Boyfriend constantly asking about my sexual history?

[Anonymous]

I never talk about my sexual history with my partners. I don't want to know about their past and frankly it's no one's business. I personally feel this kind of conversation is rife with potential issues and I prefer to mitigate the possibility of "jealousy" or feelings of "inadequacy" by not discussing it. My current boyfriend is constantly pestering me to tell him about my sexual history. It gets to the point where I snap at him to get him to stop, and even then, sometimes he continues. I want to know why anyone would be this insistent on knowing about their partners past. For the record, he's from Italy (has that typical possessive stereotype going on), 30's, is larger than the average man (so I doubt there's any insecurity about his size), claimed it turns him on to learn about my past (but I doubt this because he frequently says things then claims he was "joking"), asks in all kinds of settings (walking, bedroom, cafe etc). Honestly, he sounds like a pain in the arse, and he is, but I like a bit of sparring so it works for me.

[Djaay]

Personably , I think your right about him , although what's all the secrets about. No one's business but your own ) sends a striffling insecurity of it's own. Being a stranger within relations with another are skeletons in the closet This would be fair thing under the umbrella of friends with benefits or one night stand. Find it interesting how many are so into themselves rather than for an appropriate reason all together. Those who withhold the truth about they're history... have one , a big one

[Asker]

Sorry, I don't understand a lot of what you said. What do you mean that you think I'm right about him? We're not friends with benefits. He's my boyfriend.

[Djaay]

My point is , if both of you can't seem to talk straight , speak from the heart , honestly and relaxed about both yourselfs as a team together , there's no good reason to be with one another period. Interestingly enough , he hasn't started talking about himself to you openly to open a prospective conversation about said subject , hoping you would openly reply. So you mentioned that is.

[Asker]

Yeah, nah. Appreciate your input.

[MannMitAntworten]

Not a subject I entertain either. I never ask and most never ask me either.

[Asker]

So, any theory on why he could be insisting?

[MannMitAntworten]

He listen to much to guys who will tell you if a woman has a sexual past with numerous partners that she will never be able to form a true commitment to you is probably why he ask.

[Nicolev1]

Personally id like to know the history of my partner, but i may be weird honestly

[Asker]

Okay, so this could help me understand. Why do you want to know your partner's history?

[Nicolev1]

well i feel like id expect him to ask me a million questions so i kind of expect him to be open on that front. If im going to let him do it, he better be open enough to talk about the past with me

[Asker]

Okay, not the answer I was expecting, but thanks anyway =)

[bullforcucks]

he's self conscious

[Asker]

Thanks for this. That was my immediate reaction but he's so well endowed I can't understand how this could be possible. Though, today, he did slightly allude to getting turned on by hearing about my past. I mentioned "cuckoldry" and he was immediately up in arms - "This is only for men who have tiny penises and can't pleasure their woman!" Sigh

[bullforcucks]

He may be a full cuck or he may just get turned on by hearing your sexual past. Also, being a cuck is not about size. There are cucks that have nice sized cocks. It's entirely a mindset about their place in the relationship relative to the other men you've been with and have the potential to be with.

[Asker]

Interesting. Thanks for your input.

[In_Trance]

I agree with you 100%


Tell him to stop being a little bitch

[Asker]

I mean yeah lol. I just can't comprehend the avid interest and want to know any theories as to why someone would be so intent on knowing. I'm quite certain he does not have a cuck-fetish. Any theory?

[In_Trance]

I don't know... On this specific subject people have this crazy sense of entitlement. There's nothing good from knowing any of the details about this and frankly most people are going to lie anyways lol. And even if they don't how do you ever verify it? So for those reasons I'm out.

[Asker]

Thanks for clarifying =)

[Anonymous]

He might want to know that you think he's the best you ever had.
Or he may be a cuck.
Or maybe he wonders if you have a racial fetish that may cause you to cheat in the future.

[Asker]

I'm unsure how any of what I've said could indicate a racial fetish, would you mind elaborating please? Thanks

[Opinion Owner]

You asked "I want to know why anyone would be this insistent on knowing about their partners past." Racial fetishes are a big thing these days and some people won't date or marry a person with a history of having a specific preference for a different race than their partner. It may not apply to you, but it's pretty common.

[Asker]

Interesting, thanks. Never occurred to me. Though he does keep asking specifically about anyone of colour. Could be.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, sounds like he wants to know if you're into black guys. If so, he might think that your past behaviour is a good indication of your future behaviour.