My female partner cums too quickly. What advice do you have to make sure WOMEN last longer in bed?

[Apope16]

Everyone talks about guys cuming too quickly. But nobody talks about WOMEN cuming too quickly.

Any advice for women to last longer in bed?

Example: When she rides on top she cums within minutes and I feel kind of left out. What's worse is she cums hard and gets sleepy.

[centerline]

mostly, your a lucky man, but it depends... some women like to keep going after their orgasm, because they can have more orgasms, about 3-5 minutes apart...
if she gets sleepy after her first orgasm, go to bed earlier or have sex before dinner. once she finds out if she can have multiple orgasms, she won't be getting sleepy until a bit later

And then, other girls, when their orgasm hits, they're DONE. if your girl is one of these types of women, then its tough, but you can eventually notice the signs, and find a way to back off when she's about there, so as to prolong the session...

[MrNameless]

I think you just have to try another position that doesn't make her cum as fast. You gotta compromise and find that sweet spot. Maybe missionary?

[MrNameless]

she has control when she is in cowgirl, especially with how the clitoris hits your pubic bone and what not

[Apope16]

Aa soon as she gets on top of me and rides she cums within 3 minutes or less

[flamiE]

I’m sure there’re many women who wish they had that problem lol but well just start off with positions that don’t set her on fire, like missionary? And then proceed with the hotter stuff when you’re really about to finish. That way y’all could maybe even come together?

[Apope16]

Her favorite position is cowgirl and that is how she cums. I cum missionary position. I dont know. I have slept with like a dozen women. I haven't incountered this before. I have spent my entire life trying to edge myself and last longer. Now I have to try to cum in 5 minutes. With a condom on I simply can't do that.

[flamiE]

Yeah I’ve never heard of a woman having that issue, it’s definitely weird but hey if she wasn’t like that in the beginning it means she’s comfortable with you and you’re doing a great job so look at it that way. I’d just do whatever position the towards the end would go for missionary to help me get there but not quite and then get her on top of me to finish me off and she can come too. Or after she’s done let her lie down and you do most of the work or is she like dead and that’s not an option? I would never understand how women are okay with 5 mins 😅 although I can definitely come in like 3 mins if I’m grinding on him but I can control it, is she trying to control herself at all or?

[Apope16]

No. she's not trying to hold back. Usually we kiss then laugh and say, "Do you want to cum first or should I?" Then we decide who orgasms first. Its usually her. Then I go second because I take longer. Last time we had sex was my first time without a condom with her. She was on top and we orgasmd together at the same time. Then we both kept going for multiple orgasms. But with a condom it takes 30 minutes for me to cum usually. 🤷🏾‍♂️

[flamiE]

That kinda sucks. Have you tried communicating all that with her, that you feel left out etc so maybe she can start trying to hold back? It’s not that hard lol and if y’all just laugh about it she might not even realise that’s an issue for you. If you’re both planning on keep having it without a condom then that’d sort of resolve the issue wouldn’t it? Since it takes you less time to get there? Or maybe you want it to last longer? Depends what the goal is. And that’s weird how does she have multiple orgasms if she gets sleepy after the first one?

[Apope16]

Last time we had sex was the first time she came multiple times with me. She is shy about telling me what she wants of likes. I feel i just need to plow away and have less romantic sex to cum sooner.

[flamiE]

Ah she’s getting more comfortable with you. That could mean she would come even faster the more relaxed she gets. And come now no one is that shy, try and talk to her. Maybe while watching a movie and some sex scene comes up tell her it’d be nice to try that. Ask her for her opinion. And take it from there, nice and slow, and analyse her behaviour and see what makes her uncomfortable exactly. I promise most women won’t tell you riggt off the bat but if you take it slowly and eventually get to the question they’re way more willing to talk. Make sure to mention what turns you on about her etc so she’s calm and hopefully she’ll reciprocate and be talkative about her sexual desires too.

[Apope16]

I talked to her today. She said she knows i like a lot of foreplay and to go slower. She said she will work on enjoying foreplay instead of just intercourse. Then she rode me for a quickie, orgasmed twice on top of me, then let me switch to missionary to cum. So i did. But sge had a meeting so I wasn't offended by a quickie 🤷🏾‍♂️

[flamiE]

Yeah a good conversation is all it takes. Let’s hope now with compromises from both sides things will be better. See, her not needing foreplay comes in handy sometimes lol although it’s pretty weird who doesn’t like foreplay 🤷🏻‍♀️

[Apope16]

Thanks for your help! Yes, I guess I learned today how to orgasm quickly. Im not used to that. So i feel a lot of pressure. You know? Other positions she doesn't cum quick or at all. So i guesss she's not faking it. Its just when she gets on top and rides she is cumming in 3 minutes or less. Even multiple orgasms too. So its an adjustment for sure. I've had sex with like 12 women and they all took 3xs or 4xs longer. I've had sex 5 hours before with multiple orgasms. 🤷🏾‍♂️🤔🧐

[flamiE]

My pleasure! Haha well I’m a woman what would I know about feeling pressured to come quicker lol 🤷🏻‍♀️ yeah we all got that one position that always works but generally women need the build up. But well we are different that’s why communication is key.

