Guys is it normal that my boyfriend isn’t feeling horny anymore but I want to fuck him all the time?

[Incredible22]

He’s 30 and im in my early 20s and we used to fuck all the time even when he was supposed to be working ( from home) then it got down to once in the morning once at night and now its barely once at night or wtv when i see him on weekends.. he also mentioned that he doesn’t know why but doesn't even jerk off when im not there, knowing he used to be a real manwhore (over 200) did i make him like that? Is this my fault? How can i fix it? Im horny all the time and try to seduce him but he often turns me down and says he likes it to be spontaneous well me too but if i dont do anything nothing will happen...

MORE INFO: we have been dating for 7 months and we both live with our parents still, and he doesn’t go down on me by himself too anymore at the beginning I remember him eating me out out of nowhere we didn’t even had sex yet and now I basically have to ask for it in advance lol i hate that i love when my man gets turned on by eating me but anyways..

he also doesn't delet anything so he has nudes and sex vids of other girls in his phone and 2 months into dating i asked him if he would get rid of it and he said no and that it was a normal thing for guys , i dont even wanna imagine all the stuff he has on there... (the one i saw i deleted but there's more)

I've had conversations about my sexual concerns and he says there's nothing wrong with me that he doesn’t even know why he’s feeling less horny then ever and that maybe he’s out of shape or not eating properly but i can't help and wondering if i still play a part in it...

also should i stop sucking his dick so he understands how it feels to no longer get oral on the regular? Because i love to suck his dick i do it automatically ALL the time so it would be a shocker if i stopped I suppose?

[MrOracle]

It sounds to me like you just wore him out, and he just needs some time to recover and recharge. As much as guys love sex, we aren't machines and it is draining when you go so often for so long. He used up months of stored energy and now he has no reserves.

I doubt this has anything to do with you personally, and I'm sure he loved your enthusiasm, but, again, he's not a machine with endless capacity.

Give him a light week or two so he can recharge and then don't initiate mor3 than 4 days a week. If he wants more, great, and maybe he can go 7 or 8 times a week (not always every single day, but twice a say sometimes) or maybe a little less, but you have to find a sustainable level, and for most people, more than 5-7 times a week is more than they can sustain for very long.

[Incredible22]

We dont live together tho and i only see him on the weekend now so what do i do in that situation ahaha

[MrOracle]

As I said, go easy for a couple of weeks - hug and cuddle but let him initiate or not, but let him recharge. I think after having a breather, he'll initiate more often, but probably not at the crazy pace things were before. The times when I was in your situation - only seeing my girl on the weekends, I'd fuck her 4-5 times on the weekend and then rest during the week. But if I tried to keep up the weekend pace all week, there's no way I'd make it. Even when I was 20, more than a dozen times a week started to get iffy. You can do that pace for a little while, but not for long.

[SueShe]

What you describe about yourself is called hypersexuality. The former term for it was nymphomania.

You have an obsession with sexual thoughts, urges, or behaviors that may cause distress or that negatively affects health, job, or relationships. This is at typical psychological issue that should be addressed by a specialist.

What happens is that you have demanded too much from one single person and that this person is simply tired of your insatiable need for intimacy.

Also, libido generally decreases after the mid twenties and your boyfriend is in that phase where being under constant pressure to have to perform is taking a toll on him.

I would suggest that you go to couple therapy and describe your situation and what remedies can be found for you to find a harmonious path that is satisfying both of you. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like you started off sexually on an unrealistic pace. Most people don’t have sex multiple times a day everyday. Honestly, 2-3 times a week is probably average. Like others have said here, it sounds like you’re hyper sexual and he’s just worn out trying to keep up and wants a more normal pace for sex.

