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How do I tell my wife she's boring in bed and in life?

she's not kinky like me
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  • First of all... even I told this another guy a few days ago

    Simple said... woman is a feeling/thinking being like you

    So if you can't talk yourself into something you just not like (pegging as example)... than she can't do it either...

    Plus, being kink means that you already filtered out what you dont like... Probably through porn (like most males)
    But most woman never thought about porn as exploring their own sexuality, because woman assume that porn just means they get fucked in a few minutes (which is true in most cases), without any gestic for her to get... I dont wnna say wet because there is a difference between being wet and need a D to suck right NOW... which isn't impossible

    But, thats different than just fucking
    Key rule is simple... if you fuck her once, she needs to cum twice (minimum, not maximum)

    Which means you need to do your fucking job as the one with the Dick... being THE MAN comes with responsibility to proof that you are THE MAN

    I understand that with age it harder to accomplish because women who didn't explore their sexuality in young years tend to stay that way


    There are a few simple things you can do which I did a few times which worked partly

    Go to a popular porn site, copy all categories and put them on a spreadsheet.
    Print it twice
    Make a few symbols for yes, maybe yes, clear no... and most important "I dont know what that is"

    2nd part below

    • The paper makes it more educational than talking, the symbols make it lesser awkward ... its not wrong to tell her that you just copied the list from a porn site category list, because it shows that you clearly make efford for you both to make that fun for both of you with your sexlife A good opening sentence is "honey, I realized that our sexlife isn't that fun for both of us anymore, but I would like to change that and sit down with you for an sexual educational session without any actual sex" Yes you need to stick to that... Then you both make the symbols both after you read it sitting next to each other... But, for the educational reason you need to lie to her with the symbols, because, if you write down your list with just yes/no she would be stand alone as someone who doesn't know, which gets marked as "no" automatic To prevent that case, you take some categories you actual know you like, but she doesn't know that you do, as maybe yes and I dont know... its important that you official dont know some things, also a few you dont like because you official dont know it Then you need to put yourself a step down and offer her to read yours first with the words "caused by my advantage through porn consumption (maybe in younger years adding helps*), if you want, you can read mine first and maybe change something" while you already handing her yours...

    • That clarify that you want her to get to the same lvl as you, equal on a sexual knowledge base *woman dont know how much porn men actual consume, real amount would shock every woman out of her shoes... Then start with the "I dont know" marked ones and take a laptop to the couch and open your browser. Before actual searching, ask her if you should start with her list or with yours... then just say we flip after each one because it is for us both... First step goes to Wikipedia, just open a tab for you and one for her... Bit boring but also for you educational Then you will reach categories where wiki doesn't explain it understandable or not possible to imagine... just tell her (perfect acted) that you dont understand that fully... again showing its not bad to dont understand... Ask if she minds if you both switch to a porn site still for the educational reason Under any circumstances, dont take off anything you wear, not even your shoes... no touching included Yes you will watch porn with your wife and can't fuck her, cruel world Because your most important task is to see if she is into something she sees or not,

    • or highly possible she dont know, and last but not least if she likes something but thinks that its wrong to do (from her education and other factors with influence) Stop the session after 60-90 minutes And do something boring after, where she can join you if she wants to (watching tv or washing clothes) to give her time and bit space to think about what she learned about you both and sexual possibilities Still, dont engage sex... bit funny that I feel to clarify that more than once If she tries to talk about it, talk with her about it still as educational reason... not for yours, you already know too much porn Count for multiple sessions with a few days break. In the end you both know what she is into and you can have sex on a sexual equal level with a high chance to have fun together in bed I hope that helps you, good luck

Most Helpful Guy

  • You don't know that she's boring. You just know that you aren't satisfied. As for the kink, you should have discussed this BEFORE you married her. Now you can decide what you are going to do -- stay in the marriage with the boring sex, leave the marriage and hope to find sexual compatibility with someone else, talk to her about having an open marriage. If you have children with her the ethical thing might be to stay together until the children are grown or nearly so.

    If you do leave, be sure that you don't make the same mistake with another woman. Before you have sex, find out if she's into whatever it is you can't live without.

Most Helpful Girls

  • Why can't you just talk about your fantasies openly with her? But if you really want to be dominated then maybe you should be open to guys

    • I have but nothing happens

    • As a girl, I would be turned off if a guy asked me to be a dominate in bed because that's his role but that's just me!

    • I know but it gets boring when I have to always be the dom

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  • Aw, Tim. Does she not like being choked and dry fucked in the ass?

    You should leave her, Timothy, she sounds a selfish one.

    • Best roast 2021 so far...

    • @DamnSam yawns

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • Don't tell her she's boring, just ask her if she'd be willing to try the things you're interested in. If she says no, respect that.

  • How do you two communicate?

    • pretty good just not as good in bed

    • You do realize that those should coincide lol 😉

    • haha

  • You wanting a divorce?

  • Tell her staight

    • I do sometimes but she acts like it never happened

  • She's got to feel safe enough to open up more and relax about broader sexual activities.
    The safer she feels the more she'll open up. This starts OUTSIDE OF THE BEDROOM!
    I'm not judging, I don't know enough, but that's been the key for me, when the girl felt safe and protected and no shame... that's when she'd open up about things in her past or kinky thoughts that she'd never said out loud before in her life. It's a deep level heart issue. Her sexuality is past the heart and deeper trust doors.
    Be patient, let her know that HER pleasure is your priority... PATIENT... and she'll open up. If you rush this you'll never achieve your goals.
    Your goal is mutually satisfying sex. You know what you want. Do you know what she wants?
    I'd venture to say that "nope."
    See what she wants, please her first, genuinely. Don't just check the block. She'll sense that and her trust won't grow. She'll never get to being in that safe place.
    Good luck.

  • All women are like that

  • You don't. Try to make things more exciting for HER! Ask her what are her fantasies then fulfill them

  • Offer a few little positions, no to that creme and see if she enjoys it.

    Also she could be stressed with life and had a low libido. Check on her

  • Just make her kinky. You are a man. Just tell her what to do. Don't say "Honey can we maybe think about me cumming on your face? If you don't mind." She is going to have a fucking dry sandpaper pussy from a request like that.

    You should just tell her she is a dirty fucking slut and sluts like big loads in their face. If she says no, tell her you are going to flip her over and spank her ass till she says yes. This will turn her on. Shit like this is what girls fantasize about.

    So if your wife is boring in bed, its basically your fault dude.

  • you want to stay married? STFU... lead her slowly and gently into a more exciting sex life...

    • how I want too

    • just talk to her and be honest about your curiosity let her know that you will not do anything she isn't into, you may be surprised

  • she will feel bad.
    you rather tell her, how to bbe kinky in bed.

  • Maybe she doesn’t find you attractive anymore

    • lol im fucking sexy

    • Doesn’t mean she is attracted to you. Attraction is subjective.

    • bitch please

  • What is it that you want her to do?

    • kinky stuff more of it

    • That's kind of a broad area. Nothing specific?

    • I want her to dom me sometimes be open sexualy

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  • don't tell her she is boring, tell her you want to try some new things in your sex life
    also start small like try some new interesting condoms then level it up and try talking dirty or romantic while having sex then try some new positions then try anal then a but plug then BDSM and so on

  • Why did you marry her if you knew that already

    • she changed

    • For the worst I'd say

    • yes yawns

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