[Gwenhwyfar]

Nothing wrong with that she enjoyed herself

[Gwenhwyfar]

Thank you 😊. Did she finish you with her mouth?

[AustinMan]

She can cum over and over. When she's done, yank her into doggy and fuck her until you get yours. Count your blessings.

[Smurphanie]

Sounds like you should possibly spend more time in other positions and save the position or positions that gets her off best for last (at the end.)

[Hogwheels]

Have her show attention to your penis in other ways before moving over to penetration. That's usually how men compensate when women take longer to orgasm, they start with cunnilingus or fingering to get her close so they can have sex and enjoy it at about the same pace.

[Am_and_Pm]

Dude the sloppier the better, freaken spit on it if I have to.

I believe what u need is spice. There some form of lube or an oil? I think u can find it if u work on it.

[Puppystarfish23]

Honestly don't see the issue. Most women can have multiple orgasms and can keep going afterwards. If she's cuming quick your obviously doing something right

[Apope16]

She cums multiple times but she also cums hard and gets sleepy.

[Puppystarfish23]

Ohh I see. Yeah me and my boyfriend have that issue too. Its not uncommon so don't worry. My advice would maybe have more foreplay especially on your side. If I help my boyfriend out in that area before sex he usually cums quicker which is a issue for us so we avoid it but in your case it may help..

[Tamera952]

That SO unusual, I've never heard of such a thing in all my life. That almost never is the case.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

I had seen a documentary where a touch of guy sends shivers and orgasams happens immediately but it was rare diaability I guess, and it could kill the girl and she was so weak

[psychoticanimallover]

Every couple of seconds just punch her in the face. That’ll throw her off her game a bit.

[TeeBar]

You are actually complaining because she cums?
Stimulate yourself before sex with her so you are partway along. Keep experimenting until you get the timing right. Also, there are desensitizing creams that should slow her down. Besides, sleepy bonking has its benefits. Otherwise, when she is sleepy, pretend that you're back in high school and that you've succeeded in getting her drunk and now your going to get a free f*ck !

[andreasderjuengere]

Keep going, and let her sleep meanwhile :D
(in good consent, of course)
I see no problems here.
When she wakes up, you can tell her what she missed.

[pigoat]

Most women can cum multiple times

Shouldn't be a problem unless she is the rare cum one time and cum too quickly type

[pigoat]

Not sexually compatible huh Oh well sex isn't everything I know you won't break with her over that I would

[broken_heart_at_48]

That her just being selfish and kind of a prude or something cause I have never been with a woman that I haven't made cum at least twice plus all she's got to do is change positions and have you take over. She might be broken. I mean who doesn't want to cum more than once. Yes I realize woman don't always cum when they orgasm you get what I'm saying

[mellowed0uttt]

have her stay hydrated and for the sleepiness eat or drink something that is a natural stimulant like coffee, Peppermint or Cinnamon that might help some. When humans orgasm they release dopamine which makes you sleepy so you want to counteract that a bit. As for the stamina thing try keying in on when she starts to get too exited then just diel it down a notch and than continue that. I'm no sexpert but I hope this helps.

[AbsolutePeppar]

Premature orgasm is not just a male problem. Those who have tried it, explain how to overcome it with masturbation and dialogue with the partner.

Although premature orgasm is a problem most associated with men, a 2011 study published in Sexologies involved 510 Portuguese women between the ages of 18 and 45, most of whom reported coming faster than as desired at least once. More than 3 percent of respondents had this experience so often that they met all the criteria that define premature female orgasm: orgasm reached often or always faster than desired, lack of control of the same and tensions and problems in the relationship, therefore. Additionally, the University of Chicago's 2005 National Health and Social Life Survey found that 10 percent of women claims to orgasm too quickly. Another 2016 study in the Journal of Adolescent Health reported that 3.9 percent of women between the ages of 15 and 21 would have experienced early orgasm problems in the previous year. Click here to view more

[masonova1]

I have some bad news, bro...

[Trooper205]

Just like Men, it can happen to Women, and the fix is very similar!

Take it easy on the stimulation. That's all that You need!

Use "build-up" maneuvers, but make sure they hold off. "Edging"!

[awanti95]

Say to her don't constrate on herself during sex

[Dweezil]

How is that a bad thing?

[bclbn77006]

it doesn't make sense.
she is capable of have sex even after cuming.
but it is not true for boys because they lost their energy once the cum.
so, boys fast cumming is an issue throughoout the world.

[Anonymous]

You need to cum quicker. How long are you fucking her for?

A lot of guys get fixated on lasting for ages but we’re actually built for fast sex, not multiple hour marathons. We could cum in a few minutes if we wanted, a healthy man could anyway.

We last longer for the woman’s benefit. If you’re lasting for so long that she’s had multiple orgasms and you haven’t cum yet, you’ve gone too long.

[Anonymous]

In other posts, you have claimed to be quite the ladies' man. Leon The Ladies' Man shouldn't need to ask for advice on a site like this.