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Is being a sugar baby the same as a prostitute?

My story:
I’m a 24 year old girl that took the “easy” path. I saw all my friends getting sugar daddies so I did the same but it only lasted a week because I felt ashamed of basically taking money from older men in exchange of company and of course they wanted sex.

I see so many woman doing the same and for me is a form of prostitution but I see my friends and I’m trying to understand why. They say that is like any other relationship and that they are not sleeping with different men or just having sex.

What are your thoughts?
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  • Yes, of course it is. It's prostitution with a single man rather than multiple men, but it's still prostitution. You're trading sex (with a man you aren't with because you picked him yourself for love) for his money. If he stopped paying, would you continue the relationship? No - because you're doing it for the money, not for love. That's prostitution.

    And your friends may tell you that they aren't having sex, and that might even be true for a week or two, but if it goes much longer than that, and the guy is still paying, they're sleeping with him. They're just lying so that they can pretend it isn't prostitution - because most women can justify almost anything if it gets them what they want. You seem to be an exception to that rule - good for you.

    Yes, a young, attractive girl can always find wealthy men and trade sex for money - but the girl is getting older every day, and while she might have a lot of fun and buy a lot of clothes and stuff, she's rarely making enough (or spending wisely enough) to make any real progress on her future. And when she gets close to 30 and "ages out" of the ability to be a sugar baby, what does she have to show for those "easy years"? Yes, she's had some fun, but she has no relationship, no family, no real money, no career - nothing that's going to make the REST of her life better.

    She's trading her most valuable years for the easiest short-term return, at the expense of the rest of her life. And she's going to live an elevated lifestyle that's going to be VERY hard to lose, and that will warp her expectations, and when she's 35 and men won't even buy her a drink to get sex, she's going to be very, VERY bitter to have lost it all, and to realize that she squandered the riches of her youth. OBVIOUSLY that will all be blamed on men, and she'll become a radical feminist who will set out to destroy men out of spite as a day job, before going home to her house full of cats.

    It's a very common tale.

    This is exactly the type of woman we're talking about. Imagine her at 19 or 20 - she was hot and sexy and got all the men's attention and she could get anything from them - and did. But this is what it looks like in her mid-30s:

    https://www.youtube.com/embed/anECwFYnyh0

    • A great Opinion and I think Asker, you should start learning how to earn money by providing other kind of services to society in general.

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  • I feel like you have to be true to yourself while also surviving in a difficult world. d It's essentially a relationship where he gives you an allowance. You'll probably have to take a more mercenary approach and see it as a job, just one that may be a lot of fun plus you survive more easily. Keep in mind that he 's in control so save all you can for when things end and you need to find your own place.

Most Helpful Girls

  • Its basically the same thing, although a little more lifestyle involved. I did it for a short bit.

    It was a means to pay my rent when I was living on loan money. I was already working 2 part time jobs and going to school, and this allowed me to only work one part time job, make advance payments to tuition, and pay my rent.

    When you're 19, its really hard to find a decent guy to date. Most guys dont want a girlfriend commitment and any hookup buddy you get won't cover a pizza or even have spare pasta in his dorm. The sex is drunk and sloppy.

    When you're with men that yes, are alittle older maybe 30-45, they are much better off than the older guys that hit on you in the club you're sneaking into. They ask about your day. They bring you to nice restaurants and back to a nice apartment with furniture. You talk about how awful it must be to be so elligible in the marriage market. Theyll teach you about investing or how to finance a car or a house, all the stuff the school system never does.

    As long as both parties are upfront and transparent about what they want, and dont take it too personally if falls flat (like any other starter relationship) then it can be quite symbiotic.

  • I’m gonna get a lot of unlikes for that answer but... YES. It’s a form of prostitution. They are pretty much selling their bodies. The only difference is that they are selling themselves for the same person (usually). While prostitutes change men every time. Sure, sugar relationship are somewhat more normal, cause you actually do communicate with each other, it’s not 100% entirely sex. Prostitution is entirely sex.

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  • Yes, it is. But dont feel bad, i already wrote that all (maybe most) women are prostitutes anyway. its a nature thing.
    you have a goal and you are making a business transaction to achieve it.
    it actually ties into the question im about to ask...
    that i would like @MrOracle 's opinion on and a few of my buddies too who ain't "scurrrrred" to speak their minds.

  • Maybe, in a sense of the word. In both instances you're trading sex for some material gain.

    A big difference is that with a "sugar daddy" there is an understanding of exclusivity, whereas with prostitution that would not be the case.

    I'm not trying to be judgmental, but I hope you both have a clear understanding of each other's expectations.

  • I heard some sugarbabies don't have sex with their sugardaddies so in that case it wouldn't be. Otherwise, probably. I guess it depends

    • Maybe a few percent don't have sex with their sugardaddies (maybe they aren't capable?), but I think even some of those are just lying about it to justify to themselves that it isn't prostitution when it is. But let's be real, we all know the VAST majority are having sex, which is why they're getting paid.

    • you dont have to have sex to be a prostitute... if your main goal is the money and not the subject... ur a prostitute.

  • But the relationship wouldn't exist without them being paid which is by definition prostitution, simple on a payment plan.

  • Yes, it is prostitution. It is sad. Go to school, get educated, have some self respect.

  • It is of course

  • if it includes sex then yes it is prostitution but im still not going to judge

    • and hey dont feel ashamed... you did what you felt right at the time

  • If you were giving sex for monetary rewards, then is was prostitution. However, that does not mean that is what or who you are. A person is not the worst mistake they ever made, nor are they the best thing they have ever done. Get past it, don't let yourself get stuck in a ditch. Move on to better things, to a better life.

  • I do see it in that way

  • Having sex with someone you do not love to get money... yeah, that is a prostitute.
    The only difference is you have one client instead of hundreds.

  • Yes it is. Just like any time sex is ever used as a bargaining chip for anything. What's the difference between a prostitute and a wife with no responsibilities who is completely provided for? Not a whole lot.

  • What's more important to you, love or money?

  • Some would consider marriage prostitution with high exclusivity. Being a sugar baby is somewhere between marriage and prostitution in terms of exclusivity.

  • Ah yup!

  • It certainly isn't prostitution. It is just aligning on gold diggery.
    You should learn to develop actual relationship.
    It is your life so you know how you want to spend it. Prostitutes are sex workers who have to provide sezx to anyone who pays. They are not allowed to refuse. Second they can have virtually unlimited number of partners.

    You on the other hand can refuse a person. And you can form relationship with multiple partners but that after consent of the other partners involved. So there is basic differences that doesn't make you a prostitute. It is however frowned upon for one basic reason I mentioned earlier. It is a transactional relationship much like prostitution if you value a person less than his money. Where would you be if your partner had suddenly no money? Would you leave them?

  • It is absolutely prostitution.

  • Not all sugar daddies want sex and not all sugar babies give sex. But like they said it can be really a lot like a normal relationship. You go just don’t have to recognize that you aren’t going to have a ton in common. It is the things like your love of information or the love for traveling. Some times the sugar daddy is even okay with you having a normal relationship on the side. Like as long as it is just an F buddy kind of thing you know. They can be pretty weird relationships. But if you can’t make that connection then maybe it is best not to sell yourself out.

  • It's not exactly the same. But it's the same concept. The only difference is you're doing it with one person instead of multiple people.

  • It’s definitely sex/work prostitution. Sugaring is basically the same as escorting.
    I don’t think there’s anything wrong with sex work, and I’ve considered doing it myself, but it is sex work.

  • It's like prostitution with extra steps

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