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Girls, did I become gay now?

Hello to you all! Well, my ex girlfriend left me, because I confessed to her that I have been having desires towards men and that I also like wearing female clothes and panties (mostly panties), so she reacted badly and left me. I am sad and broken, also alone and devastated, but I have been wearing her clothes and panties (which she left) since she left and I have been chatting with men in dating sites and yesterday night I hook up with one guy. I will spare the details, but I was only in girl's role and I loved it.. I am sure that I will want to do it again.. And I am wondering did I become fully gay.. And also what do you think, should I tell my ex about that?
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  • I won't choose any of the two options from above. I think that you are more attracted to men than women. So you could be either gay or bi. You need more experience because this might be new to you. I understand that you might want to know yourself more and better. You are just beginning to explore yourself so it is too early to know. If you ever don't feel like you are attracted to women anymore then you are a gay. I wanted to add that I appreciate how you were more open about it and chose not to go anonymous. You should share with people you trust and also like now you did. I am sure you will do great. Don't feel sad. If you want, I can talk to you (since you said you are alone and devastated, i wanted to be of some help).

  • I think "yes", you might be gay now but "no", you shouldn't tell your ex about it.

    That's awesome that you were able to experiment and that you liked it! Maybe your sexuality is leaning towards being attracted to only men. But I still think, after such a short time being broken up, that you should take some time to recollect and think about your ex's feelings about the matter as well.

    But please don't tell your ex about your experience, this might hurt her more after being broken up for only a couple of days. When she's ready to talk to you, just say that you've perhaps moved on and that you enjoy the sexual company of men but you also like her emotional company. You might be able to salvage a friendship.

    • Thank you for your asnwer, sweetie! <3

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  • Don't be in such a rush to let other people label you. Only you can do that. Do YOU feel like a gay man? Because you could also be bi. Depends on whether you keep experimenting and over time start to define what you really like. I get it can be a confusing time for you, but as a girl I will try to see it from her point f view. I would have felt badly if the guy I was dating confessed something like that to me. But it's not like you planned it or cheated on her so I hope she wasn't too cruel to you either. I wouldn't go into detail and tell her all that you did, just text her that you are sorry how things ended, wish her the best and tell her you are trying to figure out your own stuff but it didn't had anything to do with her as a woman, that it wasn't that she wasn't enough or something.
    I hope you figure out who you are and what you like without too much hatred and difficulties.

  • Dude! Are you brain dead?
    You just broke up with this woman. She is NOT INTERESTED in your stories about having sex WITH MEN while you are dressed up as a WOMAN!!!
    Do you not see how this is perverse!

    I realize you want to have someone to share your experiences with.
    IT IS NOT YOUR STRAIGHT EX GIRLFRIEND!

    I am straight and rather laissez faire and somewhat open minded and I DON'T WANT TO HEAR ABOUT THAT. I'm not interested and do you not realize how much that will HURT HER FEELINGS!

    You are a foolishly selfish bastard. Go online on some gay sites and I'm sure you'll find someone to chitchat with about your new escapades.
    Go see a therapist too and find out if you're a narcissist. You sure sound like one.

  • Having a good time during one sexual encounter doesn't determine your sexuality for the rest of your life. The subjects is much more involved and more nuanced than that. Only you can determine what your personal sexuality is & the fact is that many people are not 100% straight or gay, there are many options for people who are uncomfortable defining themselves so strictly. No matter what conclusion you come to, you're a person of value & worth who deserves to be respected especially by yourself. Try not to have any bias against any specific outcome, live your life for a while exploring the feelings and ideas that come naturally to you and be whomever you truly are meant to be.

    • I share this exact opinion but have to add not to hurt others in the process.

    • @DetroitGirl36... I completely agree, that's a good point. I think that following the Golden Rule & treating others as you'd like to be treated is the only way to behave in any scenario. And of course, the matter of respecting people's personal boundaries & ensuring that everyone involved is a consenting adult is also very critical in any relationship between any two people.

  • Someone doesn't "become" gay or otherwise... you either are or you're not. Only you can answer that question, regardless of your girlfriend's bad reaction or what clothes you're experimenting with wearing -- as those are not important and just peripheral things.
    You know what turns you on -- meditate on it, and figure it out. Embrace it.

  • You can be gay actually and still feel a bit of attraction to women
    You need some time to think and decide
    Also do not tell your ex, but if you are sure you are gay
    Tell her that you realized you're gay
    Do not tell her you had sex that may hurt her

    • Hello sweet Aurora. Thank you for your answer. I will listen to you. I am not sure if I am gay tho.. I am confused. Sorry that I didn't answered you before in the other question, but I didn't have time..

  • It doesn't work that way.
    U either gay/bi and been surpressing it or ur not.
    U don't wake up and go oh no. I caught the gay.
    It doesn't work that way. It's not a disease.

    • Well I was and I am confused, thats for sure..

    • That's normal, u need 2 figure it out. You owe yourself that much

  • Your probably just Bi. Why do you have to be gay? You can be attracted to both equally.

  • You are gay now! Time to test out various penises.

    • Well, I already tested one, I hope in future to test out more.. :)

    • Was it thick?

  • Perhaps you are just bisexual. Do you still desire women too as well as men?

    • Not so much..

    • Yes, I’d say you are gay! 🙂

  • You're not necessarily fully gay. You can be bisexual. But for find out that you have to think if you still have desire for women's too. Is normal your girlfriend left you because you were thinking about other person. And if you guys broke up you do not have to tell anything to her.

    • Well I can't say that I have desires for women now... Only for my girlfriend (ex now)... :(

    • Your ex is a woman. So maybe you are a bi, in a man fase. But there is no difference between heterosexuals, gays or bisexuals. So why are you worried about that? You just love people like we all do.

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