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Are you attentive to your girlfriend's needs during sex?

My friend and I were discussing this and it just seems really unfortunate that a lot of guys don't pay attention to pleasing the woman they are with, and being attentive to her needs and what she likes to do.

As a result, a lot of women just don't enjoy sex and see it as a chore in the relationship.
However women need sex just as much as men do to be honest so it's not fair at all.

Are you attentive? Is it important for you to please your girlfriend?
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  • That happened because too many people are watching pornography, dabbling in erotic material that is not only filthy, it's disturbing. And having premarital sex before marriage. When you having so many partners, and you have not been taught on a foundation of love, what sex is and isn't, excetera, they do not see the need nor to care. Is very few men that do and they take that same idea in a marriage and now I'm people are getting married thinking that that's what sex is and is not. It's less to do about a tentative to need it has to do with the fact of do you understand what love and sex it? Because me is comes with the understanding of intimacy which you should learn when you are friends. You learn this from your parents. It is a sacrifice of something. For men especially they do not understand this concept naturally. They have to beat Otis. We women naturally understands, but we had to learn to cultivate and grow with what is naturally Ennis to do. While men have to learn how to sacrifice in love in order to receive what they have a desire for which can only be given from us. We can I give that to them if we're not loved and cherished. A concept that had become very foreign to a lot of people because it's too religious today.

    • Unfortunately it's a foreign concept for a lot of women today too.

Most Helpful Guys

  • The first time I had sex I was almost 16 she was 19 when we got finished and I went home I was so angry first of all because I thought I was going to hell for having sex and then I was angry because I didn't see fireworks she called me back for the second time and the third time and I was even more pissed cuz now I'm going to hell three times and I still didn't see the fireworks I got to think about it for a long week when she called for the 4th time I asked her if she see the fireworks and she said yes I just kept replayed it in my brain over and over so I decided to do it a different way I decided to make it all about her my every touch my every kiss my every thought was focused on her her eyes her cheeks to see what color they would turn the way she breathes the way she moaned you way she moves her hips when I finished I realized that everything I just mentioned would tell me what you wanted at that moment without saying one word when we finished I can say I seen the fireworks and so did she I didn't know what it meant at the time but she said that was so good I could use a cigarette she just said oh my God that was so good that was the best decision I ever made because from that day forward to this day I pay attention to everything her every move because just a little cook will tell you exactly what she was and it's my choice to either give it to her or take her the opposite way from that day to this day I've done nothing but grown from the moment I first kiss to the moment of The Last Kiss she is been kissed without saying one word

  • Yeah, so here's how I figure it, men and women have different focuses when it comes to being "good in bed"

    To be good in bed as a man, you need to be great at foreplay, and keep getting better. Hands and mouth, figuring what parts are most sensitive, really building the anticipation. Women can get off multiple times, with each consecutive time being easier than the last. This is why the foreplay game must be strong, and keep getting better as the relationship progresses. If you get her off a couple times before penetration, 5 minutes, 5 seconds, doesn't matter so much if you've gotten yours already.

    It's the opposite for women, us guys get off and trying to keep pumping that well is a steeper and steeper climb each time. Your foreplay game can be weak, weak as hell, like you flop his penis back and forth like it might jump at you at any moment. Where your game needs to be strong is like mortal combat, you need to be able to finish him, kung-fu grip, slurping, whatever the case may be, you just need to make that one orgasm intense, and everything that came beforehand is forgotten in the bliss.

    So, yeah, I'm attentive to her needs, which can be problematic. Take it too far and leave someone a jello-like quivering mass and their finishing game is not going to be strong, oh no, not at all. It can be very very frustrating sometimes, but such is the price you pay when you strive hard for greatness.

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  • A very large amount of my own pleasure comes from hers, so, yes, her pleasure is a high priority for me. It's also why I've almost never had a girlfriend turn down sex.

    I know some guys don't care about the girl's pleasure, but that has got to make sex boring and unexciting and I can't understand why they would cheat themselves out of something that could be great. That's mind-boggling to me.

    It would be like going to a high-end steakhouse and just ordering a plain salad - you're missing the whole point!

    • My like is not my approval of going to a steakhouse, you gotta care for those poor animals, but I agree with the rest!

  • I learned very early that making sure she gets hers is the best way to get WHATEVER I want. If I make sure she gets everything she needs and at least some of what she wants, she'll do ANYTHING for me in return. I do it because I'm a compulsive helper but also because it gets me all those kinky things I love.

    Do you agree?

    • Now you here, are a KING. You got that right!

