Girls, Would you dump A Guy if you found he was butt fucked by a more Strong Guy/Guys ( Bullies) ?

I have a Similar experience, I got butt fucked by My College bullies, I didn't want to reveal it to My Girlfriend but She got to know about it by a other Guy of My College ( he also lives in My College hostel) And When My Girl friend got to know about it, She has dumped me saying I am too weak for her !
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They were 3 Guys and they were stronger than to me, I tried to resist but they forcefully butt fucked me, Is there Any good medicine or Gel to use as I still feels Pain and burning there, How long it Can take to heal Completely?
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  • Once upon a time in a saner world homophobia was a medical term for those who suffer from an acute fear of homosexuals, it was relatively common as homosexuals have a much much higher tendency to assault and rape people than any other demographic of the same race.

    Are you objectively weak? Weak people tend to be targeted. No, take pain medication as directed and don't worry unless you have significant bleeding anal wounds heal quickly probably 5 days or so depending.

    Men's primary value as mates is as protectors and providers. There is no helping it that being unable to protect yourself will make a women fear that you will be able able or unwilling to protect her. Its logical. You do literally have much much less value as a mate. Unlike these idiots I say this as a man who was raped. Denying it to lie to you is just a shitty virtue signal thing.

    All that said she's still a total cunt and while it hurts you should take this as a silver lining to getting raped. At least you figured out your girl friend is a heartless bitch. Women are supposed to support their men to be stronger and have great empathy. Leaving like that speaks to a right cold bitch.

    • @raveagit What do you mean by Are you objectively weak? I'm kinda skinny So i was not strong like those Guys, I had plan to gain weight ! They were 5-6 Guys and 3 Guys out them butt fucked me brutally, I started bleeding from there and I became unconscious due to extreme Pain ! My Girlfriend didn't support me at all and even She didn't help me from Money, She blocked My Number too in her phone, those Guys were like goons and Scumbags I tried to resist a lot but they had overpowered me, they were saying that they would make my butthole loose, I don't know how much damage they have done there but I Can't tolerate the extreme Pain without Medicines !

    • Your general combat ability, personality, experience and physical abilities. Women like the one who took advantage of me look for mental weakness. Homosexual's and men in general look for physical weakness. Being skinny is a tell for them but how combative you are matters more. Frankly with one arm and weighing 90 pounds men wouldn't mess with me. Because I would still be armed and attack them and if I wasn't I would bite them, be general vengeful and they would pick up on that. If they did try one would be getting stabbed and they would just move on to someone else. (Women are a whole other bag of worms) Size and strength helps, a knife helps, practice using your body and throwing someone around and striking helps. Resolving yourself helps. Experience helps including your reason one unless it just taught you to submit more. That's what I mean. General strength and weakness summarized. Pain wise yeah that's pretty bad. You should be fine as you didn't just keep bleeding however. Money? Why did you need money from her? That sounds off. Meh get some pain tolerance, complaining is for women, that's likely why she left you are responding more like a woman than a man.

    • @raveagit , that's likely why she left you are responding more like a woman than a man... If i have Pain then I will tell this ! Can you DM me?

  • Sorry I didn't have such kind of situation
    But understand that your a abused and raped at the same time you have to think about the your girlfriend situation also she was little embarrassed because of you in front of others so only she do it

    • @harry7825 I was the Victim and i had to Suffer all the Pain and shame after i got raped, My Girlfriend had to do nothing, She is being totally insenstive towards me ! Why She is embarrased in front others if i got raped? Can't She ignore them and Support me?

    • She thinks that your weak We can't change others opinions Maybe you find who supports you

    • If they were 5-6 Guys and Stronger than me then how could i fight back? 3 Guys out of them butt fucked me brutally, i was not even able to walk or Sit but My Girlfriend totally ignored My Pain and Situation, She don't want to keep a boyfriend who got raped !

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  • If I had a boyfriend and he was butt fucked forcfully or not, No I would not dump him I would talk it out with him and then see if we can still make our relationship work and see if we can get past what happened thats all.

    And sorry about what happened to you and between you and your girlfriend, but depedning on how long its been sense that happened to you the pain and burning sensation if that was your first time could last up to a month maybe longer it depends on if it was your first time or not and if they did any damage to your ass you know.

