How to stop anything romantic from going further with a guy friend?

[TerraLina]

There’s this guy that I’ve known it’s been 5 years now. I know he’s had a crush on me. I’ve told him that i am not interested in him and that i don’t see each other as compatible in a relationship. We’ve been friends. He’s had a rough parch in life and i was the only one he would talk to. Now I’m the only one he really only cares about in life. Since covid started I’ve been flirting with him cause you know, sometimes a women has needs. He’s a virgin and he has told me before and it shows. He’s 21 but he sounds like a horny 15 years old. I’ve started losing interest for him in that way. I’ve told him many times i wasn’t in the mood to sext but he would say ok but then say something horny later on. I’ve lost interest because he makes me really cringe and he keeps playing the victim card and he doesn’t realize it. I’m scared to cut ties completely with him cause im the only one that have given him attention and he was once in a point in his life where he was considering suicide. And i don’t want him to go there if i cut off any romantic advances. We are good friends. I was there when he needed some advice and he was there when i needed to vent to him. What should i say to him? What should i do?

[MrNameless]

Don' lead him on anymore and make it clear now that you don't want to be more than friends. Distance yourself from him a little. DO NOT flirt with him again or say or do anything that would be considered flirtacious unless you have the intent of dating him, or he will think you are leading him on.

[Anonymous]

Just make it clear you don't want anything romantic. You can be friends as long as you both know it's just that.

Also not trying to judge you too much but why did you flirt with him? Please don't play with his feelings, it's very emotionally sucky on the other end.

[TerraLina]

Its been almost a year that we have been flirting. But we haven’t seen each other during that time at all. (He’s not a catfish, i went to highschool with him) I’m not playing with his emotions. He’s a really sweet guy and all. He was nice and made me feel good when we talked and one day our conversation had turned into sex, like body count and all and from there we’ve been flirting but he has no experience whatsoever and it really shows and it’s REALLY cringey

[TerraLina]

Every time we would talk i had to expect something sexual coming from him. So i put a stop to it and told him that i wasn’t comfortable with sex talk everytime i talked to him. He told me ok and that he understood. Now he often asks me “are you in the mood?” And i often say no cause its true, im either busy, its the wrong time or I’m just not in the mood. He says ok but then later on during the night he will ask this innocent question and then BOOM he comes with a sexual comment

[Opinion Owner]

Ok, just make it 100% clear you don't have interest at all and I think you're good

[killerboots]

Do him a favour by cutting ties with him. Life's too short for all this sexual drama. Don't lead him on

[In_Trance]

You can't.
Guys and girls can't be friends

[TerraLina]

Ok.. but that doesn’t answer on how i have to tell him that i don’t want anything romantic anymore

[In_Trance]

Say "no thanks; I'm not interested" That's it, you're done

[Valnac]

Just say No!