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Is sharing your partner sexually degrading for your relationship?

its just threesome, bonnie, deal with it.
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  • This is my opinion based on my values, beliefs, and practices. Other people will disagree with me and that's okay.

    When I have sex with a partner, it is because I want to be emotionally closer to her and sharing the physical experience of sex will give us a great depth of trust and respect for each other. I don't have sex with every pretty girl who is willing to pull down her panties for me. It happens when I see her as a potential long-term partner and, if we have sex, it means that we are dating exclusively.

    If I then say, "Tonight, instead of you and I making love, why don't we invite my secretary to join us and you can watch me having sex with her. And it would really be fun for me to watch you two getting it on while I'm resting for the next round. And, after that, I guess I'll bang you and she can watch." I just turned something that was special and "sacred" for us and turned it into a recreational activity that I'm willing to share with any willing and pretty girl who comes along. And, by the way, there's other women who I really want to have sex with, regardless of whether you approve.

    I really don't see how that advances my relationship with the girl who I told, "You're the only one I want."

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  • OK, first off the idea that you are “sharing Your “do you know it’s an idea of his possession, but a person is not actually a possession that you can own and loan out to others. A person is their own person so you’re not sharing them, they are making a choice to do what they want with the body that belongs to them, not you. Even in a BDSM scenario where perhaps you have a slave who has dedicated her self to you and you choose to share her, ultimately she is the one who is still in control of whether or not she decides to be obedient to you and follow your wishes.
    Secondly, the idea that sex and having sex with someone degrades youOr the other person is a very prevalent idea in our sick culture of sex negativity. I don’t agree with this at all, and I believe sex is a positive thing that is done in order to share good feelings and feel good while making other people feel good as well.

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  • Its degrading if you suggest it and your partner only gives in to make you happy. Otherwise, no if its mutual. Still, i find it dumb and wouldn't consider it nor get in a relationship if im still trying to get sexual with more than one person

  • Not at all. Everyone is enjoying themselves, and nobody is shamed or made to feel lesser for their desires.

    • Cheers.

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  • Can be either of course. I personally opt out of it. It does nothing for me and I know that the backlash of it makes me feel more distant.

    I do imagine that if I actually cared about threeways I'd see it differently. No issues at all with it if we're not serious. If we are I want whoever is mine to be mine alone.

    I would not call ot degrading, assuming it is a choice of course. But it is a needless thing that usually hurts a relationship.

  • If you need to share, you don't love your partner, because love doesn't ask you for another person. In that case you're either not enough for your partner or your partner is not enough for you. Both things create the lack of exclusiveness and uniqueness a relationship should have; not the sacrifice, but the great pleasure to give yourself only to your beloved one and to nobody else.

    I would never share, because I want a relationship in which we're both 100% for each other. Having a relationship with threesomes and such just means you would never experience the true fulfillment of love.

    • Polygamous relationship, what about that?

    • Round square, what about that? I'll tell you: it doesn't exist, it's an oxymoron, a paradox. Polygamy it's just the way you call it when you haven't discover true love and you still ignorantly think that your beloved can have sex with others and still hug you at nights with the love and respect an actual monogamous relationship has, which is false. Love means that you don't need nor want nothing more, nothing less than your partner.

  • Don't have to read the other comments. If all parties involved aren't in agreement, it's a no go.

  • I've been in an open relationship with my wife for... maybe a decade by now. I honestly don't know how many women we've slept with together. Never was there any sense of shame, and only degradation if one or two people wanted a scene like that for the night.

    Other women I've dated and my wife hasn't been involved with have tried throwing shade, jealousy, and all kinds of crazy getting into an open relationship and thinking really, when I say red I mean blue, and that means I'll leave her for you. The last time was so bad neither of us has really felt like pursuing anyone else for... I guess a little over a year now.

    Anywho, if you feel like it's degrading, then that dynamic just isn't for you. Unless the degradation excites you, and then you're a masochist and really any dynamic that humiliates you will be fantastic.

  • I don't like sharing

  • If both parties are onboard, who is the victim? Have you never had a threesome?

  • I know a lot of people said yes, but I think if you and your partner are on a good level with each other, truly love each other, and you both want to share, then why not. As long as you both understand what is happening and are true to each other.

  • This act has never, ever been of any interest to both my husband and I, and never will be.

    • If I may ask, why?

    • For the very simple reason that I am purely a one man woman, and my husband is solely a one woman man.

  • I view a relationship as the sexual and romantic commitment to one partner. Adding another person would just diminish the point of it and you might as well just be friends with benefits

  • For me yes why would I want someone else having sex with her lol im a greedy lover when it comes to my girl I dont be sharing her

    • My viewpoint differs from yours but the greedy lover comment is so darn cute 💕

    • No thats fully fair enough and I think its great that we can think differently about it because that way we all have the option to get what we want 👍🏽

    • Thank you.

  • That's up to the people involved. I know two couples that others have told me have an open marriage and they seem to be happy. For some people sex is very emotional and they can't handle the idea of their partner with someone else. For others sex is just something fun to do.

  • Yes, it can add fire and drama to the relationship , you won’t value your partner as much anymore knowing they were sexually active with someone else , and sometimes that 3 rd wheel intervenes into the relationship and causes more drama , why it’s best to keep your sex life with just you and your partner

  • Yes it is degrading

    • Elaborate

    • Like why would you share your partner with someone else. Why do people do it , it can look good in porn because we are watching from our mobile screens but if you try it in real life , if gets really awkward and uncomfortable. There is an element of jealousy too. The only people who try threesomes with their partner are those who don't feel anything towards their partner. They just want sexual pleasure at expense of their partner

    • I'm sadly one of those people. Needs come first.

  • I think its more special if its just the two of you! I don't want to share the person I am with !

  • Could be. Takes a lot of discussion and soul searching. My one partner that I shared caused me some concern about losing her to another man. Could always happen, depending on how the relationship was to begin with.

  • It's not only sexually degrading. It's telling your partner they aren't enough. In every way.

    If you need to bring a third person in, you're in real trouble.

  • Unless it was open relationship I dont another male shoving his gentials in my partners vagina.

  • Not degrading but not the best thing for your relationship either. PM me Fri night if you’re considering doing this for real.

  • He will find easier to jump from one to another without even care.

    • Not necessarily

    • If you're sure about it...

  • People not accepting the fact that polyamorous relationships can work for some and shaming anyone who's fine with any kind of non traditional type of relationship is just another example of people hating on something just because they don't understand it.

    • I said polyamorous but this goes for all types of relationships and things like sharing or swapping partners

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