    • @uniquelyshy You know that Girl was My friend was last 3 years and I had helped her many times but When i got in trouble She left me, When She came to know that I got butt fucked by other Guys, She just Stopped talking to me and She also blocked my number in her phone ! You know How it happend? My Sister also study in My college and There is a Guy Who often tease and Molest her when she goes to College, he has a Criminal background like Goons, Two weeks Ago One day he stopped My Sister and he forcefully tried to kiss her, he says that she is his Girlfriend but My Sister don't like him, When My Sister told me then I went to him and I warned him not to tease My Sister and I had a Scufflle with him and he threatend me to teach me a lesson, One week Ago He came with his 5-6 friends and he dragged me into boys hostel, they tied My hands and despite My All resist they forcefully butt fucked me brutally, It was My first time So it hurt me terribly, I started bleeding from there and I even started crying due to extreme Pain, the Guy who tease My Sister was very brutal, he butt fucked me 3-4 times and i felt like he would tear my ass because of his huge size, When he left me then he threatend me that if I Again tried to intervene into his matter with My Sister then he would butt fuck me again, I got very Scared ! Now its been more than a week but I still feels quite Pain and like a burning sensentation, I feel more Pain if I sit on a Chair, Also Now I am quite Scared and worried, So I might not be able to stop him if he again tease or Molest My Sister, he and his friends are too powerful to me !

    • Well im not gonna lie, I was raped once in the ass when I was 12 it hurt a lot I also bleed and I can just say its gonna hurt for at least a month so you gotta be careful and I honestly think you should get the police involved no matter what it takes, Im honestly so damn afraid of men just seeing one gives me a panic attack cause i feel like if I dont do what he wants then ill be in trouble and he'd rape me or hurt me but yeah, im 16 now but still afraid, I didn't have any damamge as far as I could tell based off what I knew and read in a book I was okay but you need to involve the police to save you and your sister and You need a doctor cause he could have torn you down there which is really really serious and something bad so just call the police let them hear your side and your sisters side and tell them everything okay it will help okay

    • @uniquelyshy I am Sorry to hear about Your experience, I know getting raped in the ass would have been very painful for you and you were also quite young ! But being a Boy getting raped in my ass has broke My all the confidence, dignity, I feels quite weak and insecure, I don't want to involve police because here in My Country police are not reliable because of So much corruption and Crime rate ! I would ask My Sister to talk to someone Who has more power and influence but Now I don't want to involve into my sister's matter with that Guy because he has threatend to butt fuck me again if i intervene ! I didn't want to go and get a check up with a doctor because of shame and embarrasement but I am finding very difficult to tolerate the Pain and Since his dick was huge So i feel like he has damaged inside my ass or he has torn my butthole that's why i feels lots of Pain when I sit on chair, though I am taking medicines for Pain but it is not helping much ! And I am also worried because that Guy who butt fucked me, He can tell this to My Sister ( because he often chase and tease her) I don't want to reveal it to My Sister !

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  • Its not butt fucked.
    Its called rape.
    And honestly, she’s a bitch for saying that.
    If the person i would be dating had gone through that then i wouldn’t dump him. But if i came to find out he did that to someone else when the person he fucked didn’t want to (even if he says he was young and stupid) i would drop his ass fast.

    • I know its called rape but being a Boy its very hard to use this word Rape ! Butt fucked is lightier way to tell about the Incident, Here Most ( All) Girls saying that they won't dump a Guy if ge gets butt fucked/raped but i don't know how much there perception and thought would change if She has to face this Situation really in her life ! My Girlfriend dumped me in just two days !

    • You, saying that butt fucked as a lighter way to tell is making it seem like you had given your consent and all parties where into it. There is no lighter way of saying it. You have to say it for what it is. I know for guys its harder to mention being rape but unfortunately that is the case in this world. Boys, girls, kids, eldery, they all get rape. Like i said, you’re girlfriend was a bitch to dump you for that reason. If it was you who dumped her because she had gotten rape then you would be seen as insensitive and an asshole. Well the same goes for her. And you never mentioned it to her, she found out about it by exterior means so its not like while you were together, she had to face something. You kept it from her but nothing changed. You are still the same as you were before she found out but she « finds you weak » because you were victim to a rape crime. Fuck her. If she wanted to break up with you, she should’ve find another reason then blaming it on that event.

