I will marry. I don't think ill ever get a divorce but I will say, I do miss his weiner. Lol. The sex is so good, its insane.. you just have to be COMPLETELY HONEST. don't lead her to believe there will be anything else and tell her you want nothing right now but a friend who u have aex with. No, I miss you text messages, never fall in love (this is the hard part) and again always be honest with yourself and her.
Thanks for your advice! Do you have any tips about where to hang around, on the wide world web? "Go online" is a bit generic 😅😂
Hinge and plenty of fish are both free dating websites.. on your page state that you're only searching for something "casual." Any woman with a brain knows what this means lol. It used to be easier when bars were open.. but where I live , currently bars aren't open. If you are lucky enough to live in an area where u can still have social gatherings then just get a girls number n when you talk to her let her know u don't want anything serious. Don't be a butthole and come out and say you just want to bang... beware though, bc if you know your way around the bedroom women WILL GET HOOKED lol. We often times fall in love via sex lol.. so thats why its important that you don't give her any ideas that its something more... more importantly, the moment she says she wants more-drop her. Do the human thing... bc if you don't n she sticks around trust me, its bc she's hoping for more... which is a recipe for disaster and a broken heart. There are plenty women these days who just want to keep it casual... most my friends don't want the headache of relationships.. they want a good friend with good sex who they don't have to check in with or be bothered with hanging out constantly lol.. from the look of your profile pic (minus the fact that u enlarged your mouth lol ) you're a good looking guy.. your quest should be an easy one!
Wow, that was a lot more information then I expected, but it is much appreciated! Don't worry about breaking hearts, I've been on the receiving end of that enough to know how it hurts, so I'll try to learn from my own experience if it ever comes to that I'm sorry to disappoint, though... but my profile picture isn't of me, just a random Google one! And the mouth is not enlarged, he's literally eating noodles from his beard
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