Why can't I feel any kind of romantic or sexual attraction?

[Deadpan]

I've always felt like a freak because I've never felt any kind of sexual or romantic attraction to anybody or anything. The idea of sexual desire/attraction is foreign to me. I'm a virgin because I've never wanted sex. I've never dated or had a significant other because I don't even really understand what it feels like to want those things. I guess it's like trying to explain what the color red looks like to someone who was born blind.

I've never felt the urge to masturbate or watch pornography. I've never had sexual dreams... I got my blood checked to see if it was a hormonal problem and they said my testosterone levels were abnormally high, about 1600 ng/dl, which doesn't make any sense to me. My therapist says I should just accept myself as I am but I feel as though there's something deeply wrong with me. I've spoken to people who identify as Asexual but almost all of them still have "romantic" desire even if they don't have sexual desire. I have neither. I feel inhuman.

[Gabisitooq]

Maybe you should try to feel something... like try and then say that you don’t like it or you feel neutral. I think it’s more about the mindset or the environment you were raised at. Maybe relationships, sex... were shown to you as a bad thing, so your brain refuses to accept it. ( just a theory tho 😉)

[Deadpan]

Thank you.

[Anonymous]

This makes me sad. I don’t know what to tell you. Maybe try putting yourself out there. Maybe you’ll feel a warmth or connection with an actual person.

[Legendary_Shark]

No need to feel sad. What he feels, It is as normal as being straight, wanting to be with someone, whatsoever. I think we all need to normalize how aromantic/ asexual people feel instead of adding up to their discomforts caused by unawareness/ lack of acceptance/ fucking stereotypes, whatever

[Deadpan]

@Anon Thank you for responding. I guess I'm just going to have to learn to live with it.

[Inexpensivefurniture]

It sounds like you might be asexual and aromantic, meaning you don't desire relationships either.

[JustADamnCrackhead]

So are you producing a healthy amount of the "happy" hormones? Like Dopamine and Oxytocin?

[Deadpan]

I don't know. I don't feel sad or anything like that. I just feel neutral.

[JustADamnCrackhead]

Neutral? Even not feeling happiness?

[Deadpan]

Not really. I guess I'm just going to have to live with it. Thank you for responding though. It means a lot.

[KeiaYamada]

Sounds like you're asexual and aromantic.

[Deadpan]

I guess so. Thanks for responding.

[Tuna陶拿恆]

Do you also don’t care about anything?

[Deadpan]

Yeah, I'm just about dead inside.

[Tuna陶拿恆]

As I thought. I can’t provide any guidance as I am nearly in the same situation as you except for some. I hope you solve it

[Deadpan]

Thanks you.

[Anonymous]

Because you are more than likely asexual.

[Deadpan]

I guess so. Thanks for taking the time to respond.

[Anonymous]

I am asexual with no romantic desire which makes me an aromantic too, basically, aroace...

[Opinion Owner]

I haven't com across any asexual/ aromantic before (did not care enough for my own orientation either) but I don't think there's anything different I feel from what you've described, except for the part that it does not concern me like it does to you Any specific reasons as to why you feel concerned/ find it weird? I think that's pretty normal for an aroace (which I think you too are) to fee so

[Deadpan]

I guess it concerns me because I feel as though I'm missing out on something important.

[Deadpan]

Thank you for the response.