    • I know All type of Pain/trauma are equal for boys or Girls, I know its very difficult for a Girl to overcome a rape incident ! But in case of Boys/Guys, If a Boy tells in his college/School or in Neighborhood then he loose all his dignity and prestige, Most Guys don't reveal to anyone "in person" about their Rape, My Girlfriend is a insenstive and Sly Person, She put all the blame to My weakness for My Rape !

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  • No i dont think so i will leave him.. If i love him.. Then ill help him get over it together

    • Thanks, I wish My girlfriend Would have supported me intead of Dumping and ignoring me !

    • Trust me the right one won't... And when you think you have met the right.. Tell her yourself... But only if you are in confidence that she is the one

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  • If you were forcibly raped, how would it be your fault? If someone dumped you over that or tried to make you feel shame for that, then that's someone you are better off without. And after the rape, did you go to the doctor, or report it? If you were raped against your will, then the people that did it should be held accountable and every unreported rape is another possible rape that could happen to someone else. People who commit rape and get away with it will keep raping until they're stopped...

    • How are you not flipping out, like me? This just happened to him.

    • @Floppy2112 all the more reason he should go in and also report it!! Me or you flipping out doesn't stop what happened, but now he needs to report it so the sick fucks pay for what they did

    • Agreed.

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  • I hope u feel better ☹️ It’s definitely messed up I don't know how people do such things. I ofc wouldn’t dump him over smth like that out of his control. I’d do smth about it tho.

    • @hannah_le _ I am from South Africa ! Here in My Country where i live law and order is worst ! You can't rely on Police because of high Crime rate and Corruption ! There is a Guy who is chasing and Molesting My Sister for last many days, he is a Rich Guy here and he has Connections with Criminal Guys So he also threatens to My Sister that he would kidnap her ! I had gone to him just to ask him to Stop chasing and teasing My Sister but he started Arguing and fighting with me And he and his friends dragged me into the Roon and those Guys butt fucked me so brutally that i started crying and begging them to stop but that Guy ( who tease my sister) fucked my ass 3 times and it broke my All confidence and Courage ! I am feeling quite weak and insecure, I Would ask My Sister to talk to someone Who has more power and influence but Now I don't want to involve into my sister's matter with that Guy because he has threatend to butt fuck me again if i interfere into his business with My Sister ! So I am Scared and Worried about it.

  • Wow getting raped doesn't make you weak. That was a weird reason to breakup. But i would feel that the guy would forever be traumatized deep down. And i know some guys who are now coming out as gay after having been sexually abused by the same sex. So yea i’d breakup with the guy because only because i dont think i am comfortable enough to help him with all the side effects he may go through.

    • So you saying that You may dump him if he gets butt raped and you think you can't help him?

    • I would still try to be his friend but i just know i wouldn't be of much help. Im not sure how to comfort him and if i do, I don't know for how long i’d stick around. Its just a messed up side of me but im just being honest. It kinda like what ChrisMaster69 said

    • @dizzydesii You know what? When a Boy or Guy get butt fucked/ butt raped he already got broken and if his girlfriend dumps him then it becomes more Worse for him ! I was butt raped by 3 Guys ( they Molest My Sister) and they intentionally butt fucked me to break My Confidence, Courage and Manhood So that I Could not dare to help My Sister Against them !

  • This is absolutely horrible.
    Bottom line, noone should be dumped because they were a victim- especially to such a heinous crime like that.
    That shows way more about the girl's (bad) character and your friend is so much better without her.

    • What if same incident would have happend with her?

    • Nothing. Same rules apply

    • Yup..

  • That’s horrible I’m sorry you went through that. I don’t think she should’ve dumped you. I would never do that.

    • @stardust2021 You may check My other question which is on My Profile : Will he Never butt fuck me Again, if I Aplogize from him?

  • It’s rape pure and simple.

    She may have dumped you as it being hard to come to terms with in how she copes with it.

    Yes even though it happened to you, the partner has to also cope with how they handle it.

