I think I am str8 but now I don't feel the same attraction towards guys and in case of girls I am blank. is it a phase or permanent?

[Anonymous]

Until the age of 14 I was totally secure of my sexuality. I am a girl. Even after knowing about LGBTQ community for a long time I supported it. And also all my friends who belong to that community came out and I supported them. But recently a friend of mine said that i have bisexual vibes and I started to think about it. Slowly this thought became mindful and I became distressed. I suffered from depression and I thought maybe i am one of them. But I never ever had crush on girls and still now I don't. I tried looking at some of my LGBTQ friends’ pictures but i didn't feel anything. I tried to like girls in general but i couldn't. I tried looking at girls and guys at street but I didn't find anyone attractive. This confusion and depression deepened and I shared with my friends. One of my bisexual friends proposed to kiss me and with resistance I said yes. And yes i kissed her and at first I didn't feel anything but now when I think of it i feel a small sense of disgust. My friend said that since she is not attracted to me she didn't feel anything at first but when she thinks of it she feels sparks because she kissed a girl. My friends don't relate to me and they think I am straight and I also know I am. But there is still a heavy heart and I don't feel the same spark I felt for my crush who is boy that I used to. I know that I am straight but i still think what if i like girls although when I look at them I don't feel anything. I also feel my feelings towards boys diminishing and in case of girls I feel blank. Altho when i look at my anime crushes i blush as usual and i don't feel anything. I am still depressed and I want to know if I am really straight.

[TonyV]

So you are depressed cause your straight and you wish you were bi?

You can't pick you sexuality, gay people didn't choose to be gay they just were.

You dont have to be a member of the lgbtq to support it.

You are really young, you have plenty of time to figure out who you are sexually, dont rush it.

[Asker]

No I just want to know about my sexuality. Thats why I kissed girls and felt nothing and I don't think I like girls in general. Altho deep down i know I am straight and after reading everybody's comments I know I am straight for at least now but I can't stop questioning my sexuality. It stabs me back.

[TonyV]

You seem pretty confident that you are straight, but you can't help question your sexuality. What is it that makes you question your sexuality? Did you have a thought ypu dont think a straight person would have? Did you ever feel anything for a girl? Let's try to get to the bottom of what would be confusing you. Oh and really, there is no need to rush this kind of thing, you'll know your sexual preference when you see it one day, and that day dosent have too come anytime soon, you'll find out when the time is right.

[Asker]

Actually till the age of 14 I never questioned myself. I knew about the LGBTQ community from the age of 11 and I supported it. Most of my friends are either gay or bi and I still support them. I am a person who always overthinks and has anxiety disorder. One day one of my friends said that i give bisexual vibes. That is when I paniced and watched my reaction towards girls and guys , asked my homosexual girl friends (normal friends) , they said that they didn't think as altho they flirted with me I didn't respond or blush. One of them even proposed to kiss me and I felt blank and kissed her. I didn't even feel anything. That eased my stress a little but there are times I think I might be a LGBTQ person but sometimes I feel I am straight. Oh I am sorry u asked how did it start , it started from a my gay guy friend saying tgat I give him bisexual vibes altho now he thinks I am straight but Uk I am paranoid.

[Asker]

And also I never felt anything towards any girl

[TonyV]

So the second geussing yourself started when a gay friend of yours made the comment "you give off bisexual vibes". So I take it he's relating something you did to another bisexual girl he knows. I thinknyounate over thinking this, I over think a lot of things too so I get how easily you can "fall down the rabbit hole". Try not to let what people say about you, get too you. Someone one said you seem bi and you let that comment mess with your head. Just cause your friend is gay dosent make him an expert on identifying other gay or bi people. He thought he saw a bi characteristic in you, he was wrong, plain and simple, I also dont think he meant anything by his comment. Maybe it will help you if forget about trying so hard to fit yourself into a category, this may be a cheesy thing to say but you aren't a gay, or a bi, or a straight, you are Rachel. (I don't know your name obviously lol) You are not just 1 of the many in a sexual orientation group, first and foremost you are you, the only 1 of you, you really are a 1 of a kind. Like i said kind of a cheesy idealialgy lol, but maybe it will help you out.

[Asker]

No no not second guessing I never questioned myself until he said those stuffs. I had crushes on guys and on male anime characters. My gay friend just guessed I am bi and my other lesbian gay and bi friends think I am straight altho I am questioning my sexuality. And tbvh I asked him what made him think I was bi and he said that since my best friend was lesbian ( he doesn't know that she is my best friend) , I might be dating her. But when i informed he was wrong and I don't really feel anything towards girls he said that probably I am straight. But I can't get if off my mind I know I am straight but something is triggering me

[Asker]

You know I want to identify myself as Rachel but my anxiety and overthinking always go brrrr...

[TonyV]

Well how people conceive you can be triggering. You see it all the time when a super hot girl knows she's super hot, she'll have guys lined up around the block to try and be with her, but one rude comment from a guy saying she has no butt and her whole world falls apart even tho she knew she was hot and there was proof she was hot but cause of one small comment she is all messed up now. Kind of sounds like you, you're straight, you act straight, all your close friends know you're straight but one comment from a guy who didn't have all the facts before he spoke has you triggered. So now we need to try to figure out why your triggered. Can you think of or identify what feeling you have when you're triggered? I know this term is usually used against hateful people who are trying to shame LGBTQ people, and I'm not saying this too insult you but what if you are just a tad bit homophobic? Like the thought of you being with a girl had never really grossed your mind before I'll informed people accused you of it. Like you respect them and their chose but the idea of it actually involving you is unsettling?

