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Why does he slap me in the face during sex?

In the beginning of our relationship he never slapped me in the face, he would just grab me by the hair during sex, not too hard. We have been together for a year now and he has been more rough with me during sex. I told him one time that I don’t mind it but that I don’t like it when he slaps me in the face very hard. He ignores it and continues to do it. One time he even hit me so hard that it made me cry and we stopped and he apoligized right after. Why does he slap me in the face? And how can I make him stop doing it?
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Just to give you all an update. We broke up. He was ignoring my feelings and was even being more agressive. So I told him I wanted to break up he went off on me, had to call my friends to help me get away. It was the best decision I ever made. Can’t believe how someone can act so different in the beginning. Thank you all for the advice!
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  • This wouldn’t be weird if you started your relationship with slapping, but for it to be a newer thing, and progressively harsher, it gives the impression that something deeper is wrong. Especially if you’ve said you don’t like it but he keeps doing it. Maybe he wants to explore the world of bdsm/dominance, etc, but that doesn’t give him the right to perform these things on you and make you an unwilling partner. I’d suggest you sit with him and tell him how you feel, then try to get an idea of where his mind is. Bc honestly if he wants to travel deeper down the rabbit hole, it could compromise your relationship.

    • Yes thankyou. I think I just have to really sit down with him and talk about it, eventhough it’s not easy for me to do!

    • Deep talks like that are never easy lol but hopefully you and him can come to some sort of understanding. Good luck!💛

    • Wow! I’m so glad you got away, it sounds like that situation would’ve escalated in intensity.

Most Helpful Girl

  • Usually it's a sure fire sign of inexperience these days, trying to take lessons by watching porn.


    All you need to do is stop get him out of you and ask the question "what the fuck do you think you're doing exactly?"


    Explain you're to be treated with respect during sex, or the only thing having sex with you will be powered by double A's.

Most Helpful Guys

  • ''I told him one time that I don’t mind it but that I don’t like it when he slaps me in the face very hard. He ignores it and continues to do it.''

    The answer to your question is because you do not enforce your own boundaries. You said that he ignores you and continues to do it. But you forgot to mention the part where you allowed him to ignore it, and you allowed him to continue doing it.

    ''how can I make him stop doing it? ''

    You cannot control another persons actions, you can only enforce your own boundaries so that your words mean something.

    • Yes you are right. I meant I told him once that I don’t mind the sex being a LITTLE rough. But not slapping me in the face several times I clearly told him I don’t enjoy that. I’m just not the best at confrontations and setting boundaries. But thanks I will have to!

  • Wow, what kind of guy would do that... a guy with some problems maybe?
    I would have a good talk with yourself first... don't let him hit you again. And then tell him that... "don't hit me again!" And if he does... end the relationship because he will begin taking more anger out on you and when does that stop?
    In short, he is being abusive and this is just the beginning.
    Good Luck.

    • Thanks for the MHO :) I hope you are moving on to a more stable relationship that is not abusive.

    • Good to hear that you left the animal. Sorry it got a little scary but now you know. Good luck in the future too and thank you for the update.

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  • i like being slapped but make him stop doing it too hard

    i don't like being spanked but i let guys do it because i know it makes them crazy

  • You gotta tell him that this is a definite no for you somehow or the sex stops. He likes to be aggressive and dominant and he's going way overboard.

  • He’s being affectionate. Lots of women long for a man like yours, Erin, so just shut up and be grateful.

  • So stop having sex with him for now

  • Tell him to stop. If he doesn't it's time for him to find a new girlfriend.

    • I'm happy for you that you got away from him. Stay healthy and safe.

  • A long time back a friend and I got to finally meet and have sex. I gave her a mouth-to-mouth kiss during sex and she slapped me, so I did the same in a how dare you way. She actually liked the aggressiveness, and it would set the stage for more fun things to come. Where in the future I was able to tie her up.

    If she didn't like it I would have never done it again. You'll need to set a more serious tone that it hurts, if you want him to stop, or if you want it lighter kind of ordeal.

  • He's a physically dominant person. I never understood the appeal of slapping and stuff, but who am I to judge?

  • He likes dominating you. Tell him you don’t want him to slap you so hard and that if he does it again you’ll get mad

    • What if she secretly like that

  • Leave

  • Damn girl sounds like you guys have some really kinky sex! But yea if he is hitting you really hard that's not kool and he needs to listen and respect your boundaries!

  • I think it is more than just a slap. I believe he has been watching adult models too much

    • That didn't go well. I hope you find a person who is more gentle towards you

  • I'm glad you broke up with him. Good job. You did the right thing.

  • you should be thankful. I love to get hate fucked

    • What do you mean by hate fuck?

  • Why are you putting up with it? He does it because there’s never any negative consequences for him.

  • Because you asked him to.

    • How?

    • What a stupid answer that was. No wonder I got all thumbs down. I apologize. I must of not finished it or something. Yeah, no it’s obvious he started doing it for his own sick pleasure. He let the devil take over inside of him. I imagine he would say something like “Oh I can’t help it you turn me on so much?”

  • Because he likes it

  • It's a dominant things, simple as that

  • Because he's an asshole.

  • That just to show his domination, doesn't that turn you on?

    • I don’t mind him being the dom but he slaps me very hard and keeps doing it. He is so much bigger then me it’s not pleasurable to me..

    • Ok I get it, what if he slap you less hard and not on your face let's say he slap your ass would n't that be better?

    • He already does that and I don’t mind that at all. But the face is just disrespectful to me..

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  • Punch him out.

    • @lanadelrey25 i knew you would like that one. 😂

    • lmao :)

    • @lanadelrey25 how are you doing?

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