Should I be having more sex?

[Anonymous]

I’m a 23 year old male, I’ve always known that I’m not the best looking, and I’ve learned to accept and to live with it.
I have only slept with 7 women lever since I lost my virginity.

I feel as though that is an incredibly low number, given times we’re in, where casual sex is extremely easy to access for some people.

I was wondering if you people thought seven people was an acceptable number or should I be having sex with more women, and if that’s the case, do you have any tips on how I can make myself more appealing?

[TeeBar]

You are still young so 7 partners is a respectable total. What really counts is the length of time each relationship lasted. If they were all brief affairs then something needs repairing with your personality, how you use the English language, how you behave before, during, and after sex... for a start. If you are still on good terms with any of the 7 girls, just ask them how you could have improved your approach and behaviour with them. State that you believe that females should receive the best treatment from males and you want to be among that group. I am sure that you will get a positive response.

[Asker]

I was in a commuted relationship with only of them, the other were just quick hook ups nothing serious, I’m not on bad terms with them, but we just have gone out separate ways

[loooooop]

Why does the number of women you have sex with matter so much to you?

[Asker]

Cause nowadays society champions sexual liberation, and people are encouraged to have as much sex as they crave, especially with women who are now fighting back against slut shaming, now women want to have as much sex as they want without being called sluts, which admirable and I am all for it, I just feel as though all my friends are getting laid often while I’m the ugly duckling

[loooooop]

I see no benefit in artificially increasing your numbers. Just let it happen naturally. A sexually liberated girl wouldn't care how many people you've slept with and it doesn't matter either way.

[Asker]

I think it boost my own self confidence, know long that I’m Able to attract different types of girls, and that women trust me enough to Share something intimate with me

[loooooop]

Just 1 is enough for that

[Gurdy2816]

The number of sexual partners you have means absolutely nothing. How long did you have a relationship with these women? You must take that into account. And at the end of the day, the number of partners you have means nothing compared to society's standards. If you wanna get nasty with more girls go with it, if you don't want to don't feel pressured by a dumb number then just have sex with that one lady that you are absolutely obsessed with. It's up to you and what you want (with the consent of course haha)

[Asker]

I get what you’re saying, out of all those women I’ve only ever been in a relationship wine of them, I would like to sleep with more women, it’s just I struggle to attract them, then I see my friends who have no problem pulling girls

[Gurdy2816]

If you're tryna go for that one-night stand life you need to be cool and collected. I think it's the same for both men and women and everything in between when I say that it is SO IMPORTANT to be chill. You don't want to make it awkward, save that for a relationship (by that I mean the cute awkward pre-relationship flirting). Just be clear about your intentions and make sure the environment/ vibe of the interaction is light. All I'm saying is never try too hard. You're gonna hit and you're gonna miss and that's just part of the game. Just keep moving along and don't let it get to you. Remember everyone has different types and that's ok.

[Asker]

I appreciate your advice, but can I ask how do you go from someone you met at a bar and Keep the environment/vibe if the Intrraction light to then inviting them Back to yours, it seem to be an equation I can’t solve, it feels like I’m missing a key part of the problem

[Gurdy2816]

If you had to describe yourself and your approach to flirting how would you describe it? (be honest)

[Asker]

That’s a good question, and honestly I don’t know, I look to see if they’re doing something, and start talking to them about that, maybe offer an interesting fact, but one thing I’ll say is this, I really struggle with eye contact, like I wouldn’t be able to look into someone’s eyes for more than 2 seconds, I try to smile a lot.

[Gurdy2816]

Ok well if a one-night stand is what you're going for you need to be confident (even if you're not). You need to look in her eyes and be genuine. You should always be yourself but it is so important to be SURE of yourself in these situations. 70% of communication is body language. That means you can say the absolute bare minimum as long as you are holding meaningful eye contact, maybe touching her arm or back (only if she is into that, that's important. If you are getting any "stop taking to me" vibes just stop taking), having good posture. Sometimes you gotta fake it until you make it. I used to struggle with eye contact too, just make it a game where whoever looks away first loses

[Asker]

Thanks for the advice, I appreciate it, tho can I ask this, how does casual chit chat turn to a one night stand, like where does the change happen how can I make her want to come home With me say everything went great, when do I make the suggestion, and how do I make the suggestion?

[Ninani]

Don't overthink it, your number of sexual partners doesn't matter as much as your overall experience and attention to your partners' needs. It is far more important to be true to yourself than live up to some societal standard.

[Asker]

I appreciate it

[awanti95]

7 are enough

[Asker]

I just feel as though my mates are lot more successful than me

[awanti95]

It wanna more

[Asker]

Sorry?

[Anonymous]

It just irriates me that people actually think about this stuff and actually finds it even relevant enough to talk about it.

[Asker]

The fact that you took time out of your day to reply to this says a lot, if something or someone irritates me I just ignore them. You could have seen this post and just kept scrolling if it irritated you that much

[Opinion Owner]

It takes little effort to do either of those things, sir. There's no harm in stating my opinion about your question. Don't worry, I'm not so emotionally invested that I'll have a drawn out argument with you. I just state my opinions and call it day. Carry on with your day sir, best of luck to you.

[Asker]

See how easy it was?

[Opinion Owner]

🤦..

[Anonymous]

7 is more than enough for a guy of your age.

[Asker]

Maybe it’s just that most of my friends are in the 40s, and I see how girls look their way when we’re out, I just feel like the ugly duckling, which makes me wander If I should be doing better