My boyfriend wants to watch me with another woman?

Question

My boyfriend says he wants to watch me have sex with another woman. I am up for the idea of him watching and even jumping in to be physical with me, but I wouldn't want him to touch her. I do not want to see him have sex with anyone but me. Is this a reasonable requirement if I agree to do it? Any advice or suggestions?

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9 d

Have any other women been in a situation similar to this? I'd love to hear another womans opinion?

Answer 1

SHREYASH007 | 410 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Xper 6

what you say is a bit difficult like how can you stop a guy from touching the other girl, this is surely gonna happen in fact it may be possible that full fledged sex is sure between them.
Only one option is there, you need to find a complete lesbian girl not a bi for this stuff.
So that he is clear that girl will not let him even touch her, better if he can just watch and not be nude infront of you both.

Answer 2

NathanDavis | 104 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Xper 6

yes, this is entirely reasonable, and a common agreement for those who engage in this kind of fun.
make sure your rules and desires are well known in advance.
it will keep all of you safer, and fulfilled by the experience
he might not like the idea at first but he does have to show commitment.

Asker

13 d
Some people say it's wrong for me to ask that of him
NathanDavis

13 d
The way you explained it, says your boyfriend wants to watch only...
and you are into the idea of him watching

so to that point is all well

you even could be up for him joining you and focus on you, not the companion.
and then, it is his choice if he wants to do that too

if he does not want to because maybe he just wants to watch and experience that first, then it's all well too

and the third person has to be on board with what you two want. so...

Answer 3

Asker

Some people say it's wrong for me to ask that of him

Answer 4

NathanDavis

The way you explained it, says your boyfriend wants to watch only...
and you are into the idea of him watching

so to that point is all well

you even could be up for him joining you and focus on you, not the companion.
and then, it is his choice if he wants to do that too

if he does not want to because maybe he just wants to watch and experience that first, then it's all well too

and the third person has to be on board with what you two want. so...

Answer 5

Avicenna | 6.3K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Master

That’s for you and him to decide and agree on. I would think it would be hard for him to completely avoid touching her.

Asker

13 d
That's what I'm worried about... I think if he were to engage with her it could ruin my trust for him and our relationship
Avicenna

13 d
Then say no altogether to avoid this

Answer 6

Asker

That's what I'm worried about... I think if he were to engage with her it could ruin my trust for him and our relationship

Answer 7

Avicenna

Then say no altogether to avoid this

Answer 8

Horny-ashell | 149 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Xper 5

Yes if you're doing this for him and you just want him to sit back and enjoy the show then have her watch the 2 of you since you want to have sex with him afterwards.

Horny-ashell

9 d
If you would like to turn this around you could always tell him that you would like him to watch you with say me I wouldn't have a problem with that. 😉😉

Answer 9

Horny-ashell

If you would like to turn this around you could always tell him that you would like him to watch you with say me I wouldn't have a problem with that. 😉😉

Answer 10

Wise4myage | 5.6K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Guru

Your in control here, so he has to agree to do whatever you say. If he can't agree, then just refuse.

Answer 11

Gedaria | 9.1K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Master

Sounds sexy but. You might have him play with the other girl.

Asker

13 d
But that's what i dont want.. he can watch and play with me but that's it. Those are my terms
Gedaria

9 d
Sadly he can do that to you now..
He wants you have sex with a woman?
Asker

9 d
Yes. He said he wants to watch me and another woman
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Gedaria

9 d
Are you up for that, I watched my wife , playing with a girl friend , it was so sexy..

Answer 12

Asker

But that's what i dont want.. he can watch and play with me but that's it. Those are my terms

Answer 13

Gedaria

Sadly he can do that to you now..
He wants you have sex with a woman?

Answer 14

Asker

Yes. He said he wants to watch me and another woman

Answer 15

Gedaria

Are you up for that, I watched my wife , playing with a girl friend , it was so sexy..

Answer 16

AmeerX | 2.8K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Guru

I think you should learn to be accepting of other girls. He loves you so you should trust him

Answer 17

Meldrum | 882 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Xper 6

Your boyfriend is into that kinky stuff. Apparently one woman isn't enough.

Answer 18

abc--123 | 19.3K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Master

Sound shot but I'd want to play with the other girl too. Maybe not have full sex but suck her tits, licl her pussy that kinda stuff

Answer 19

SpaceGalaxy | 655 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Xper 7

Tell him OK as long as you get to be fucked by him and another man afterwards

Answer 20

harry7825 | 602 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Xper 6

What's your age and why he wants you to fuck with another girl

Answer 21

Jean-Marie_Céline | 1.9K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Master

Honestly I find it disgusting.
But you do you.

Answer 22

Valnac | 12.9K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Guru

What would you do if he did?

Asker

12 d
I don't know. I'd feel betrayed that he couldn't honor my wishes especially since this would all be for his pleasure. It would probably cause trust issues and make me feel insecure with myself and my relationship. On the other hand I think that if it did go my way it could actually make our relationship stronger
Valnac

12 d
I agree with trust issues.

Answer 23

Asker

I don't know. I'd feel betrayed that he couldn't honor my wishes especially since this would all be for his pleasure. It would probably cause trust issues and make me feel insecure with myself and my relationship. On the other hand I think that if it did go my way it could actually make our relationship stronger

Answer 24

Valnac

I agree with trust issues.

Answer 25

mr2inches | 56 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Xper 4

Very cool

Answer 26

gangs_and_guns | 257 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Xper 7

Are u bi?

Asker

13 d
No I'm not
gangs_and_guns

13 d
So why does he want to see u on a girl?
Asker

13 d
It's just a fantasy of his. We have a very active sex life and are pretty kinky. I enjoy bringing his fantasies to life and experiencing new things together. But I'm a little nervous about this. I've had a threesome before but I was single at the time. I'm a pretty territorial girlfriend though.
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gangs_and_guns

13 d
But how can u have sex with a woman if u aren't bi?
Asker

12 d
I dont think I need to be labeled as bi to want to experiment sexually. I've been intimate with a woman before but like I said I was single and it was basically just a fun night amongst friends. I'm not down with watching my partner being sexually pleased by anybody but me. That's MY job 😁

Answer 27

Asker

No I'm not

Answer 28

gangs_and_guns

So why does he want to see u on a girl?

Answer 29

Asker

It's just a fantasy of his. We have a very active sex life and are pretty kinky. I enjoy bringing his fantasies to life and experiencing new things together. But I'm a little nervous about this. I've had a threesome before but I was single at the time. I'm a pretty territorial girlfriend though.

Answer 30

gangs_and_guns

But how can u have sex with a woman if u aren't bi?

Answer 31

Asker

I dont think I need to be labeled as bi to want to experiment sexually. I've been intimate with a woman before but like I said I was single and it was basically just a fun night amongst friends. I'm not down with watching my partner being sexually pleased by anybody but me. That's MY job 😁

My boyfriend wants to watch me with another woman?

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