My boyfriend is 8 months refuses to cum inside me despite me having birth control and/or a plan b?

[Anonymous]

Ok so I’ve been exclusively dating my boyfriend for 8 months. He’s a really nice guy he loves me and all. We live together now and we have average sex maybe like 2-3x a week. 4-5 on a good week lol. But ever since we started having sex since the very first day he refuses to cum inside me. He says I’m talking crazy because im not on birth control but i religiously track my ovulation and I only ever ask him to when my fertility is at 3%. I’ve tracked my ovulation for years and I know my body super well but I understand his concern. I’m always willing you have a plan b on the side (I’ve done it before) and he still won’t do it. It mostly bothers me because every single time we have sex like everyyyyy time he pleases me multiple times then when it’s his turn he pulls out, lays down, and I have to give him a BJ for like 5 minutes then he jacks off for like 15 minutes and I have to dirty talk. At this point I’m so annoyed. I’m out of things to say. My neck gets tired. Like idc that he doesn’t wanna cum inside me it’s that annoying process of making him cum that I cannot stand. I’ve expressed this to him and he just brushes it off doesn’t take it seriously and says that he will one day. But a small part of it makes me feel like he thinks my pussy isn’t good enough and I know it is I’m young 24 fit hot I’m just so beyond confused? I even offered to get on birth control and he says he still won’t. He had a a kid at 19 and said his BM was on birth control but she was 19 too she was most definitely irresponsible about it. I have assured him over and over that I do not want any kids I for sureeeeee do not want kids at the moment. So why doesn’t he cum inside me wtf is his problem. Is my pussy not good enough? Does he have mental issues? How do I fix this? Last time we had sex I came and told him cum inside me (I was 3%) or he can just not him and he literally chose not to cum. I’m so confused. I love him he’s everything a good man should be but the sex is offputting!

[Changiis07]

Well it just sounds like he is being careful and does not want kids at the moment. He is being smart and if he pleases you and you please him then it shouldn't bother you too much! I mean he is with you for other reasons not just sex I hope. So maybe don't think so much about it and enjoy it other than shaming him. If your neck hurts try other things...

[Asker]

I’m happy he pleases me but this is starting to seem more like routine sex. If I’m willing to go on birth control and he still isn’t open to other things. There isn’t another way of please him I’ve asked and I’ve tried so the neck pain will forever be there.

[Dinklex3]

That's just something that he's not comfortable with. You can either accept his boundaries or see if it's time to break it off if it's a deal breaker.

[Twalli]

He might not be able to cum with any vagina, at least not before he is ready to have another kid. It might by a psychological issue. So he can't cum with your pusdy, but it is true with any girl and the only reason why it is currently your pussy is because he's dating you right now.

[Asker]

*sigh*

[summiter]

I think having a kid at 19 scared the hell out of him and he does not want another kid. The pull out method does not work as precum can get you pregnant. Why not go on birth control pills or better yet get an IUD.

Would he wear a condom?

[Asker]

He’s 35 his daughter is 13 now. Yeah I offered to get an IUD he still said he wouldn’t cum inside me. He said he hates condoms and that he doesn’t know how to pull out.

[TheGuyWhoKnowsStuff]

He doesn't trust you.

[Avicenna]

I’d drop the subject for now since he seems adamant

[Asker]

I drop it but I bring it up every now and then. I’m really trying to be a good faithful woman but this is making me feel some type of way. I’m thinking about 5 years from now, like it’s gonna be 5 years of that. And what about when we have kids what’s it gonna be? I feel like he’s gonna freeze and won’t be able to. I’m just so confused.

[Gwenhwyfar]

That sounds really annoying. How about in your mouth? Or on your boobs?

[Asker]

Yeah but it’s the same thing I have to bj for like 5-10 min then dirty talk for 5-10 min then he’ll usually choose to cum in my mouth cuz it’s the easiest since I’m already there or if he’s feel it creative he’ll say he’s about to cum and get up and aim where he pleases

[Gwenhwyfar]

That sounds really boring. I don’t blame you for being pissed.

[Asker]

I just wish we can have normal sex!!! Like just cum inside me save me the misery this time around. I’m so easy. He is soooo difficult.

[Gwenhwyfar]

I feel for you. Feels nice when he cums inside.

[bowenw]

Has he considered getting a vasectomy so he doesn't have to worry about it?

[Asker]

I don’t think he wants one yet 😂 but I’ll def ask

[bowenw]

It would solve a lot of problems.

[jahaims]

Let him cum in your ass or give better head

[Asker]

I give great head he said he can’t cum with just head only. Doesn’t wanna try anal. And the point of this question is why he doesn’t cum inside me.

[jahaims]

Obviously because he doesn't want to get you pregnant

[Asker]

Ok but what if I had an IUD. He says he still wouldn’t. That’s like a 000.1% chance

[jahaims]

That is still a chance. I get him not risking it. Bringing a human into existence isn't something to take lightly.

[Asker]

Omg it’s like one in a million + 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

[chHaynes]

Sounds like he's just being extra careful but maybe he's afraid that you'll get pregnant

[Asker]

But if I can 99.999 % guarantee I won’t get pregnant? And I’ve overly expressed I don’t want kids either

[Valnac]

Since he got someone pregnant, he’s gun-shy.
Some girls trap guys by getting pregnant.
If you went on birth control he might change his mind.

[Asker]

We talked about it he said he still wouldn’t if I got on birth control

[Valnac]

Maybe you should get a new boyfriend, one that’s more of a man.

[CubaPirate]

WTF is wrong with him

[Asker]

? So confused

[Abdulwahh]

If i was him i would gladly cum in you

[Anonymous]

I assume your boyfriend ejaculating in your vagina is an important deal breaker for you. It certainly bonds a couple together. If you don't mind period sex, you can start there. If he can see you're bleeding, it will be obvious you can't get pregnant no matter how much semen gets in your vagina. If you have the money, there are devices that track ovulation that you can show him to give him more confidence in ejaculating in your vagina.