    • Is there much of anything you won't do if I make sure you have a dozen or so screaming orgasms before I get mine? Let me spank you hard on the bare? Take you up the ass? Face fuck you?

    • watching too much porn man. I've never met a girl that liked to get face fucked

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  • Absolutely!

  • I am attentive to my partner's needs because

    1. our relationship is a relationship of equals and her needs are as important as mine;

    2. if I attend to her needs, then she WANTS to attend to my needs as well, and

    3. if she feels satisfied with our dance time, she will keep coming back for more of the horizontal mambo.

  • Yes always.

    I make sure she has the tv controller and is able to watch Netflix, we position the TV so she can easily see it without neck strain.

    also, during sex nutrition is important, so I make sure she has snacks handy, especially if there is a movie 🍿 on.

  • Your observations are correct about many guys. They look at sex from a viewpoint as an activity for them to singularly enjoy instead of enjoying as a couple. Since guys and gals have different speeds reaching orgasm, foreplay is extremely important and some guys want to immediately get to the orgasm part, and cut a lot off foreplay. Unfortunately way too many women get in the “but I love him” state and go for years, even life, putting up with that and their guys get worse.
    If a guy refuses to work with you, dump him!

  • I try to be... but one can always improve!

  • Let's just say a girl I was with said she's been with 16 guys before me and never came during sex so I shouldn't bother. Guess what number 17 did 😉.

    In fact I was so good that she still texts me even though it's over to say I'm the best she's ever had.

    It's an amazing feeling of achievement when I'm able to say "better than your ex, better than you next" and it holds some truth.

    Not to mention all the freaky stuff we ended up doing once she realized that it was fun for her as well

    • Ahhhh I see!

  • It's important to attentive to her needs during sex, so yes, I'm attentive to her needs.

  • Food for thought everyone. Have you notice the trend on this post? Look at the ages of men who replied who legitimately want to pleasure women and cater to the needs Versus the people who just want to just nut. I swear whats wrong with this newer generation of men, I mean boys. I'm all for pleasuring my lady before myself that's the best part of having sex! Esp the reaction after you pleasure her and yourself. Its Priceless and self-gratifying! My suggestion is to find a older "MAN" then I think you'll be happy. Age is only a number In My eyes and the older gentlemen will have more experience. Remember as they say" Happy wife, happy Life!" I hope your boy friend rethinks about not satisfing you first. If not I'll buy you a pocket rocket and that'll be your new and improved boyfriend. That way if he asks you what's that for you can tell him he's below par with your standards in bed. Then he'll definitely rethink his actions.

  • Yes. I thought that was normal and common. Seems that it’s not. When I started dating after my divorce I dint imagine I was anything special. But multiple women told me that I was the best, merely because I paid attention to them and cared if they were satisfied.

    I guess Christine Lavin’s song is true.

    https://youtu.be/dnKK4ULoMB8

    • Unfortunately that’s the case! A lot of men don’t actually care.

  • Virgin. But from what little I did experience back when I almost broke my principles on waiting for marriage, I'm turned on by mutual satisfaction. I enjoyed being attentive to her, especially concerning one particular, activity.

  • If girls would tell me what they were I would!!
    For a gender that complains that guys never communicate, they expect us to read their minds during sex for some reason.

  • Pleasing her is a huge turn on.

  • i ain't stressin cause i get aroused from womens pleasure so 2 birds with one stone i guess

    • Oh cool

  • a portion of the pleasure i recieve is from giving her her pleasure.

  • Not me. Nothing turns me on more than a lover's arousal and orgasm (s). I get really turned on when a woman comes

  • I worship her. Her pleasure is my priority. I thrill to be able to please her. It's one of the things that most makes me feel like a man, that I can please a classy sophisticated and gorgeous woman as my wife.
    I don't even consider my pleasure until I've brought her to the point where she can't remember her own name. I want her exhausted, breathless, confused, unable to say a whole sentence clearly because of the powerful surges of pleasure and endorphins coursing through her body. If she's done cumming and doesn't have to look around and try to remember where she is then I haven't done my job.

    • Wow love this response

  • I always take care of her first. Then we can focus on me. I have been doing that since I was 18. It's a matter of pride! I want the girl I am with to cum!

  • Yes, I’m not with anyone now but I do. If she's paying special attention to me I consider it fair to pay special attention to her. And, women can't tell their husbands or boyfriends to pay attention to them or try what they want to do because then the men would get insulted because of how sensitive there sexual-egos are, or at least thats how the opinion goes.

    • That’s true but you best believe imma tell my boyfriend straight up I’m not feeling it lol

    • Haha, well if you enjoy sex more then you’ll have sex more and he’ll enjoy that.

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