Do do you think threesomes will ruin a relationship?

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MrOracle · Accepted Answer

In most cases, I suspect that they do - I've certainly known plenty of them where it has. But there are also exceptions to the rule - they're just rare.

I dated a girl who I knew was bisexual, and she made it clear that romantically, she was only attracted to men and only wanted relationships with men, but that sexually, she was also attracted to women. And it was she who eventually brought up the idea of a threesome with me. But unlike most guys, I didn't eagerly accept - rather, I asked her if she'd thought it through, and we eventually talked it through for nearly 4 months, talking about every likely possibility and how we'd handle it, etc. Having talked it all out, I finally agreed, and afterwards, she agreed that if we hadn't taken all that time and made all that effort to work out the possibilities, it probably would have gone bad, but because we had, we had no problems with it.

Besides talking through everything, it was also important that SHE wanted to do it as much or more than I did - if you have a partner that really isn't into it, you're going to have a problem. The second is: you have to be able to be completely open with the "third", and make any rules or limitations crystal clear to them before anything happens.

Yes, this is a lot of work, and takes a lot of time, but the stakes are MUCH different than if you're single and having a casual sex threesome with people you don't have feelings for, and if you don't understand that up-front and do the work, chances are, your relationship won't survive.

sadMeester · Accepted Answer

Yes. It changes the dynamic and at least one of you will be jealous, even if it's an ffm the guy might worry she'll want another guy because he had another woman.

ragequeen · Accepted Answer

If the relationship is relatively new and fresh, and neither of you is experiencing sexual issues, I don`t understand why people dive into threesomes and inviting other people into their sex lives. For me, I would feel better if we both explored each other first, and felt comfortable that it was only the two of us for a good long while. That builds trust, love, and safety. Once you both know that you truly love each other, and the sex could be improved a little, that`s (in my opinion) the best time to suggest a threesome. Suggesting a threesome early in the relationship when everything is good, just makes me think I`m not good enough. If it`s just a fantasy and not a must, keep them to yourself until you feel like you seriously want to apply something like that to your sex life.

lilyanony1 · Accepted Answer

Yes. Most people aren't prepared for what comes when you do something like that, mentally emotionally and physically. Personally I think it's only people that don't think about being long term or are already sexually deviant that can get on.

Each to their own. But it's not for the faint of heart.

Little_Bumblebee · Answer

I think it can. But for some it strengthens. I think it basically depends on the type of relationship and the people. If one isn't that much into it, then seriously don't do it.

MissDawn7961 · Answer

yes for no 1 needs more then a woman with 2 breasts and 1 sex organ or a man with 1 sex organ ! how does God feel about a 3 some , sense God created man and woman to B gin with ! thanks

SavySav · Answer

Talk about it first. Because it shouldn't I feel like if both sides agree

CriticalDiscourse · Answer

I have first hand watched it destroy a marriage.

Paige90 · Answer

Maybe to some people but with the guy I am dating it is a HUGE turn-on for both of us. We enjoy MFM and FFM.

Bethr · Answer

I feel like it would ruin it. My ex kept trying to push one on me after I said I wasn't comfortable. He even took it upon himself to find a girl and pick a date. When he told me I just didn't go and he broke up with me after I explained to him the reason I didn't go was because I felt so uncomfortable with it. I'm the jealous type. Seeing my man fuck another woman doesn't settle well with me

Shdzi211 · Answer

Yes I think it would

KatherineJ · Answer

I think they would.

TerminallyChill · Answer

If somebody is insecure, then of course there is a possibility. If not, then no.

Trooper205 · Answer

I think it's very probable. When it's more than Two individuals, I'm certain the question arises on who loves whom more.

Geezyweezy65 · Answer

Depends how attractive and attached the third person is. More trouble if the female is more much bubbley or fitter than the wife.

Twalli · Answer

Not unequivocally, they can though.

Whtevernever · Answer

It can and often does.

In_Trance · Answer

Depends on the relationship

Waldoe · Answer

if you are both interested, it is not going to ruin anything

sarahcreep · Answer

sometimes

Anonymous · Answer

We tried a FMF and that just wasn't for me, and I got really jealous when he was fucking her. But then we tried a MFM, and he was OK with it, and things are great between us.

Anonymous · Answer

It did in my case. I've only had one threesome, a FFM, and it was the idea of my girlfriend and her friend. Afterward my girlfriend could not get past the image in her mind of me fucking her friend and it ended up destroying our relationship, and her friendship with the other girl.

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah, most likely will.

Anonymous · Answer

It depends on how things are between everyone involved.

I've only done it twice. Both times with people I knew well, and we talked about everything beforehand, so we knew what we were getting into. Didn't cause any problems.

It's all about communication, really.

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