    I dated a girl that I later found out had been raped as a young teenager, utterly traumatic even after a number of years, also hard to work out within a relationship.

    It needs compassion and understanding, some find that hard to do and hard to cope with situation.

    Even now I would report it, people that raped you need to be held to account.

    • Did you leave her once you got to know that she was raped?

    • Nope, we dated for another few years, she’s married to a mate of mine now.

    • Sounds better

  • no i wouldtn especially if he was held down by more than one guy and even if he wasmt held down i still wouldn't bc maybe he's experimenting and as a bisexual ion know but thats not sum id dump someone over fault or not

    • @dezzydoodles There is a Guy who is chasing and Molesting My Sister for last many days, he is a Rich Guy here and he has Connections with Criminal Guys So he also threatens to My Sister that he would kidnap her ! I had gone to him just to ask him to Stop chasing and teasing My Sister but he started Arguing and fighting with me And he and his friends dragged me into the Roon and those Guys butt fucked me so brutally that i started crying and begging them to stop but that Guy ( who tease my sister) fucked my ass 3 times and it broke my All confidence and Courage ! I am feeling quite weak and insecure, I Would ask My Sister to talk to someone Who has more power and influence but Now I don't want to involve into my sister's matter with that Guy because he has threatend to butt fuck me again if i interfere into his business with My Sister ! So I am Scared and Worried about it.

    • could you contact the police or sum bc thats sexual harrassment to both you and your sister

    • @dezzydoodles I am from South Africa ! Here in My Country where i live law and order is worst ! You can't rely on Police because of high Crime rate and Corruption ! To be honest, I am really Scared of him ! He is tall and Strong Guy an He has a huge dick and he butt fucks me Mercilessly ( he fucks 15-20 minutes Continously in one go) And last time he had butt fucked me 3 times ! So Because of this All I am quite worried about My safety ! And I want to Approach him to make him understand that I would not interfere into his matters with My Sister and I want to fix this issue Peacefully ! shall I beg Apoloy from him for My mistake, Can it settle down this issue?

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  • that's beyond awful. college buddies... that is not a college buddy. That's a psycho who is going to hurt other people until stopped. lm guess, there was alcohol involved. report to police...

    • I'd suggest you go to ER. No way to know the damage done. physical healing is one thing. psychological is another level of healing. That is assault, rape... and they need to get 20 years each. not acceptable. Most of the laws written, including the constitution are oriented so that people don't violate another persons space.

  • What they did was sodomy and rape which is illegal. I would report it to the police.

    Your girlfriend had no right dumping you.

  • Absolutely not! What kind of asshole *dumps* someone because they were sexually assaulted with no choice or blame whatsoever in the matter? What a disgusting ideology that must allow that woman to sleep well at night having abandoned someone she claimed to care about in their darkest hour AND have the balls to pass judgement on the victim? I'm genuinely sickened by her behavior & although I don't represent ALL women, I'd never even DREAM of being so pathetically shallow and cruel to ANYONE, let alone the man I loved. Sadly, more men than people know have been victims of similar crimes & because of vapid people like your ex, are too ashamed to come forward, allowing a culture of secrecy & misplaced blame to remain protected instead of the victims that should be protected from heinous, cowardly acts like this. I'm not sure how ALL women would react, but REAL women who have compassion, understanding, maturity and empathy wouldn't hold something like that against you for a second! I'm so sorry this happened to you, I hope you have gotten some counseling or at least found peace within yourself & understand that you're not at fault nor did you do anything to be ashamed of or make you feel inferior to anyone else! You had no choice in the matter, and that's the bottom line! As a fellow victim of assault, I can empathize with you & as daily potential victims, I would assume the majority of intelligent & caring women out there will do the same. Best wishes!

    • if it was me raped i would leave my girlfriend instead because of the shame. its not always the girls problem realay..

    • @zxczxczxc43434 What do you mean?

    • I understand that shame is a tragic and hard to shake side effect of sexual assault, personally. But why would you want to end a relationship that's not unhealthy or cut off a potentially important source of support and confidence in reaction to your misfortune? This is not your fault and you have no reason to believe that you are not the same person as you were prior to the attack, with the exception of being in a vulnerable and lonely place. I'm confused and wondering what your motivation would be?

