Is it wrong to watch porn when you are in a relationship?

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

I don't see it as an issue...
To break it down, porn is someone watching people having sex and getting turned on by that... And way different than a man that interacts with an onlyfans woman who here could personally text a interact with or men that go on online sites and sex chat, message or sext with women... Watching a porn, you're not personally engaging with that person.
Hell, there's a reason they have guys watch porn at sperm donor banks..
https://www.vice.com/en/article/wd7b8y/this-is-the-porn-sperm-banks-show-their-donors-456
. And just because you're in a relationship, don't mean people won't notice attractive people love doesn't REALLY blind us, love just keeps people from acting on out of they aren't cheaters... I mean it's it any different from still finding actors out models attractive? Or seeing sex scenes in movies? As long as I'm the only one here wants actual sex with, and here's not choosing porn OVER having sex with me, again I don't see it as an issue... When I had back surgery and couldn't have sex with my hubby while I was recovering, why get mad if he watched porn to rub one out 🤷🏼‍♀️ rather that then the guys that would of found someone to have real sex with.. Or chatted with online females...

[Anonymous]

Saw this article on a website why people still masturbate even though they’re in a relationship:

No anxiety when one masturbates (other than the risk of getting caught if that is an issue in the relationship). Often anxiety is a big part of what comes from partner sex: anxiety about how I smell, how my body will perform, will my body perform, does my partner like me, my body, how my body reacts etc. For many people, unfortunately, relationship sex is filled with so much anxiety that it is not enjoyable
A person is tired and masturbation doesn't require the same level of effort, both mentally and physically to perform
It is not painful. For both men and women, relationship sex can be physically painful and the inability to resolve the pain or effectively discuss it with their partner leads to the desiring relationship sex less or avoiding it
A person is bored
A person is bored with their relationship and wants to play out a fantasy in their head
A person is stressed
Because they like it
They don't have to worry about getting rejected by their partner
Their partner is sick, has their period or just doesn't want it when the partner does
They want to do it quick or don't have the time required for relationship sex
Their partner is traveling or away from their partner
It's convenient, like in the shower in the morning or evening
It is their best attempt to remain faithful to the marriage because they are really unhappy and don't have anyway to resolve marital conflict outside the bedroom
They do not desire the kind of sex they will have with their partner
It's fun
They want to indulge in a fantasy that they are: too afraid, embarrassed or fear rejection from their partner to share with them
They just want an orgasm and they know how best to get there in the fastest way possible
To learn more about their own body and what they like and how to reach orgasm

[Browneye57]

Pretty sick isn't it? And you really can't compete, all that depravity and visual shock, over and over and over. He'd rather jerk off to some fake sex vid than be with you. in my opinion that's a dealbreaker. You are what is commonly referred to as a 'porn-widow'. It's more common that you think. Especially with ready access on every electronic device in our possession. Young people today have gotten so used to it they don't think there's anything wrong with it, some will even try to convince you it's good. It's not, it's sick and depraved, and it's all fake.

So here's my recommendation...
Sit him down and make a deal with him. Tell him no more jerking off to porn - if he wants to get his rocks off he comes to you. You become his exclusive and only sexual outlet. PERIOD. But you have to agree to never turn him down - you'll ALWAYS get him off, somehow, some way, whatever it takes. Tell him the alternative is that you walk out the door and never come back.
You'll soon see where his priorities lie. And you have to be good with it either way, no matter which way it turns out.

[Ewgies01]

Not wrong at all. Watch it with him. It’s fun. Agree on what you like first though. I recommend watching hot, steamy, “normal” couples (like real looking people, not porn stars). And you’ll both get in the mood.


If he wants to watch it on his own I don’t mind and he doesn’t mind if I do.

[JackSmy]

With several of the ones I was in a relationship with, we watched TOGETHER. She showed me what she liked, and I showed her what I liked, and we really learned a lot about how to play together!
Sometimes we would find videos, online, and it was like "I need to share this with her" or vice-versa! It can be a lot of fun, and if you accept somethings, maybe, a little unusual, you can have a great time, together, and it brings you closer, makes you more intimate, and trusting, sharing such personal things.

[0112358]

"Would you stop watching porn if your partner satisfies you sexually and you have great sex frequently?"