[JPrez]

Could be that you both live with your parents. Maybe he feels more comfortable in a setting other than at your parent's house or his? Also, if he's getting a BJ regularly and not having to put in any work, then he may be thinking that "gee, this is great, I get to cum without having to do any work". Or its possible the sex has gotten dull and too routine and he's tired of looking at the same woman all the time. Soooo, he's got all this spank bank material on his phone so he's getting his jollies somewhere else. I'm also thinking that with his body count, you've got a real danger sign there. He's either contemplating a move or has already made a move on someone else - it's a real possibility. Sorry, I wish I could offer a great opinion.

[ChrisMaster69]

Sounds like how I have been treating myself over lock down.

[ByNature1986]

Add some kinky sex fantasies to it

[summiter]

There is nothing wrong with you. I would stop giving him bjs.. let him get use to jerking off again

[kkirk4442]

It sounds like you have a higher sexual drive than he does. In such situations, it's usual to try to find a happy compromise. That means you not getting sex as much as you want, and him giving you sex more than he wants to. Every situation is different, and you both need to talk this over and work it out. it will take some time, and not be all worked out with just one conversation.

[Avicenna]

It’s not unheard of, but a big mismatch in sex drives like that is very worrisome.

[DavidFox]

He has nudes and vids from other girls, have you asked about an open relationship and you with other guys?

[Incredible22]

He says he doesn’t look at them but i wonder why he keeps them then , he said he could of lied and put it in a folder like his friends do but he was upfront about it i try not to think about the fact that its there but I wouldn't marry a guy that has that in his phone

[DavidFox]

What did he say about a more open relationship so you can get your needs met with other guys?

[Incredible22]

Well i kinda asked it to be sure it wasn’t what he wanted and he said he doesn't like to share and neither do i so thats not a possibility

[DavidFox]

If he doesn’t doesn’t want to have your needs met by other guys then it’s his responsibility to step up and meet your needs. If he isn’t able to do so then you can always find someone who can.

[pigoat]

Sex addict

[Andres77]

This one has me stumped. Sorry.

[Wise4myage]

I don't think your sexually compatible with him, and that's gonna cause problems if you remain in that relationship.

[Trooper205]

Many people have individual levels of Libido. They differ very much, especially when Age comes into play.

[Twalli]

If you still like giving him a blowjob, don't stop. If you don't mind it, but you know he likes it, then don't if he eats you out only.

[ND4SPD31]

Yeah you’re going to have to give him tuff love.

[Valnac]

The guy is an idiot. He doesn’t realize how good he has it.
I doubt anything is going to change, maybe it’s time to cut your losses and find someone who knows how to treat you.

[Waldoe]

desire lessens, it's normal... sorry I'm 70 and its been a month

[Seppel]

I am the same. I never want Sex

[Owxxxgggff568]

Why so?

[Seppel]

It's stressful and not pleasuring

[harry7825]

Maybe your my type

[Anonymous]

Sounds like your a possible Nympho and you might have drained him.
That or he is out of shape, losing interest or under stress.
Having sex multiple times a day, everyday can eventually be too much.
The body needs some recovery time.
If he has recovery time, but still doesn't want to fuck then he should figure out what's going on.

[Incredible22]

How do i know which one it is?

[Opinion Owner]

He could also be cheating too. Also just because he fucked 200 randoms doesn't mean he's great at sex or that he even has that much experience. I was married and fucked her over a thousand times.

[Incredible22]

You’re right its not the number that counts but i dont think he’s cheating just because he doesn’t go out ever he just works and the watches netflix by himself or games and studies also we are in this pandemic so no real opportunity, ill have to see how he behaves when everything gets back to normal tho for sure but also if a man likes to cheat why does he stay in a relationship in the first place?

[Opinion Owner]

I don't know, I never cheat. Maybe you too just aren't right for each other anymore? In all the time I was married I still wanted to fuck my partner as much as she would allow. The only times I didn't fuck her is if she was being super lazy and wanted me to do all the work or the time or two that I was pissed at her about something. I told her to get off of me. Otherwise I fucked her with as much enthusiasm at 38 as I did at 21. Maybe you two are drifting apart? He wants peace and quiet to play his games and you want passionate kisses and hard cock.