Can I be Bisexual if I find the appearance of both male and female genitals to be a turn off?

[Anonymous]

I'm 17, almost 18, so it's not like I'm only just discovering sexuality at all. On top of the title question, while I romantically fantasize about men more, I often don't know what I'm supposed to find attractive on a masculine body. I like the feminine body more and immediately know what I like about it, but I don't romantically fantasize about women much at all. I know I'm still young and have plenty of time to figure these things out, but I wanted to know if anyone who knew more than me or has already figured this stuff out might be able to offer some insight.

[ChrisMaster69]

Yeah you can be.

attraction is more than just sexual and sexual body parts.

it’s deeper and complex.

our minds try and sift through tons of sensory and physical stuff, this then gets thrown in to the like, dislike, attract bin.

I know straight guys that really don’t like pussy’s as in how they look etc, but they are married kids etc.

humans are an odd bunch, you are just starting an exciting journey, relax, don’t be phased, take things slowly and let your brain work things out, but don’t be scared to go with your gut feelings.

[summiter]

I think you are just figuring things out. Have you fooled around with a guy like handjobs or oral? Have you fooled around with a girl? Do you think about guys or girls when you masturbate?

[Asker]

Have not fooled around with anyone but myself. Although I've online dated a girl (Not the same, I know), and have fantasized about girl friends but not guy friends, but then I only have one guy friend... When masturbating, I'll think of both, but when I think of a man, it's never the features that properly identify him as a man. It's just like the idea of a man... Or it's girls and boobs/curvy bodies, which is a lot more identifiably feminine. I rarely masturbate to videos/pictures/imaginations of actual sex, just bodies.

[summiter]

Well enjoy the solo orgasms. Maybe try fooling around with a guy a little and see if you like it. If not just be yourself for who you are. No one should judge!

[Anonymous]

You can be heterosexual and still find women attractive. You can sexualize women, be turned on by the sight of the female body and still be heterosexual. Visual stimuli works different for women.

Unless you have had sexual and romantic relationships with girls in real life. If you have had relationships with both men and women, then you're bisexual.

If you haven't, emotional attraction is more important in order to determine someone's sexual orientation. People can be sexually aroused by literally anything.

[Opinion Owner]

@Mandoulaze7 Sexual desire, arousal, and identity are all complicated forces that often conflict with each other when it comes to women. Women exhibit arousal nonconcordance, which means that is only a 10 percent overlap between what a woman’s genitals (or pupils) are doing and her subjective level of arousal. With men, their genitals respond somewhat predictably with their subjective arousal, that is 50 percent of the time. With women, 90 percent of the time, her body and brain are on completely different wavelengths. In other words, a woman’s genitals respond to ANY stimuli it deems sexually relevant. But that doesn't mean that they secretly want to act on it.

[Destiel_24]

You know sexual and romantic attraction not always go together right? You can be biromantic and bisexual like me and it works but you can also be heterosexual and homoromantic or asexual and biromantic

[KeiaYamada]

Yes, you can still be bisexual. Don't need to like genitals to be attracted to them.

[Tamera952]

Who knows? Go with the flow before finding it necessary to label it, or categorize it.

[Ninani]

If you are only romantically attracted to either/both genders you might be asexual.

[Asker]

But I do experience sexual attraction and desire, just never to actual sexual organs. And then it feels like what does sexually interest me conflicts with what romantically interests me. I guess it's possible for romantic gender preference to conflict with sexual gender preference, but... I was hoping that wasn't me, because it sounds like it would make relationships a lot harder...

[Ninani]

Sure sounds complicated. Best of luck with finding out!

[Lottifan]

You can be bisexual. Genitals are not the most attractive things. I felt the same as you when I was younger.

[Schizoaffective]

Yea you can be bisexual but I don't see why you need to give a label for it.
Just explore and do what feels best for you

[Born-for-sex]

Sounds to me like you need a man who would be okay with thresomes and allowing you to remain open for girls.

[Wise4myage]

Your asexual.

[MountAverage]

Yeah, of course. Sexual orientation is about people and their gender, not about specific body parts.

[Clarke498]

Yeah, just an asexual bisexual.

[NYlatefun]

Maybe asexual? I don’t know much about the definitions though

[Anonymous]

Some people just don’t like how genitals look, you could be bisexual, do you like how breasts look? Since they are not genitalia

[Anonymous]

I think you are actually pretty normal, at lest for a woman. Female sexuality is one of the most studied yet least understood things in human nature. It just doesn't make much sense.

Chances are you are bisexual. Most women are to some degree. Just relax and don't worry about it.

[Anonymous]

U said ur turned off by both male and female privates?

[Asker]

Yeah?

[Opinion Owner]

If they turn u off then u can’t really b bisexual or straight

[Asker]

But I'm not asexual, because I definitely don't want a life without sex. I do want love, and I do want the close connection that sex can have. I like the idea of sex, but not the way it looks...

[Opinion Owner]

Ahh ok.