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  • So your girlfriend thinks that it's your fault for being raped?
    No, I wouldn't dump a boyfriend for that experience, I'd try to help him get over the trauma and would try to somehow punish those three guys.

    • @ Yeah, She dumped me because she think I am too weak for her ! But She don't know My Situation !

    • And She won"t

  • Wouldn't dump him but I'd try to convince him to let me peg him so he can see how pleasurable anal can be for a man

  • That’s called rape. So no I would not leave him if he were raped. It’s not a joke to be raped. 🙄 It’s called abuse.

  • If a woman or a girl wouldn't stay with me cuz something like that happened... I don't I don't think I would ever want her staying with me even during the good times.

    • @jdonhere77 there is a Guy who is chasing and Molesting My Sister for last many days, he is a Rich Guy here and he has Connections with Criminal Guys So he also threatens to My Sister that he would kidnap her ! I had gone to him just to ask him to Stop chasing and teasing My Sister but he started Arguing and fighting with me And he and his friends dragged me into the Roon and those Guys fucked my ass so brutally that i started crying and begging them to stop but that Guy ( who tease my sister) fucked my ass 3 times and it broke my All confidence and Courage ! I am feeling quite weak and insecure, I Would ask My Sister to takj to someone Who has more power and influence but Now I don't want to involve into my sister's matter with that Guy because he has threatend to butt fuck me again if i intervene !

    • That is quite a dilemma. This guy wants to trap you on one hand he intimidates you so that you're scared to tell anyone, I'm just thinking this. If you can do two things because I'm not a licensed counselor. I'm going to school to be one but I don't know nearly what someone 5 years older than me that has their license nose. Number one thing I would like for you to try to do is to see a licensed professional counselor get their input see what weighs you can let the proper authorities know about this guy and at the same time be protected by the law. Which leads me to my second thing I would like for you to do and that's tell the law about this. Explain to them your scared and that you don't want him to find out that he's talked to the authorities. So get the counselors and put and the authorities and put and go from there. What he does is an extreme form of bullying. Well they sexual activity fuses on you is a whole nother issue. Well obviously it's rape. This guy is committing all kinds of crimes I watch important is your safety. Also I would like to point out of it if you can't CA licensed professional counselor see a counselor with in your School. Junior High has one high school has one and colleges have one or two. Reach Out and let someone know that this is taking place. If I think of anything else I'll be sure and let you know

    • @jdonhere77 I am from South Africa ! Here in My Country where i live law and order is worst ! You can't rely on Police because of high Crime rate and Corruption ! To be honest, I am really Scared of him ! He is tall and Strong Guy and he has a big Gang too, So I am feeling Anxiety and Nervousness because he can or He Will target me Again ! He has a huge dick and he butt fucks me Mercilessly ( he fucks 15-20 minutes Continously in one go) And last time he had butt fucked me 3 times ! So Because of this All I am quite worried about My safety ! And I want to Approach him to make him understand that I would not interfere into his matters with My Sister and I want to fix this issue Peacefully ! And then My Sister Can go back to home for her safety but if She decides Not to Go and wants to Stay here for Study then She will have to handle her issue with him by herself and I will not interfere or Intervene !

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  • Understand that what they did was rape and not okay. You should have told someone other than your girlfriend, like the police. But what’s done is done so there’s not much they can do now unless you know exactly who they are. And no, I wouldn’t dump a guy if he was butt fucked. This is like asking, “Boys, would you dump a girl if you found out she was raped?” Like most will say no. So why is this any different? You are most definitely not weak in any way. It was 1 vs 3, you were probably bound to lose. And as for your ex girlfriend, she is an absolute bitch. If she tries to talk to you, ignore her. Because she has no right to talk to you after saying that. She should no longer have any place in your life nor your heart.

    • @lanabear119 Although I am like a Skinny boy but I Could have fight back with one Guy but I can't Fight or Resist with more than One people So they overpowered me and I got butt fucked badly ! I was targeted because of a reason and I know One Guy out of them but there is No use to tell the police because of Corruption and Crime rate here Where I live, Anyway but I had not thought that My Girlfriend would dump me like this, When she got to know that Some Goon type Guys has butt fucked me, She just spoke once to me and She said that She can't be My Girlfriend Anymore because people might make fun of her, She called me weak and timid Guy and She also blocked My Number in her Phone ! Now its been more than a Week but I am still feeling lots of Stinging Pain and burning senseation and I don't know how long it will last!

