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My boyfriend wants a threesome?

Today my boyfriend asked me while we were in the middle of having sex that he wanted to have a threesome with me and my friend and he kept asking and saying oh you love me don’t you and you want to love me even more and trying to get me to get my friend to have a threesome with us and I just don’t know what to think of it? Like yeah I love him but why does he want a threesome with me and my friend like why doesn’t he just want me it’s getting me wondering if he actually loves me or is just using me now?
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Superb Opinion

  • Weird that he asked you during sex. Maybe he did it because he knew you were horny then, and would give him the response he wanted. Regardless, he should have asked in a manner where you were both calm and not under the influence of other feelings. It's like asking someone to have sex while they're drunk because they know drunk people are more easily convinceable. But this is a decision you have to make. Suggest a MFM threesome and see how he reacts. Throw the ball back at him. Sometimes guys change their mind if they know it has to go both ways for it to be fair. Even if you don't want a MFM, suggest it anyway. Maybe an attractive friend of his. Keep in mind though that threesomes have destroyed relationships in the past. You also have to be super comfortable with yourself and the person you have a threesome with.

    My boyfriend has suggested one too, but kind of brushed off the idea when I said we could do it, on the condition that there was a guy involved as well or we would have a MFM next time.

    But, I know he still thinks about it. I do too. I've just come to realize that I need more time. Because we haven't been together for that long and I need to grow more in our relationship. I have to completely trust him and be confident in myself. I'm not rushing anything. If it happens it happens. But I would have to be drunk I think😂 to ease the pain😂

Most Helpful Girl

  • That doesn't look like love hunny.
    I’ve been used by guy who talks dirty and only sex in his head.
    If he loved you for real then The only THREE he should mention is your child. When you two start a family the only another member in your house.
    The audacity for him to even ask you such a stupid question and use such a beautiful word ‘love’ just for his pleasure does he think your friend is easy to give s** to him.
    He is not the one please walk away before its too late. you dont have to listen to me but please think about it. For me thats a disrespect, if my any of my exs asked me that i would block him once i walk out of him. I made a mistake once loving a guy so much who only talked about sex only to realise he was using me for s** and once hus pleasure was gone, he cheated on me Dont be like me please🙏🏼

Most Helpful Guys

  • If my girl asked for a threesome, I would also wonder if she loved me. A threesome sounds like a bad idea to me, as it breaks the bonds that tend to keep a couple together. That tends to lead to a breakups. So, if you do decide to have a threesome, understand that your relationship probably will take a dramatic turn, and likely will not last. As if, if he keeps pushing for a threesome, it's likely that he is using you.

  • Don't fall for the "if you loved me, you would do this" nonsense. That's his way of guilting you into doing it. He probably wants a threesome for the excitement and he finds your friend hot. This is his way of trying to have sex with her too while remaining with you. He may also be bored with the sex with you. Be very careful with this. This guy is somebody you may want to think twice about remaining with.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • If you're not ok with a threesome, make it clear right away and if he keeps pressuring you, I'd say he isn't with your time.

    • And if you're not ok with a threesome, do not let him pressure you.

  • It doesn't matter what he wants if you live him you'll do what he asks IF YOUR COMFORTABLE WITH IT, if your not and he says those exact words he trying to minimize and manipulate you into things your not comfortable doing, its toxic and predatory behavior that you should not except or excuse in anyway regardless of the situation.

  • Homeboy brought it up in the middle of sex? 😟

  • He is manipulating you by using your "love" to fuck another chick and not be pegged as a cheater

  • Sounds like he just wants to sleep with her

  • So he's basically saying "if you truly love me, prove it by getting your friend to join US in a 3some and let me have sex with her while you watch"

    I would show him the exit door if I were you, I doubt he sincerely loves you because if he did he wouldn't want to put you through what sounds like you would find to be sexually demeaning

  • What do you want? That's a big ask. Saying "you love me don't you" is the BIG RED FLAG of manipulation. If you don't want to do it, say no, sorry, I'm not into that. You'll have to find two other women if it's that important to you.

  • No matter how you feel about a threesome him saying if you loved me you’d do it is the beginning of an abusive relationship.

  • Talk to him. Not strangers on the internet. U could ruin a good relationship over assumptions and assclowns on the internet that have good intentions but have no idea of the circumstances.

  • He just want to fuck other girl (s) too.

  • Relax, he obviously like your friend and figures the quickest way into her pants is via yours.
    Guys like variety in girl bedmates whereas girls prefer single partners. Both desires are driven by genetic programming, not stupid lust - though for girls it may seem that way. If its OK with you and your friend, it could be a fun experience.

  • Sounds manipulative and disrespectful. Tell him to fuck off. Respect yourself more

  • If he pressures you to choose in his favor, then he uses you for sex. If he had just asked you, it would have been much more correct to let you decide and accept your choice of yes or no.
    And the pretext of love for a threesome is really vile to do that.
    I once asked a girlfriend if she would agree with that. She nicely refused me, stating her reasons for jealousy.

  • I wouldn't do a threesome ever. Especially if he's harassing me about it. Especially if he asked DURING sex. no. I should be enough for you. If I'm not, there's the door enjoy your onesome🖕

  • Your young and you have the rest of your life to experiment and to fall in love. Don't let any guy pressure you into anything you're not wanting to do even if you're on the fence about it. There's plenty of time to stop and think about it so you can make your decision not anyone else's decision

  • its alright if he wants a threesome i guess cause its a fantasy of his but i dont fuck with the vibes of him trying to manipulate, if he loved you, he wouldn't put you through that pressure that if you love him you should share him with your friend, sounds more like lust than love to me, homie gotta stop watching porn and wake up cause that shit is flake and shows a pretty fucked up side of him

  • If you like go for it

  • I’m very sex positive, but that’s a pretty manipulative way for him to broach the idea of a threesome with a partner.

  • Bad idea, unless its with a total stranger. He obviously lusts after your friend and this could blow up in your face.

  • He's using you.

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