My boyfriend never touched my vagina?

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Hey. So, as the title says, my boyfriend never touches my vagina. I'll try to make it short as possible: he doesn't look at it, he doesn't touch it, he doesn't go down at me, (while I do all these things for him).
Nothing.
He just seems disinterested. He only ever touched it, when he puts his penis inside.
I have told him this, and the fact that he never even made me orgasm, and his response was: well, you never told me you want me to touch you, or go down at you. He in fact, thought I had orgasm every time after sex, just like that. (?)
And, even though I told him all that, he continued same thing. Nothing changed.
I never asked him to do it, but hey, he never even looked at my vagina, let alone touched it, it makes my confidence go extremely low, thinking it somehow has something to do with me.
So obviously, that conversation was pointless.
What should I do now?
Should I leave him? I already told him it bothers me, but he just continued. I feel used, like a sex toy when I fulfill all his wishes, yet he acts like my genitals only exist for putting his penis in.

argyle · Accepted Answer

I've run across guys before who simply find women's genitals gross. When pressed for an explanation, most recounted a negative experience when they were still kids, like seeing images of a woman giving birth or finding a messy sanitary pad in the bathroom trash, the sudden realization that women are biological creatures and they're wet and messy. Counseling might help, especially since it bothers you that he feels this way, but I don't hold out much hope for a positive outcome. Is it worth the effort? I guess that would depend on how many other things you like about him.

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

This is NOT normal, but I would not take this as a personal fault of yours - this is HIS issue. If there was something about YOU that was the problem, I'm sure he'd have told you. Instead, it seems to me that he has some kind of fear or lack of confidence with vaginas, rather than anything with you specifically. Most boyfriends would have been actively trying to touch, finger, lick, and otherwise play with your vagina on a frequent, regular basis.

Your guy is "off" in some way, for sure.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

This is why it's insane to remain a virgin until marriage. How would you like to wait for years, get married, only to find out your new husband won't touch, look at or taste your vagina?

Sr1212 · Answer

Here is the plan if you want him to change. You don’t fuck him. Then when he initiates it, you brush him off. So he’s gonna be forced to speak to u about it, and u tell him “well I told u my concerns, seems like u don’t care and only care about satisfying yourself, so we will just both be unsatisfied”. Promise you he will change

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Do you want to "have sex" like this the rest of your life? I ask that just in case you think he might change at some time in the future. "Should I leave him?" I think you can answer that question now.

Red_Arrow · Answer

You should have moved on long ago. Get rid of him now and find a guy who appreciates you and does things to please you.

summiter · Answer

Do not give him blowjobs or handjobs until he returns the favor. Just tell him that you want to be touched and given oral. If he says no then it is time to move on. Do you have some sex toys like a good vibe? They are fun and you deserve some great orgasms also!

abc3643 · Answer

He's queer as a $3 bill.

Bad_Man55 · Answer

Flip the power dynamic on him and if that doesn't change things then it's time to move on from him.

strawberrylipstick · Answer

personally i don't find it very attractive, even though im attracted to girls lol. i think it shows that.. maybe he's just more attracted to you, rather than what you've got down there, y'know?

pierre7i · Answer

Leave him ! As quickly as you can !!

Just imagine a long-term future with an arrogantly self-entitled jerk like that?

PS: in addition to be breathtakingly selfish, he obviously has no sexual skills whatsoever !

Almost10inch4funlol · Answer

I don't know it may be that he’s gay and his religious beliefs are forcing him to live a lie. I can’t imagine how you feel that is ridiculous and you should never feel like your pussy is unwanted

Dargil · Answer

It sounds like your relationship is way uneven. You will discover this will extend into non-sexual issues.

0112358 · Answer

Yup. Leave him. Sure you could do a slightly better job of communication but you have absolutely nothing to work with here, plus tons of guys would be desperate to get you off even without being asked.

Angelo75 · Answer

Time to "drop him like its hot". Move on to someone who "shows" you that he loves you.

genericname85 · Answer

seems like you need better communication in bed. tell him what you want him to do while you're at it. he can't read your mind. maybe show him with your hands, what you'd like him to do.

ThisIsMyOpinion · Answer

Next time. Grab his hand and out it there. Or his head.

RingOfFire · Answer

I would have one last conversation with him and say pointblank that you discussed this with him already and he doesn't seem to care. Ask him to he honest and tell you why he doesn't seem to be interested in doing that and tell him that unless he explains you can't go on with the relationship because it leaves you unfulfilled.

Wise4myage · Answer

He's either gay or got some sort of phobia. But yeah, time time to get rid of that guy.

Trooper205 · Answer

Perhaps He thinks You wouldn't want Him to? Maybe He needs an encouraging push... Maybe He doesn't know that You want Him to!

SenseiSeptred · Answer

He may be religious in certain ways that forbid him from what you are asking him to do that only phallus penetration sex is allowed?

Twalli · Answer

Don't go down on him anymore

Shihab-91 · Answer

you should always satisfy your partner we aren't animals

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