I'd be open to considering it, but this isn't... how most relationships end up. Usually one person wants much more, the other says too bad, and the higher drive partner masturbates a lot, often to porn.
It would not bother me if my partner used porn got excited and wanted me more, or wanted to show me things they found hot and then attack each other. It would bother me if my partner chose porn OVER me.

[Dragonpurple]

I actually got started on porn when my ex wouldn't let me see her naked very often. I even talked to her about it and she said no, she suggested I go find some porn and stop asking her.

She was very self conscience and liked to do it in the dark or under blankets on the bed.

Do you think its acceptable for the women to refuse to let her man see her naked and then say, no looking at porn or other women naked anywhere else?

[KeiaYamada]

I wouldn't stop watching porn, and I don't expect my partner to either. It's harmless to look at others. And I think it's toxic to expect your partner to only be attracted to you and you alone. If the relationship is monogamous, then obviously you don't sleep with others, but nothing wrong with looking.

[JustinTheGreat]

I don’t really watch porn when I’m in a relationship, not because I think it’s morally wrong or “cheating”
Im just sexually satisfied when I’m taken so I don’t jerk off as much. And when I do it’s either to thoughts of my partner or videos we made ourself.
I’ll still watch porn once in a while though and I don’t mind if my partner does.

[DeathJack]

I think communication is important on this subject.


In most of my relationships the topic comes up and we agree porn is fine together, or if either : one person is feeling particularly sexually frustrated but the other isn’t.
Or
If we there will be an extended period of time where we aren’t able to be with each other then porn is OK. But never within 5 days of seeing each other again.

[Screenwriter]

I don't think it matters a jot if you watch porn occasionally or you masturbate occasionally. If you're doing either CONSTANTLY, that's an issue. If it intereferes with your relationship, you have a problem.

[Agape93]

It’s fine by me. I don’t care who they decide to rub one off too.

[Inexpensivefurniture]

I quit watching porn during my last relationship because my partner had a much higher sex drive than mine. I needed all the energy and horniness I could muster to keep up lol

[Alexandrubaschet08]

I stop just because i don't need animore. I have my girlfriend so she is my personal pornstar ;) :))
But i never had interdiction to watch por in a relationship.

[SlightlyEccentric]

As unrealistic as porn is, it can be a learning lesson about the fantasies of your partner. So I don't see it as a completely bad thing.

[Stevefiveo]

No, it's totally cool. But we have a no masterbation policy unless you get approval from the other one. My wife always makes sure I cum. I haven't had to masterbate since I met her, 15 years ago.

[misanthropistkev]

I would only stop watching solos (my favorite category) sometimes when I’m watching a solo masturbation video I’ll put on the tv and go into a closet and peak at it like a creep makes me shoot huge loads

[Lauren632]

I don't watch it anyways but yeah I don't think you should watch porn in a relationship

[Pulseofsulfur]

Option C:
I'll just cut back on the porn but have more of my energy in loving her

[iGodric]

Depends on the partner. If i am getting no sex and i don't feel like begging like little Dicky I will watch porn.

[Gedaria]

Most girls I know are not upset, about watching porn. Well the porn I watch , it's usually lesbian stuff.

[DragonXR]

I rarely watch porn in general let alone in a relationship. If my partner did watch porn , I would not care as long as it didn't affect our sex life.

[Wise4myage]

I think its fine, and especially if you watch it together.

[Twalli]

I only watch it with my girlfriend if she's over, and then it's less than once a week.

[IndyPhun]

I dont think it's an issue either way. It's always better if you can watch it together, of course.

[GAGSucksBalls1]

if they told you not to, and you're doing it behind their back, yeah

[Valnac]

I stop watching when I’m in a relationship.
She gets all my sexual attention.

[Skaterboi2]

I guess I would be weird. More of a guy thing. If you don’t like it ask him to not do it unless you are with him.

[bananathunder]

i doubt i ever will stop. I haven't met anyone that has had an issue with it either...

[DeeDeeDeVour]

My man & I watch porn together.

[psychoticanimaIIover]

Why would anyone care about that shit.

[COMMODOREII]

Usually my exgfs wanted watch porn with me.

[Hanoi_Jane00]

Yes but even better to make it in a relationship.

[EaterPeter]

Rarely watch when in relationship

[bullforcucks]

i keep watching for sure

[Yellovv]

Nothing wrong with that.

[Anonymous]

Doesn't bother me.

[iseekpinetrees]

1000% acceptable

[devil_8888]

Yes it is.