Should I break up with my girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

I have an above average/big penis size. But my girlfriend bought a huge dildo. It maybe a toy but she still bought that size.

Should I break up with her? If your partner makes you feel insecure over something. It’s good to leave. I don’t know, girls are dicks. I want to talk to her about it, but I know I’ll leave the conversation feeling disappointed

Imagine if you were insecure about your boobs and you found out your bf’s ex had the nicest boobs ever and he masturbates to her pictures. Similar but different.
What do you think?
I’ve been with my girlfriend for 2ish years.

[IveGotNoName]

You obviously don't care for her at all if you'd break up with her after 2 years over that. Also you seem like a troll tbh, last time you said you'd break up with her although most people told you not to.

[Asker]

I do care about her but she obviously doesn’t care about me. Last time I asked people were just insulting to me. They simply don’t understand what it’s like to be a man.

[Asker]

Most men will agree it’s emasculating and I’m secure in my size.

[IveGotNoName]

Do you still masturbate?

[Asker]

Yes I masturbate over the thought of my girlfriend

[IveGotNoName]

I don't think you can break up with her for the mere size of her dildo...

[Asker]

I know what you mean. But it shows we’re not physically compatible. I’d rather a girl that’s obsessed with me

[IveGotNoName]

You sure you want a girl who's obsessed with you? It's exhausting

[IveGotNoName]

Does she still sleep with you?

[IveGotNoName]

As often?

[Asker]

No as in my goods. Yes of coarse. But still a normal girl shouldn’t want this. I won’t lie it’s kind of hot at the same time. But I think every man is dying to feel secure in his junk

[IveGotNoName]

I get where you're coming from, but maybe you should talk to her about this? Figure out her side of the story, might be less than it is in your head.

[Asker]

I will do but I know I’m still going to be disappointed. You have to understand that us men are all shamed for what we have.

[IveGotNoName]

I know, and I've never really understood why somehow insecurity has become more of a feminine word. We hear too much about women feeling insecure about themselves and their bodies, when men of course feels it as well.

[Asker]

I think men have a lot more to be insecure. A LOT! Think women only are insecure about how their bodies aren’t ‘perfect’ like social media shows.

[IveGotNoName]

Nah, I would not say that men have more to be insecure about. I'd say it's pretty equal.

[Asker]

No way there’s so many deal breakers. I just saw a question and realised that shirt men have it way worse than tall women. Men just go after women whatever they are. Men have to worry about wealth, appearances and physique. Most men hardly get any attention compared to women. For example my girlfriend gets so much attention from men hitting in her. It’s hard to believe women like her are insecure. For example a girl with small boobs can be so so desirable try say that for the male equivalent. With men I’ve realised there’s so many dealbreakers and to make women we are just disposable and just ‘another’ guy. Men are insecure about confidence we’re told to be attractive we must have a girlfriend or get attention. Trust be being a man can put you in a dark place. Women just worry about how their not perfect with things that aren’t even true.

[IveGotNoName]

"Women just worry about how their not perfect with things that aren't even true"... you're very wrong... I've struggled with depression and anxiety almost my whole life, it started before I even had a phone. You cannot tell me that I have not been in a dark place.

[Asker]

True. Depression isn’t really an insecurity.

[IveGotNoName]

Depression causes insecurity

[Asker]

I guess but aren’t men more likely to be depressed and commit suicide?

[IveGotNoName]

Statistically women are more likely to get depression and anxiety, and men are more likely to commit suicide

[Asker]

Well suicide is a lot worse. For someone to take their own life imagine how worthless they feel. Women just need to turn the social media off. It’s all fake.

[IveGotNoName]

Did you not listen at all? My depression started long before I even got social media. Don't think that I have not contemplated suicide.

[Asker]

Yes I understand but I’ve felt like this before.

[IveGotNoName]

Felt what before?

[Asker]

I nearly took my own life before. How close I was I’m not sure. In fact everyday I think would it be better to just die than live in this hell I call a life.

[IveGotNoName]

But this has nothing to do with gender though...

[Asker]

I think it does. If I do commit suicide one day then it’ll be another man to the stat

[IveGotNoName]

That makes no sense.. just because you almost committed suicide doesn't mean that it's because you're a man

[Asker]

I meant the problems I face as a man. Never mind, nice talking to you.

[loveslongnails]

Let me get this straight... you're considering breaking up because she bought a dildo? Maybe she should break up with YOU because you masturbate sometimes, therefore she must be inadequate?

Hmm... on second thought, yes, break up with her but not for the reason you think. It's for her. You'd be doing her a favor in the long run so she doesn't have to deal with your insecurity and ego.

[Asker]

Bro why you just supporting the women. I have an insecurity what do you expect. I masturbate over the thought of her. Stop trying to please and satisfy these women with your words boy.

[loveslongnails]

I'm not supporting her - I'm warning her. How do you know she isn't thinking about you and your supposed big cock and that's why she got the big dildo? And don't even TRY to tell me that "every single time" you masturbate, the only thing you think about is HER ! That's bullshit. The fact that you are considering breaking up a 2 year relationship over her purchase of a dildo says you've got more issues than just "an insecurity", as in a singular insecurity. Have you even talked to her about it? Doesn't sound like it. Sounds like you're looking to bail without even knowing what's on her mind. And you have 2 years invested, yet that's your thinking process? What you should be doing is talking to her, not asking gaggers this silly question. Don't make this about pleasing or satisfying her - IT'S NOT !! It's about your immature reaction and your whole thought process that screams " yeah, maybe she IS better off if you break up". If she says she got the dildo because you don't satisfy her, then at least you have an answer.

[Asker]

Well she’s saying I’m not good enough but buying a huge one. I have a right to be mad. I’m going to talk about it with her but I know I’ll be disappointed. It’s also hard to admit to a girl how you feel about this issue and how it reflects on how she might feel about you and your masculinity.

[loveslongnails]

You don't know anything for sure because you haven't spoken to her. You have no idea what she's going to say. All you doing is making assumptions being fed by your insecurities. Your ego is so massive and fragile that your "masculinity" is affected by her buying a dildo, dude !!

[Anonymous]

I don't know if you should break up or stay with her, but one thing I DO know is you absolutely, positively should NOT talk to her about her giant plastic dong. Literally NO good could come of that conversation for you and PLENTY of bad could.

[Anonymous]

Use it on her, she'll love it.

[Anonymous]

Is this something she just bought recently?

Did she discus it with you first?

Did she hide it from you?

[loveslongnails]

Why should, or would, a woman feel the need to discuss buying or actually buying a dildo, with her boyfriend? She doesn't need his approval or his opinion, in my view.