    • It might last for about a week, but it’ll go away. She doesn’t deserve to be in your life. Don’t pay her no mind. And I’m sorry that happened to you, know that you are very strong and you’ll get through this.

    • @lanabear119 there is a Guy who is chasing and Molesting My Sister for last many days, he is a Rich Guy here and he has Connections with Criminal Guys So he also threatens to My Sister that he would kidnap her ! I had gone to him just to ask him to Stop chasing and teasing My Sister but he started Arguing and fighting with me ! And at that day he dragged me into the boys hostel to take revenge of that day, those Guys fucked my ass so brutally that i started crying and begging them to stop but that Guy ( who tease my sister) fucked my ass 3 times and it broke my All confidence and Courage ! I am feeling quite weak and insecure, I Would ask My Sister to takj to someone Who has more power and influence but Now I don't want to involve into my sister's matter with that Guy because he has threatend to butt fuck me again if i intervene ! To be honest, he has a huge dick and when he fucks my ass brutally, I feels like he will tear me or i would die out of Pain ! If No one can intervene or help in My Sister's matter then I would ask My Sister to go back to home and leave this Place !

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  • No unless that was something you wanted me
    to routinely do to you (it’s not my thing so I don’t think I’d feel we were compatible sexually). But if this was an incident that happened to you I’d be a little like wtf, but it wouldn’t change my opinion of you at all.

  • As in he was raped? No way. A rape victim doesn’t lose value to me.

    • Yeah, if he got raped and not a Gay

    • Gay or not, doesn’t matter. I’m not dumping someone because they were raped. That would be horrible

    • He was raped very recently according to him. This is serious shit.

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  • It raped, and its criminal, I don't think it's your desire to be treated that way. if you are dumped because of that, it means that your current girlriend doesn't accept the situation that happened to you - even though you don't want. i'm sorry for your loss
    It doesn't mean you are weak, however it has happened and I think if possible you need the help of a counselor or psychologist to calm you down. I hope you are alright.

    • @boboho? My Sister also study in My college and There is a Guy Who often tease and Molest her when she goes to College, he has a Criminal background like Goons, Two weeks Ago One day he stopped My Sister and he forcefully tried to kiss her, he says that she is his Girlfriend but My Sister don't like him, When My Sister told me then I went to him and I warned him not to tease My Sister and I had a Scufflle with him and he threatend me to teach me a lesson, One week Ago He came with his 5-6 friends and he dragged me into boys hostel, they tied My hands and despite My All resist they forcefully butt fucked me brutally, It was My first time So it hurt me terribly, I started bleeding from there and I even started crying due to extreme Pain, the Guy who tease My Sister was very brutal, he butt fucked me 3-4 times and When he left me then he threatend me that if I Again tried to intervene into his matter with My Sister then he would butt fuck me again, So I got very Scared ! Here in My Country where i live law and order is worst ! You can't rely on Police because of high Crime rate and Corruption !

  • Dude that's a shitty situation! But seriously, I don't know why I was invited to this but I'ma keep it real. I'm not giving you advice or telling you to do anything. This is just what I would do. I would be catching these punks one by one and beating their ass with something big and hard of my own. If you done took my pride, fucked me up like that and I lost my girl because of it, what else is there to lose. A little jail time possibly? If not I'd spend the rest of my life wishing I did something. And I would've never told anybody but if they told my girl I'm slapping their ass like a bitch. And as far as that little girl goes, sometimes things have a funny way of working out. Like to see her fight 3 dudes off because it takes a bad mf'r to hold his own against 3 men. My advice, don't eat anything spicy and find some different people to hang out with and if anybody says anything else, tell them how they were sucking the shit of off each other's little bitty dicks and fucking each other. Or you can go another route and say y'all was just having some good ole butt sex. Believe it or not, I know a guy that used to tell women he was gay at the club. That man got more pussy than anybody in there. Women like a challenge. They wanna be the one to turn you straight. You come out smelling like a rose and they look like sissys.

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