Is my porn addicted husband's choice of porn watching normal?

[Anonymous]

I posted a question not long ago asking for feedback as to whether it would be wise to try to work things out and stay with my husband who I found out after we were married is severely addicted to watching porn. It has ruined our marriage and intimacy, as the consumption and masturbating was up to several times a day and he would always reject any of my advancements for intimacy. We have only had sex a handful of times in the 3 years we have been married. I had decided to try to stay as long as he seeks out professional help. However... I found the following types of porn in his history, and I would like some feedback from other men as to whether or not it seems normal or if I am warranted in my deep level of discomfort and concern. I found anime/comic porn involving animals, school aged girls, vampires, tentacles, choking, rape, transgender porn or "self fucking" such as characters who have penises and can fuck themselves in the ass. The history of the usual videos of porn included transgender, orgy, lesbian, and heterosexual encounters. I am a rape and domestic violence survivor. Not only does the violence in the porn worry me, but also the comics involving animals/young girls, and the transgender porn. He claims he isn't gay, bisexuality, or attracted to children. Can anyone give me some honest feedback on this type of consumption of porn?

[DeathJack]

The only real worrying part of this list of things is school aged girls,
Now, The reasoning behind that choice is paramount, because the outfit choice could be a fetish, but if the age is a factor, I'd be worried.

The rest of the things you mentioned, not abnormal. As someone who quite regularly initiates conversations with friends / strangers about sex / porn / fetishes and just in general random shit that people tend to watch when they are horny or bored of what they usually see, all of these topics come up pretty regularly, aside from the school girl part.

I don't know how I'd have advised you in the first place if I saw your question. I'd like to believe i'd have told you to leave, especially if he wasn't seeking professional help. As your husband I'm assuming he's old enough to know better than to be sitting infront of porn all his life. So you should have divorced and moved on, especially if sexually and intimately your marriage is over, because if they're gone. Why are you still there? There's nothing he's providing you with apart from stress and worry over this.

[CasaNorba]

it sounds like he does have a porn addiction after all. if he's picking porn over you then that alone is a major issue and he definitely needs help

of course I wouldn't worried about the subgenres too much as I along with many other men watch some of those genres of porn as well.

[John_Galt]

Well porn is fantasy and people enjoy lots of fantasies about things they would never do in real life. Also people that develop porn addictions tend to delve deeper and deeper into strange things like that. It’s what they need to do get the same chemical reaction in their brain. The way drug addicts always need more and more of a drug in a single use to achieve the same high.

I think your concerns should be focused on what you said in the beginning... how often he watches porn, how often he masturbates, how those two things are damaging y’all’s intimacy and relationship, how his addiction is affecting his job and relationships, etc, etc.

the content of the porn isn’t really the problem here. Sort of like how the drug of choice for drug addicts isn’t the problem... it’s how they use them and everything caused by it.

[Red_Arrow]

Some people have porn tastes that are a bit weird. But his are way off! You should have left him right after you found that his sexual preference was weird porn and not you. Don’t waste any more of your life with him!

[Lynx122]

Yes it is normal when you watch a lot of porn you keep pushing your boundaries of what turns you on and you'll dive deeper into your kinks and fantasies. Most guys will have weird search histories. In some ways I think it's good to explore your sexuality and be less inhibited about it but you also have to keep in mind that this is not realistic and not lose touch with reality. I think the problem is not what he watches but that he's addicted to porn, that's what you should focus on.

[Danny_dan92]

Considering he’s addicted to it. Yeah

[havingfun101]

Guys, women marry for money and stop putting out, don't be this pathetic fool.

[Asker]

I'll have you know I did not marry my husband for money and I have spent more time trying to initiate sex from my husband just to get rejected than I care to even admit. 🙄

[havingfun101]

He's a fool he could be single right now.

[Asker]

You can kindly get the fuck off my post if you're gonna be a price.

[havingfun101]

Hahahaha!

[AmeerX]

I think you are just worried for nothing. Try acting out those vids he sees a lot.

[Gedaria]

I'm surprised you didn't notice before you were married.
I love my porn , but both of my wives knew about it , in fact they were more into it than me.
But I think it's your past that has more to do with it.
Rape and domestic violence, can change your view on this.
It's difficult to get through it.

[Glasgow55]

I think you need to seriously consider your position in this relationship. If he’s rejecting your advances while masturbating 3 times a day, to porn, then there’s something seriously wrong. I’m not giving advice, but if it was me, I’d be out of there.

[In_Trance]

i think so

[OddBeMe]

Its not "abnormal" per se, but it is a problem he should seek help with. I've been there and it affects the sex life.