Girls, can you help me decide?

Question

Can you help me decide and understand what I am exactly.. I love dressing up like a girl and I love d*cks.. But I also look really masculine in reality and I like that part of me too.. I had hopes and dreams to found true love and romance with a woman, but now these desires are not that strong.. The first pics in which I am dressed up are from two years ago and the other (normal) ones are from last year.. So can someone help me.. I am not a troll, I swear.. I am just so confused, messed up.. :(

meetkitty123 · Accepted Answer

Why not have both. I believe you're seeing your situation as a hindrance. Why not embrace it instead of condoning it. The way I see it you can have your cake and eat it too.
You love your feminine side and your masculine side so combine it.
Wear women underwear underneath your masculine clothes. Pick things that you love that's soft elegant silky sexy feminine such as pantyhose stockings thongs lingerie even bras and wear them under your sexy masculine clothes. Buy womens v neck t-shirts in a neutral color (greys white or black) to calm your feminine side... Such a style shirt would look good on a man too.
Add some "feminine" cosmetic grooming to your routine such as... Manicures and pedicures. Clear or black nail polish on hands or feet is acceptable for either gender and has nothing to do with sexual orientation.
If anyone asks why you are wearing nail polish STAND STRAIGHT PROUD AND TALL and declare you are participating in the Polished Man campaign project! (A real campaign to end child abuse especially child abuse inflicted by men. a campaign where male athletes and regular men wear nail polish)
Furthermore a cool thing about clear gel nail polish is that some actually glow in the dark. Which can actually make you feel quite feminine in secret when the lights are out.
Next Wax your eyebrows... Which by the way a pair of well manicured eyebrows on a man is quite sexy! Wax or shave your thighs legs and feet to give yourself a feminine touch... Which you can either boast and show off with a pair of shorts and mens sandals or you can choose to hide with a pair of long pants and sneakers.
Consider piercing your ears. This is also a gender neutral act. Pierce ears on men are quite sexy. The cool thing is that once your piercing heals you can switch the studs for more feminine earrings which you can wear in private. Diamond or gold studs during the day and femine earrings at night!
Now for some sexual Ideas...
Ever considered dating a man and a woman?
Ever considered dating a couple?
Some couples are looking for that third person.
Ever tried testing out a mental fantasy. Try imaging yourself laying with a man and a woman at the same time. How does this fantasy make you feel? Can you envision yourself getting head from both a sexy naked woman and a hot man at the same time?
How would picturing yourself sandwich between a hot man and a sexy woman make you feel? Test out imagining yourself being pounded from behind by a sexy man as you pound into a lovely sexy woman. Or you can test out imagining being pegged by a woman with a strap on as you pound into a man.
The possibilities in your situation is endless you just have to have an open imagination and embrace who You are or can be. 😉😘!

VenusXO · Accepted Answer

Hello! Hi! I've answered on a few of your questions recently. I understand that this is all very confusing and that you want answers now so you can have a better grasp on your identity. But from experience, just do what you enjoy/feels right, don't worry about labels and just live your life as best as you can. Obviously you're apart of LGBTQIA community, so just read up on it and meet up with other local LGBTQIA people to get to know them as a person and have a good time. Eventually with being active in the LGBTQIA community, staying up to date on LGBTQIA topics and just living your best life, you'll Eventually figure out your "label" or maybe you'll become comfortable with who you are but without a specific label. Who knows.
This is the route I've gone and ony journey I've come to some conclusions but other things are still up in the air. I was born female but I identity as non-binary, which really is just an umbrella term under an even bigger umbrella term (transgender). I'm comfortable non-binary being as indepth I describe my gender. Because I really don't know what I am past that😅 I'm assuming genderfluid or genderflex or something similar. Because I don't stick to one specific gender. Most of the time I'm agender/nongender, second most common for me is feminine, and the third is like androgynous leaning slightly masculine? I don't know lol see it's confusing 😅 and we haven't even gone into sex and romance yet

So just be you, have fun doing it and if and when a label feels right, you'll know💕

CrazyGirl2 · Answer

You don’t need our opinions, you need to find someone near you with the same preference, but with some experience. And ask them for advice. Believe me, you’ll get better advice, and you won’t get judged like I’m sure you will here!

menina · Answer

I see that you're very confused and trying to look for answers.
I would say you're either transgender or gay.
Perhaps you should look for professional help or for people near you who went through the same experience. They would help you more.

Good luck! 😊

electromagnetic · Answer

Hey Batkoo0, I think your best option would be to seek out someone who can sit with you and talk it out with you as to what you truly want and like. maybe seeing someone in your town how can offer you quality time and a piece of mind might be a good option.
being confused is absolutely okay. You’re not messed up in any way shape or form.

roody · Answer

I'm definitely not a professional, I do recommend you see one to help you better understand yourself and your emotions however, perhaps you are genderqueer/non-binary? Meaning somedays you feel more feminine and somedays you feel more masculine, like you belong somewhere in between the two, with no label? That would be my guess based on the pictures and information.

HollyF · Answer

It just sounds like you're a crossdresser

SphynxUK · Answer

You should see a professional. You could be ‘anything’, but the first thought I had was that you are a bisexual man, who also enjoys cross dressing.

While you wait for answers, how about just enjoying wearing the clothes you have, be they ‘men’s’ or ‘women’s’.

eileen_ruth · Answer

Into cross dressing and gay with comp het? Homo flexible?

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

A gay man with some bi tendencies

JosyJosy · Answer

I already did, you just need to accept it.

pleasestopthis · Answer

It sounds a bit like you could be transgender, but you don't seem to hate your male body... maybe getting professional help could help you sort out your thoughts and feel more at peace. And I don't think you should be too worried about labels, because things are not always black or white, sometimes you can find something in between.

babygirlrocki · Answer

you can do what i do and buy clothes from both gender sctions and mix and match tto what ypu feel that day or if you feel both you could wear girls underwear guys jeans a girls top and what ever shoes you feel goes with the outfit dont choos between guys and girls it is what you feel right in

mydisgustingfather · Answer

you are nice guy. but I like your second picture. i can not know. which one you love?

Alicia740 · Answer

you're cool enough to be a man and women will feel protected around you, considering the fact that you're masculine and handsome... i like men like you