Guys, I've never been submissive, yet I find myself submitting more and more?

I'm not a submissive personality. I'm very dominant in most areas of my life. Yet with my boyfriend, I'm submitting more and more. Like... in bed. Normally I'm in control, now I prefer him in control. Is it usual to just. Switch? Do men prefer submissive women?
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  • Most men definitely prefer submissive women, at least the type of men most women desire. it's also very normal and natural for a woman to be submissive, definitely in bed, but also in their relationships. men prefer submissive women and women prefer dominant men. it's nature. i think a lot of women say they are not submissive, or they tell themselves that because that's how they think it's "supposed to be" (feminism and all). but as they mature and understand their true nature better and learn more about what actually makes them happy, they start to let go of that artificially imposed behavior. my wife was like that. when we were first dating she tried so hard to be dominant and resist her submissive nature. she saw herself as dominant and she so wanted to believe she was, but it just created tension and drama in our relationship and made us both unhappy. she ended up seeing a counselor and got it all sorted out in her mind. she is now happily submissive in our relationship and especially in bed, and our marriage has been awesome for four years.

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  • In my admittedly unscientific sample of a few dozen women, I've found that the more assertive and ambitious a woman is professionally, the more she needs and enjoys submitting sexually. You like it. Stop over thinking it and just bend over and take it happily.

    DM if you'd like to discuss further.

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  • My far-from-expert understanding is that people who are dominant, powerful figures in most aspects of their day-to-day lives frequently are (to some extent) sexually submissive, as it gives them a chance to relax and let someone else take control.

  • I prefer women that let me lead but follow enthusiastically like the Tango.

  • The older you get, the more you'll want a more rough, dominant type guy. I've nailed tons of Cougars who say the love a man who takes charge. It just takes the right type of Alpha stud like me to bring it outta ya!

  • I love submissive women. They are the best.

  • I prefer to switch and i find dominant women hot af.

  • It's actually fairly common for people to be the opposite in the bedroom. Dominant men and women in the real world are often more submissive in the bedroom. In contrast most men in menial jobs are fairly dominant in the bedroom. It is considered relaxing to submit in one aspect of your life when you have to dominate others.

  • That's pretty normal

  • Talk in dm?

    • She literally has a boyfriend fool

    • Making India proud

    • Does having a boyfriend and taking in dm have any connection?

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  • its fun

  • I certainly prefer a submissive woman