Overthinking about virginity?

Question

I can't stop thinking about how I lost my virginity to him but he and another girl lost it to each other. It makes me feel like I don’t wanna be with him anymore sometimes. Any wise words or advice?

Answer 1

ChrisMaster69 | 795 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

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Yes I think you are.

focus on there here and now and how you feel about each other.

think about how you feel when you are with him, both good and bad, just don’t focus on sex or virginity.

think about you as a couple - girlfriend boyfriend

all girls invariably loose their virginity and then think back.

some wish it was different on how they lost it, others that it was a different guy.

however, that’s the past, the present and futures what counts.

try not thinking on it too much, as it will drive a wedge in to the relationship, which it sort of sounds like it’s doing.

Asker

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you’re right and it is but I don't know how to make it go away and is been almost a year :/
ChrisMaster69

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It’s a bit like when you do anything where you look back and think ‘oh fuck why oh why’

At some point everyone needs to move forward from anything they did that in hindsight was not a great idea.

The worst thing is to. Dwell on it as it just grows and grows as an issue.

Really, just accept and move on, yes it’s a total pain and you think about it.

Based on how life tends to be, you may meet someone new, they two may or may not have similar, but you would not know and they would not know your history, so things then are no longer an issue.

If it is really bad, then I would suggest just booking a counselling slot and talk it through with a professional.

Guys also at times regret the circumstances they lost their virginity,

But it’s best to push the thoughts of it in to a draw in your mind and no longer dwell on it, just let it slowly drift away.

Answer 2

Asker

you’re right and it is but I don't know how to make it go away and is been almost a year :/

Answer 3

ChrisMaster69

It’s a bit like when you do anything where you look back and think ‘oh fuck why oh why’

At some point everyone needs to move forward from anything they did that in hindsight was not a great idea.

The worst thing is to. Dwell on it as it just grows and grows as an issue.

Really, just accept and move on, yes it’s a total pain and you think about it.

Based on how life tends to be, you may meet someone new, they two may or may not have similar, but you would not know and they would not know your history, so things then are no longer an issue.

If it is really bad, then I would suggest just booking a counselling slot and talk it through with a professional.

Guys also at times regret the circumstances they lost their virginity,

But it’s best to push the thoughts of it in to a draw in your mind and no longer dwell on it, just let it slowly drift away.

Answer 4

Seppel | 938 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

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Virginity is nothing important. You should have thought about that bevore you have Sex with him

Asker

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I did but I caught feelings and didn’t think it would be this big of a deal.
ChrisMaster69

11 d
Virginity is very important, it’s a big step.
Seppel

8 d
OK for me it wasn't. It's Just sex
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ChrisMaster69

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Yeah well, that’s the big difference between most men and women.

For a lot of women it’s something special, for some guys they understand what is being offered,
For other guys it’s just sex, another wet thing around their cock.

Answer 5

Asker

I did but I caught feelings and didn’t think it would be this big of a deal.

Answer 6

ChrisMaster69

Virginity is very important, it’s a big step.

Answer 7

Seppel

OK for me it wasn't. It's Just sex

Answer 8

ChrisMaster69

Yeah well, that’s the big difference between most men and women.

For a lot of women it’s something special, for some guys they understand what is being offered,
For other guys it’s just sex, another wet thing around their cock.

Answer 9

Anonymous

I think it night be kinda normal when I lost mine I felt that way simply because he was pretty much my first everything and I lowkey felt like I didn't mean much to him. It wasn't until after we broke up that we were randomly having a conversation and I said something about it and he said I wish you would have told me how you felt about not being my first and then told me that if it meant anything I am his first love. Lol corny I know but it made me feel like 10 times better. I would just say talk to him about it before breaking up.

Answer 10

In_Trance | 5.5K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

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Yep you're

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