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Do you think this was rude of my friend to say or am I overreacting?

My best friend has made a only fans and this guys asking for a girl/girl sex tape and she asked me to do it which i said no as i don’t wanna be on onlyfans, i don’t want everyone to see me even though it’s a lot of money it’s just not something i’d wanna do, i get upset even when a boy uses me for stuff like that. I said no and she replied with ‘Haha ok but don’t be begging me to make one when i’m making a lot of money’

is this rude of her to say? I mean i just don’t wanna make one i don’t want random men to be stating at me naked lol that’s for my man to see
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  • No, it isn't rude, she made a decision, you made a decision. She's going for the profit on there, basically being an online stripper. You're not cool with that, so you didn't do it. All that she's saying is not to regret your decision. It's childish to say it that way, and my guess is she's saying it more because either she couldn't find another girl, or had to pay her more.

    So, no to both, it isn't rude, she's trying to double dog dare you to get naked with her on camera, as you won't see how much she's getting paid, and she can pay you less, then after the first time it's easier to get you to continue to do so, tactics.

    It isn't you over reacting because you don't want to have your naked body published for strange men to masturbate to, both seem reasonable to me. I did modelling and was absolutely furious when someone else posted my images on a server that wasn't redirecting to my photographer's site so he would want to pay me for more photoshoots as well as other photographers. When that's your bread and butter you have to be ruthless about it.

    Likewise, you have lines you won't cross, you need to be ruthless there too. Otherwise you lose your sense of self and identity. So, if you want to make money off onlyfans, buy some stock in it or become a "producer" of talent (be their pimp), why bother with something so ephemeral unless you're getting a bigger piece of the pie and not having to deal with the requests?

Most Helpful Guy

  • You made your decision, stand by it. Your friend wasn't insulting you. All she said was that if you have a change of heart and want to do it because of the money she may make (for the sake of the point, let's say it made her millions of dollars) she probably won't let you join her because you now have the incentive of a lot of money if she tried again down the road.

    Missing out is what she is summing it up to be if you change your mind and want it because of the money she may make in the process. She probably thought highly of you enough if she asked you to star in it with her and potentially earn money. It's not like she slut shamed you or called you something synonymous to that of a chicken.

Most Helpful Girls

  • I think she felt self conscious that you turned her down and that’s why she said that. Just tell her you still value her friendship, you support her, but you aren’t going to be doing that for any amount of money.

  • She was making light of the situation.
    Didn't seem rude to me at all.

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  • Saying no is absolutely in your purview. If she doesn't understand or refuses to understand that's on her.

  • I think you are great I think you are wise you are smart you are beautiful and you would make 10 times more money than your friend and you probably will anyway without doing what she's doing I've never been on fans only and I probably won't ever go there anyway but what I love about you and your heart and that you are a leader and that you won't sell yourself short it's not all about money all the time look up one of the naughtiest guys around but for me you just turn me on more than your friend would ever Turn Me On by being you and being that leader

    • Thank you so so much for this reply!!!

    • Well I think it's cool that you take a stand and choose who you want to be see I believe in what you believe in I also understand the way she's doing it and why,, for me I love kink but I also pick who I want to kink with and not in and open form

  • Not exactly rude of her, could be seen as manipulative cause she basiclly said " do it with me now or you'll never get another chance again"

    She sounds a little butthurt that you said no.
    And it's not very cool of her that she isn't willing to wait and see if you are ever comforable with it, instead she opted to burn the bridge with a "now or never" response.

    Your better off not doing something you aren't comforable with, and if you ever decide you want to do onlyfans you can do it on tour own, despite what she would like you too think, you dont need her help to get into the industry.

  • No sounds like she felt slighted and tried to laugh it off

    • Ohh lool okay

  • How would you feel if a guy you really liked all of a sudden saw this video online and suddenly his opinion of you drops like a rock?

  • It likely took her a lot of courage to ask you. I get the impression she is okay with your choice and respects your decision. What she said afterwards sounds like a lighthearted joke to show she is not angry.

  • I don't think your friend was being "rude," as such. I think you did the right thing though. No one should ever do anything they're not comfortable with, particularly sexually. Well done for standing up for yourself. Often, it's very easy to cave in to peer pressure.

  • Well yes its rude you dont have to do it if you dont want to.

  • She seems to be okay with you saying no, but I think expects too much from doing it. Pretty soon people will lose interest in OnlyFans because they start going to work every day.

  • It's no big deal she's just trying to save face because she looked really stupid asking you that

  • You are right. You don’t need that stress in your life.

  • good for you... don't let people pressure you into stuff like that that you don't want to do. You would probably regret it and money isn't worth all those feelings

  • its not your think, thats ok

  • What to you is a lot of money?

  • Bitch please, what woman doesn't over react.

  • your friend is a moron. there's hardly any money if any to be made from onlyfans. tell your dumbass friend to sit down and count how many women have an onlyfans account. and tell her to count how many women have bigger boobs and a bigger butt and thicker thighs then her. that's how much competition she has and ask her what will make her stand out from all of that?
    there's an old saying why buy the milk when you can get the cow for free. meaning in her case if she makes an onlyfans account people can simply do a google image search and see her naked because there's at least 1 or 2 or a couple of people who will leak her naked pictures and post them on google and that right there is money LOST from her pockets

  • Proud of you for your attitude!

  • yeah it was kind of rude
    also you can wear a mask so no one could see your face

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