Why do I have so many crushes on so many guys?

Question

Since sixth grade, at least, I've had so many crushes on real people, fictional characters and even people from cartoons, but I don't know why. I once read about a guy, in a young adults' magazine, who went through the same thing, and people told him he wanted to fall in love himself. This is gonna sounds corny, but yearning for love, basically.
So I assume that's the case for me as well. But I don't understand why I develop feelings for guys with girlfriends. Cause I really don't want to be that girl that only dates taken guys, cause that just never ends well for anyone. Antoher detail, I've never had a boyfriend. I've never been touched nor had any "admirers", except a dirty old man who called me cute, but I so don't believe he had love in mind... I've never even had my first kiss and I'm 23. Most people had their first before 20 att least. 🙄 I remember asking my homeroom teacher in fifth grade when she'd had her first boyfriend. She said when she was seven, which didn't make me feel better. I liked her, but she wasn't feminine at all. Short her like a guy, and so fit she didn't seem to have boobs. When I first saw her, I couldn't tell if she was a she or a he. Cause she looks like a he, but her name is Ann, so she couldn't have been a guy... And if you're going to attempt to answer this, PLEASE DO NOT copy what I just said because that's not what I want. If you can answer and explain in your own words, that's what I want. And if you can't, then there's no point in answering at all.

Answer 1

Anonymous

If you’re naturally romantic (like a libra, etc) then you’re just drawn to the idea of love, in my opinion. You imagine the potential with the person and get caught up in that feeling. It’s quite normal and easy for this to happen, especially since you haven’t had any romantic experience before.

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That sounds more romantic than I can picture myself being, yet reasonable. But My crushes fade quickly sometimes. And another odd thing, when I fantasize about my current crush, it's more of a sexual scenario than a romantic. But maybe that's just because sexual scenarios are more exciting than romantic ones... 🤔
Opinion Owner

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I think your crushes fade quickly because the notion in itself (a crush) is quite fleeting. If nothing becomes of the crush then eventually you move on to another point of interest without even realizing it. As far as the fantasizing goes, maybe that’s just built up sexual frustration if you’re not the type of person to “take care” of yourself, if you catch my drift. Not to mention as you get older you’re gonna wonder more and more about hooking up with someone and what it’s like, until you actually do it. At least that’s what I experienced during my time as a virgin lol.

Answer 2

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That sounds more romantic than I can picture myself being, yet reasonable. But My crushes fade quickly sometimes. And another odd thing, when I fantasize about my current crush, it's more of a sexual scenario than a romantic. But maybe that's just because sexual scenarios are more exciting than romantic ones... 🤔

Answer 3

Opinion Owner

I think your crushes fade quickly because the notion in itself (a crush) is quite fleeting. If nothing becomes of the crush then eventually you move on to another point of interest without even realizing it. As far as the fantasizing goes, maybe that’s just built up sexual frustration if you’re not the type of person to “take care” of yourself, if you catch my drift. Not to mention as you get older you’re gonna wonder more and more about hooking up with someone and what it’s like, until you actually do it. At least that’s what I experienced during my time as a virgin lol.

Answer 4

Paulychicago10 | 851 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

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Its just human nature sometimes. Some people strive for the best and create these infatuations for the opposite sex and usually on more than just one person. Its normal human behavior.

Answer 5

zeddend31

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Hahah really? thats normal i think everyone sometime have crush :P :P

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You think so? I don't want to disagree with you, but for the record, I've had a crush on

Disneys Pinocchio & Donald Duck & Quasimodo & Jim Hawkins & (young) Herkules

The minion Kevin from "Minions"

Legolas from lotr

Ash Ketchum from Pokémon

(6 other different guys from animes, excluding Ash ofc)

Enyo (the main character in an Australian series called "Legend of Enyo")

Shaun from The Good Doctor

Sherlock from BBC

3 guys that already had girlfriends, and those girlfriends were my friends.

One of my best (girl) friends.

Nick Burkhardt from Grimm

5 different classmates since 5th-9th grade.

MAYBE Ben Jones from Midsomer Murders, he's my favourite of Barnabys' Juniors anyway (Barnaby was the main character and DCI for 13 seasons).

That's a grand total of 26, 27 if we include Ben. ^^

Not trying to brag or anything, just saying I've had many crushes, and that's just those I remember. Could be a couple more.

¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Answer 6

Asker

You think so? I don't want to disagree with you, but for the record, I've had a crush on

Disneys Pinocchio & Donald Duck & Quasimodo & Jim Hawkins & (young) Herkules

The minion Kevin from "Minions"

Legolas from lotr

Ash Ketchum from Pokémon

(6 other different guys from animes, excluding Ash ofc)

Enyo (the main character in an Australian series called "Legend of Enyo")

Shaun from The Good Doctor

Sherlock from BBC

3 guys that already had girlfriends, and those girlfriends were my friends.

One of my best (girl) friends.

Nick Burkhardt from Grimm

5 different classmates since 5th-9th grade.

MAYBE Ben Jones from Midsomer Murders, he's my favourite of Barnabys' Juniors anyway (Barnaby was the main character and DCI for 13 seasons).

That's a grand total of 26, 27 if we include Ben. ^^

Not trying to brag or anything, just saying I've had many crushes, and that's just those I remember. Could be a couple more.

¯\_(ツ)_/¯

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