No girl friends to talk too, struggling in my relationship?

[Anonymous]

Hi everyone, firstly thank you for being so kind to open my question. I'm really struggling, I don't have any friends, specifically female friends i can confide in as we all lost contact a few years ago i have tried reaching out but they ignore me and have moved on with their lives. anyway, i'm really struggling in y current relationship. I love my partner dearly though along time again he commented on how small my breasts are, he asked if i would get breast implants, some time later he told me he'd tit fuck his ex girlfriend a lot, he tried to tit fuck me and it didn't work. He like revealing clothes and i wish i could wear them, but all i have to show off is my ribcage, its not because i'm underweight i just don't store any fat in my breasts. Since that day i've just felt awful and like i'm not good enough as his ex could please him the way he likes and wear the clothes he likes. I think i should break up with him because i don't think i'll ever feel good enough for him. any answers are welcomed, once again many thanks for taking the time of day to read my post, its greatly appriciated,

[AustinMan]

I've been with two women who had breast augmentation. In both cases, when it came up, I made one thing very clear: if she does it, she should do it for herself and not for me or anyone else. They both did indeed feel better about themselves after. There's a strong tendency to over do it so if you were to do it, don't go for huge, just a nice full D cup.

So you need to decide: if you take the current boyfriend out of the equation, is a boob job something you'd consider? If so why?

[Born-for-sex]

It sounds to me like you need to at least dump him to get your head back together. Like Obviously you like him and want to keep him however you feel inadequate. That shouldn’t be on either of you. However it sounds like you are growing apart because of it. I would suggest telling him that you do care for him tremendously but that you need space to appreciate yourself again before you can continue loving him. And who knows maybe that space will teach him to appreciate you better but what you need to do is learn to love yourself weather he can or not. That way if he can’t you will love yourself enough to tear yourself away from that crap.

[ushagomez]

I think in asking us the question you have already given yourself the answer. It is time to move on for he has been at least a little unkind if not worse by making you feel unhappy. You have to balance the love you have for him against is willingness to criticise you unkindly.
Personally, I would definitely move on, but the decision can only be yours. Just my opinion.

[IveGotNoName]

He seems toxic. A guy should never make you feel insecure about something you don't control. And if you need someone to talk to, I'm here.

[na2398]

I agree with you!

[ChrisMaster69]

That’s horrendous behaviour and attitude from that guy.

seriously dump him, any guy that suggests body modifications because he wants them , is scum.

that is the start of a very controlling relationship, first breath, then something else, all of which I guess would come out of your pocket.

definitely kick the tossa in to touch

god I hate guys like that

[Red_Arrow]

I see two choices. Get implants, or get a different guy. Personally, I think you should stay as you are and get a different guy. One who appreciates you and what you have, not some lumps stuck under your skin.

[DavidFox]

I can see why you would feel like you do. Do you often compare yourself to his ex?

[DiegoO]

I am not gonna tell you what to do. You know the answer, and I understand you are craving for friendship, which is Ok, everyone's needs a support group at some point in their life.

Question your relationship with your partner, by answering these 3 questions:

A) "How our relationship goes when we are out of home, in public?" (in the street, a park, a nightclub, a mall, etc).
B) "How is our relationship when (if it ever happened) we go to a family meeting?"
C) "How is our relationship, sexually?" (In the sexual sphere).

✔️The questions cover your relationship with him, in public, in family, and in private.

✓Be completely honest, and for each question, select an answer bellow. Do it at your preference: mentally, or written. *Very satisfying*Not that satisfying.*Not satisfying at all.

[na2398]

Girl, leave him. Find someone who embraces your flaws. Small breasts are not flaws. I can't fathom how people judge others on looks. If you need anyone to talk to, I'm here.

[Twalli]

If he can't accept you the way you are, then you should break up. I personally prefer small breasts, but not all guys do.

[Valnac]

You don’t need that kind of stress in your life.
A man asking you to act like his ex is disgusting.
Definitely leave him.