What would you do if your partner told you that he or she wanted to wait until marriage for intimacy?

[ct1243]

Would you wait?

Due to my religious/ spiritual beliefs I personally would WANT TO wait until marriage for intimacy and this is dependent on what my mate and I agreed on before God.

Someone brought it to my attention that celibacy and abstinence are the same and it’s not. Here’s the proper definition down below.

Abstinence means giving up a particular thing voluntarily. This thing you give up could be a particular food, drugs, drinking, or intercourse.

Celibacy refers to giving up sex by choice. A celibate person may have had sex before, but at present and the in future, they decide not to have it.

Celibacy may have different meanings for different people. Strict celibates refrain from all kinds of sexual activity including self-pleasuring. Other celibates may have romantic relationships. Some celibates engage in kissing, touching, and other methods of non-penetrative intercourse with their partners. Celibacy may be temporary or permanent.

Permanent celibacy is often pledged for religious reasons. Priests, nuns, and monks take a vow of celibacy when they are initiated into the Church. Celibacy is often dictated in other religions as well. Most religions advise both the males and females to remain celibate until they take marital vows.

Thus, celibacy is not the same as virginity. It is voluntary, and it can be practiced by those who have had intercourse before. Celibates can always go back to being sexually active.

[razelove]

Yeah, I read the question and skimmed what you put up after, but anytime someone is saving themselves for jesus, I truly wish them the best of luck and move on to someone who is not.

I'm not marrying someone who puts rules on intimacy. What basis do I have to go on that things would improve at all after being married? The only guarantee is that I would be at a huge disadvantage then after spending a lot of time and effort to put myself in that compromised position.

I don't get your point of view, but I do respect that you hold firm to it. On my end, nope, even if I get burned in other relationships, at least I'm having them and the experiences that go with them... instead of intense hand holding time.

[Cof1412]

If I loved her, I'd wait. My wife and I waited and it was fine. Now, we did non-penetrative activities with each other before marriage, but we both were fine with waiting. We've been married now over 16 years and are very happy. I'd say it's worked out well.

[ct1243]

I love your story I definitely want to do this with my mate ; waiting is beautiful 😢

[Cof1412]

Thanks. I hope it works out for you too.

[ct1243]

Same I’m waiting on God

[modelUN242]

I'm waiting as well as my partner. Sorry, but people who bring sexual compatibility as a reason, when has that ever worked lol? Divorce rates have gone up since the Sexual Revolution so yeah, that hasn't worked. I'm a very jealous person and would like my husband to have no experience with other women.

[Laciandmaci]

Waiting until marriage is special to me, I am waiting. If a guy doesn't want to wait he isn't worth it. Remember he CAN wait he just chooses NOT too!

[ushagomez]

I wouldn’t consider marrying anybody with whom I had not started to enjoy a sexual relationship.

[slatyb]

No I wouldn’t because the reason most women have is some religious nonsense. I don’t date religious women.

[0112358]

Probably not. I assume most people aren't very compatible sexually. Someone being content waiting till marriage makes me think we are even less likely to be compatible than average so I'd not be very eager to wait to get married to someone I'd be unhappy with.

I certainly could wait and perhaps would for someone I was fairly convinced was compatible but that's an unlikely scenario. That's ALSO assuming we are clearly marriage track.

[Shhhhhhhhhhh06]

Of course I'd wait

I mean I'd probably be the one to want to wait tho...

[Gwenhwyfar]

I would wait if I really loved them

[Josh4206]

Definitely would still date her if i liked her, sex isn't a requirement and if all else fails I can still masturbate if I need to.

[Redstang88]

Nope

[ct1243]

Please explain

[Redstang88]

No I won’t until we’re married

[Redstang88]

*won't wait*

[bklynbadboy1]

Nope I definitely would not wait. If I was a virgin I can see myself doing that but now I've had sex sooooo many times so to late now

[ct1243]

Ok..

[Valnac]

Nope, I’d leave.

[Seppel]

I am against strong religuous ideas so I would run away

[Nayyrr]

Marry them

[Cheeky_Scorpion]

I was very angry