[Asker]

I actually feel blank about me being with a girl amd no I am not homophobic. I kissed a girl and I felt nothing neither excitement or spark nor disgust

[Asker]

And also sometimes I wonder what prevents me from liking a girl

[TonyV]

Well I bet what keeps you from liking girls is basiclly them lacking the traits you like about boys. Loke me for example I'd consider having sex with an Adrojonase male, basically a really feminine, girly looking boy. No body hair, little to no muscle definition, basiclly if the guy could put on a wig and a stuffed bra and look just like a girl I'd be down. Masculine features are a no for me, I want to look like a lumberjack but i wouldn't sleep with one. Anyway, what is it you find attractive about men? Muscles? Body hair?

[Asker]

Ummm I remember there was a time when my friends were examining me when I was doubting my sexuality my homo lesbo bff sent me pictures of her girl celeb crushes. Among them 3 were masculine and 3 were feminine. She asked me who do I feel attracted I said none. But when she asked who do I find good looking I chose all the feminine ones. I don't think I like Masculine girls by their appearance. I like good looking guys actually like tall having a cute face. My recent crush is like super cute by behaviour always caring about me and is super nice to me. I always prefer bright and nice guys I guess.

[Asker]

As I said I don't feel attracted towards girls at all

[TonyV]

So you like a cute, handsome face on a tall guy. Just curious, what do you think about Ruby Rose? I was only asking to try and help you realize why you dont like women sense you said yourself you dont no why you aren't attracted. I'm not trying to convince you one way or the other.

[Asker]

Actually as I said my lesbo friend sent me pics and one of her celeb female crush is Ruby rose. And I mentioned I don't like masculine girls by their appearance. But ya she is pretty ig.

[TonyV]

Hhhhhm, I'm kind of curious what you think of Buck Angel, I'll worn you now before you search Buck he is a ftm trans pornstar so if you dont want to risk seeing him nude maybe dont look him up.

[Asker]

No i don't like porn stuffs so not a porn star. I am not that kind of girl

[TonyV]

Glad I warned you then lol

[Asker]

Then? What do u think?

[TonyV]

What do I think? Like about if you're bi or straight? I think you're straight. I was just trying to find out if it would be possible for a girl to be just masconline enough to be attractive too you, but no, you seem to be straight to me. Try not to worry about it, it's perfectly fine that you only like men and have zero attraction too women.

[Asker]

Thank u so much. U asked so many questions and I let it all out. It never started from a girl but rather than my friend who doesn't even had the correct informations.

[TonyV]

Well I was trying to help, I something insaid helped you a little bit lol

[Máiiréad]

Perhaps, asexual, or possibly even demisexual. You don't have to label yourself at all. You can just be.

Asexual: "Asexuality is a spectrum. Some asexuals neither experience sexual attraction nor have a sex drive. Some have romantic or emotional attraction, but not a sex drive. Some have a sex drive, but they do not experience an attraction. Finally, some experience both attraction and drive, but do not find that those two things are linked."

Demisexual: "A person who is demisexual only feels sexually attracted to someone once they've made a strong emotional connection. It's somewhere on the spectrum between asexuality and allosexuality. You can be gay, straight, bi — whatever — and then also demisexual."

[Iron_Man]

That’s the problem with hanging out with bisexual people or gays they eventually want to brainwash you and get you to come to the other side for their own sexual pleasures. Do not listen to your friend now look what has happened to you. You’re still young do not give into temptation don’t be confused. Women are put on this earth for a man a man is made to be with a woman. Check into Christian professional counseling and get yourself on the right path again and you should stay away from those friends of yours. They could ruin your life

[boggboss]

You are straight your feelings for your crush have just changed lol

[s2firestar]

You are fooking overthinking it. Why does it matter what you like or not? Do you need a label to feel good about yourself? What gets you hot is of no consequence for anybody but you. Hell, this ain't rocket science.

[okeydoke]

You might be asexual. My sister is. Read up on it.

[Asker]

U sure? I remember havung crush on a guy who lives in my neighbourhood. I used to sit by my window through out the day for just having a single glance of him. And in case of girls I can't imagine them more than my friend even after kissed one. I know I am straight but my brain is still filled with these stuffs

[okeydoke]

Asexuality doesn’t mean you wouldn’t be romantically interested in someone.

[Gedaria]

Sex is not every thing.
It's how you interact with people of both sexes. That you will get as you get older..

[swettannie]

it's probably just a phase

[COMMODOREII]

You probably are straight. You are just going through a stage in your life where you are thinking about it too much. Just live your life and you find the right person who will turn you on.

[Twalli]

You are, because regardless of feelings for boys, you still don't like girls. If, eventually you have no attraction to either, you may be asexual, but as of now you're still only attracted to boys.

[Valnac]

I suggest you get some counseling for social anxiety.

[Waldoe]

it's common to go through periods of feeling indifferent, no worries

[Cheeky_Scorpion]

I think you should try both at the same time. 2 girls and a boy.