How do I stop hating myself over my weight?

[ShortGirlSweet]

They tell me I'm not huge, but I am "chubby" I guess. I've lost some weight but at times I do enjoy myself with food. Guys do compliment me but I still brush it aside as a fetish, not that they actually find me sexy.

I want to be healthy mentally but I always make fat jokes at myself and tell myself I'd be prettier if my ribs poked out. Sometimes I have desires to feel my ribs and hip bones and I catch myself always feeling my collarbone.

I feel like I dont deserve to be pretty or feel beautiful unless I'm thin. How do I stop this? Will this require therapy?

[JustJen]

Don't hate yourself, hate your weight. Try to get into the mindset that you deserve better than being fat and out of shape. Then start exercising. Don't overdo it, find a routine you can stick to for the long term, like going for brisk daily walks for an hour or two every day. Also, change your diet. Lean protein and veggies. No fruits or goodies. You would most certainly not only be prettier but also feel healthier, have more strength and stamina and your long term health would improve. Just go for it, you deserve it!

[Little_Bumblebee]

I think you need to talk with someone.
First, ask someone professional about your weight and your body about whether you're at a healthy size and what you can do.
Then find a therapist to help you out with those thoughts of yours because it sounds like it can become very unhealthy.

Remember, your fat percentage is not your identity.

[hhH2traveler]

All those guys can't be a fetish, i think they find you sexy. If you want to loose weight you can but you dont have to, to feel sexy. Im sure more guys will like your looks if you loose weight, statistically speaking anyway, and it might just be your healthy intuition telling you to loose weight, but it could be your unhealthy procrastinating engine that is telling you to do that. I can tell you one thing, its not healthy to always be procrastinating why am i not healthy or why am i heavier, than this.

[NamerOfStars]

I'd suggest finding something to love yourself for. You have many attributes; if being fat (or as fat as you are) is one that you dislike, what is there about yourself that you DO like? If nothing immediately comes to mind, ask yourself what you could have that you WOULD like, and work on that. It's easier to look past the bad in something if you can see the good in it.

[summiter]

You are what you are. It is what is inside that counts!

[Matthew2222]

First off see this
Broke Beyond Belief:Deconstructing Institutionalized Normality and Expectations in the BMI Index

Second, quit buying into their crap by trying to loose weight. If you want to be content with who you are you need to quit trying to change it.

[chriscdi]

if they have that fetish they do find you sexy, a fetish is a sexual attraction towards that

[Danny_dan92]

Stop putting up excuses and do things to lose weight. That would change your perception of yourself

[SirJohn42]

Well we all have imperfections. But you need to know yourself worth and that you are beautiful.
And we all have our own addictions. Food is a big temptation. I used it to self medicate.

[andy530]

Seeing a therapist could really help you catch and challenge some of the faulty thinking you fall for that keep you from seeing what others see in you

[tallcuck]

Overeating ia an addiction. It can be quited and replaced by some benefitial habbit. That is how you stop hating yourself. Telling yourself you are big beautiful women is a lie and you know it and that is why you hate yourself. You will love your new self, i am sure.