How can I be sexy?

[Anonymous]

So I have a boyfriend and we’re going to spend Valentine’s Day together so obviously I have to sleep with him that day but I have no idea how to be sexy or how to turn him on. I wanted to dress up sexy and learn a sexy dance for him but I look so fat and stupid in all the outfits I got and I just feel silly trying to dance for him. We’ve never had sex with each other before so I want to make it memorable but I can’t even think of what to do. I’m very much a “it needs to be completely dark when we have sex” type of gal so there’s really no point in a sexy outfit right? Ugh help pls 😭 I just want to make him happy

[ohshee]

There are so many ways i was going to tell you send me a message and i will tell you the best. But the best is for you to be you I don't know how you dress now but you don't have to go wild , and there's may things and way you can go about that to if I new you I could tell you ,, it kinda sounds like this is your first time doing it so do it slow don't start and go from A to Z to get it over with because your not sure of yourself there is a way to do that to if you make it fun and have fun then he will love it

[pyrojester009]

OK. So you're concerned that you look too fat in your clothes, you want the lights off, and you're afraid you won't turn him of. Take all that and throw it into a fire. It's clear to me your looks aren't an issue to me. You're going to be spending the night together, so that's that. Lights off is plenty common. After a while the lights can stay on, but it's cool if they're off. As far as turning him on... If he's a guy, which I assume he is, then that'll take care of itself.

Understand that it's not necessary to go out of your way to "make it memorable." If you try too hard, it'll be forgotten. Be yourself. Try on your different outfits for him. Let him choose which one he likes. They aren't going to be on very long anyway. Sexual contact is much more about, well, the contact. You don't need to see to have sex. Let the rest of your senses do their thing. You'll have a much better experience if you let it happen and not force it.

[Anonymous]

Wear a sexy material, do you own a pair of leather pants?

[LuvMyLife1380]

Do you know for sure if he is into sexy?

[Asker]

I think so? I honestly don’t know he doesn’t really give me much info when I ask about that stuff

[LuvMyLife1380]

Is there any particular type of clothes you wear that seems to get his attention more than others?

[Asker]

Im not sure tbh we hardly see each other so I don’t really have much to go off of. I think I’ll try to ask him sometime!

[LuvMyLife1380]

That would be a good idea i think. It would be devastating if you spent a bunch of time and money to look as sexy as possible, only to find out he likes cute, better than sexy Trust me, I've been there and have lived it for 15 years. I went with the sexy look when we first started dating and got no reaction from him at all. I started wearing less and less every time I saw him until he finally asked me to put more clothes on one time before we left my house to go out. I thought for sure it was me. I wanted to die thinking I was ugly and disgusting for a couple of months. Then that December we were going to an outdoor Christmas attraction. In an amusement park. It was really cold, so I wore jeans, a warm shirt of some kind, and a big, loose fitting knit sweater. Immediately I picked up the fact that he seemed different. Then I went and got a pair of really big, warm slouchy socks to wear, and that was the moment I realized what he liked. That was actually the first time he told me he loved me and he couldn't keep his hands off of me the whole time we were out. To this day, it's big soft socks, big soft sweaters, jeans or leggings that he is most turned on by.

[Hogwheels]

You don't NEED to sleep with him and if him staying with you is contingent upon you sleeping with him, then he'd not worth you. But, if you want to sleep with him, you should ask him what his turn ons are. He'll be happy to inform you.

[Asker]

I asked him but he just said “everything” and “sex” so that just doesn’t help at all lol

[Hogwheels]

Well, it means you can't go wrong if everything turns him on. Try incorporating your own kinks. Get and use what you would want him to get and use if he was setting this up for you.

[marvingayer]

Okay so
Communication is key.
Remember to always make sure your partner is comfortable.
If your both okay with it experimenting isn't a bad thing.
Just be yourself.
If both parties are 420 friendly a joint doesn't hurt either (typically indica is best for anxiety)

[Asker]

I don’t see how people smoke that stuff lol it makes me paranoid and panic def not for me plus ya girl Has asthma 😂😂but thank you

[marvingayer]

That's fair, I hope I helped at least😅

[Inexpensivefurniture]

I just wanna say, please don't feel like you HAVE to have sex with him on Valentine's Day, especially not when it would be your first time together. Only do it if it's something you really want

[Asker]

I honestly don’t want to have sex with him but I can’t just tell him that I don’t want to risk messing up a good relationship ya know?

[Inexpensivefurniture]

Is it a good relationship if you can't say no to sex when you dont want to have it? Honestly, I've had sex with a partner when I didn't want to several times, and that will seriously mess up a relationship so much more than just saying no. If he really cares about you, he won't want to have sex with when you aren't enjoying it.

[ChrisMike1919]

Hog knows what he says

[chriscdi]

shit I don't know what to tell you

[Twalli]

You aren't required to gave aex with him under any circumstance.

[barn_stormer]

just get naked lol

[GAGSucksBalls1]

you can't

[CubaPirate]

Firstly you don't have to sleep with him unless you really want to. Secondly just relax and do what comes naturally

[smilingstar123]

Do you want be sexy i will teach you message me ok i will teach you

[FatherOf3]

One way to help would be to turn on some of his favorite porn to help ease the awkwardness of a first time. It‘ll also help keep him focused on sex and not distracted with any ‚first time jitters‘

[Anonymous]

How long have you and him been together?