Is there something wrong with me?

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I'm really weird about sex, I don't ever want to do it. But I have no problem flirting with people? I have no problem sexting? I guess because it's not real life so I can easily do it. I can listen to sexual music, listen to people talk about their sexual experiences (to a certain extent) but when it comes to me physically having sex? Nope. I'm not even curious about it and I don't ever get horny unless I'm bored and I make myself horny. So what is wrong with me? And it's not just that I don't want to do it, I feel as though I avoid it, like I'm a sex addict but on the opposite end. When people come to me with sexual advances, I tend to have a crisis about that when it's not wanted and I somehow talk myself into a spiral of things like "if you were a kid, people would care that an adult is coming onto you but now that you're an adult too, you're not safe anymore and nobody gives a shit" like? I really thought those words to myself before. I don't know why I'm like this, I haven't had a sexual assault experience or anything like that that would cause me to have this weird aversion to sex. I even avoid real life relationships too because I know sex is expected so I stay in online relationships and that seems to work for me. Should I see a therapist about this? Also how do I bring this topic up to a guy if I somehow end up in a real life relationship before I work through this? Just give me all the advice you can because I feel like I'm the only person with this problem.

JPrez · Accepted Answer

Not really. There may be a chemical imbalance somewhere but you can get it fixed. There are doctors out there - you'd have to find them online or get a referral - that can give you small doses of testosterone which will increase your drive and get it to a normal, manageable level. It can make a world of difference.

Glasgow55 · Accepted Answer

I don't think there's anything wrong here. We're all different. Personally, I despise sexting, but absolutely adore flirting, and I'm really good at it - lol. When you're ready to take things further, you'll know. Stay safe.

loves2learn · Accepted Answer

Definitely see a therapist that specializes sexual disfunction. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with you but it does sound like there’s something else going on under the surface. Have you ever been diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder? That’s my first though. I have it so I can spot it.

kkirk4442 · Answer

You might try seeing a therapist, as there is something blocking your progression.

Bagyy · Answer

Why don't you get your hormones tested? Check for estrogen, progesterone, testosterone levels. If that's normal, then you might want to consult a doctor and go for further tests.

okeydoke · Answer

Read about asexuality.

andy530 · Answer

Sounds like you may have some fears of intimacy

Valnac · Answer

I suggest you get counseling for social anxiety.

MHS118 · Answer

You never got a real person woth whom you are attached. Sex is not everything. It needs time, trust, love and care. Then you gift yourself to the person you love. Give proper time. You cannot do sex with a guy who came to your life only for sex. But you will definitely do this with the one cares and loves you.

Cheeky_Scorpion · Answer

I think you need an understanding partner

Anonymous · Answer

Before I started dating I was like this. Think about sex, even masturbate but when I was with a woman I thought nothing about sex. I tried to avoid. Maybe I was weird too or some of us are just like this.

Anonymous · Answer

Would you be interested in a relationship with a man like myself who is going to get his penis and maybe testicles removed? I want a sexless relationship also but I will need this done to achieve my goals.

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