Why are some men obsessed with the idea of taking a girls virginity?

Question

I feel like once I tell a guy I'm a virgin, they're more into me than when they just assume I'm not and I don't know why. I told my friend that I'm a virgin because he was talking about wanting to hook up sometime so I just let him know because why wouldn't you let someone know that? And he was saying how it's so attractive that I'm a virgin and how "innocence is sexy" and I just don't get it. Am I missing something here? I don't care if someone's a virgin or not, I'm still gonna look at them the same. Imagine if I looked at someone who wasn't a virgin and tried to fetishize that like "oh wow that's so hot, you have all this experience and I have none, you could teach me some things" like that sounds insane the other way around but I guess when it comes to virginity it's normalized

ohshee · Accepted Answer

I have been on Gag now for about 7 years I think maybe six and I've heard a lot of questions about the virgins I personally have always said I would rather be with somebody it was not a virgin but more questions that I've answered more I thought about it I don't have any interest in the idea of taking somebody's virginity it's more into helping them keep their virginity I lost mine when I was 15 in the first time was so disappointing for two reasons when I thought I was going to hell the second was I didn't see any fireworks and I was going to help without the fireworks that just pissed me off LOL it's a long story asked me about it someday anyway with answering questions on here and having a couple friends that are virgins and one really really close friend that is a virgin and watching what they go through because they're torn between losing it or keep it I used to watch my friend battle herself because she wanted to feel sex so bad and it's the same time she what did you save herself for marriage I understand their point on both of them before covid-19 my friend and I would go to clubs listen to music she lived 30 miles out of town if you drink too much you would stay at my house one night we went to a club and I picked up on a girl and was going to take her home with me anyway I gave keys to my truck to my friend because she wanted to go and I told her I'd be home in a little bit later she left in 20 minutes later the girl that I left I noticed my truck still sitting in the parking lot I walked over to see what she was doing and I could see she has been crying I told her to wait right there I went back to the girl that I was going to take home and tell her that I was just going home maybe we can get together some other time I went back to my truck got it it started driving home I asked my friend what's going on what's wrong she wouldn't tell me anything you got to my house we talked a little bit I had a spare bedroom did she would stay in but sometimes she would just come to my bed we would talk and she would just fall asleep I told her goodnight she said she wanted to sleep in my room of course me being a smart-ass filter okay that couldn't be held responsible if anything happened and I laughed anyway we're laying in bed she told me she made up her mind the next time we go out she was going to pick up the first guy that asked her to dance and she was going to get laid I said whatever and then she started telling me about how bad she wanted to feel it I had told her many times about my very first experience that's what she said why don't you just f****** right now I kind of laughed and said not this again and in that moment I had an idea and I said yes why don't I I was supposed to bring that girl home I could be getting laid right now she said I'm sorry I said stop I'm just teasing you I said if you have to find the right guy you don't want it to suck like my first time I said you really want to get f***** right now she said yes I would let you right now I said with no strings she said yes I started laughing really hard she sat up in bed bend over towards me and went to hit me on the chest say that's not funny I grabbed a hold of her arm I would roll over on top of me I kissed her very slow and deep I then rolled over on top of her I said are you sure about this she said yes I kissed her again I said my rules and she said rules what rules I told her there is rules she says what are the rules I said I'm going to f*** you without f****** you she said what I said rule number one we can do anything and everything except for no penetration she said how is that going to work I do accept it or don't accept it tell me yes or no right now she said yes I rolled her back over on top of me I said sit up she sat on my hips on my lap I grabbed ahold of her hips place in just wright if you could feel what was going on I pulled her forward I slid her back

Jamie05rhs · Accepted Answer

I honestly don't care about that at all. I'll do it if she wants me to, but if she wants to do it herself then that's fine, too.

... But I feel like that isn't really the question you're asking. I think you want to know why men prefer virgin women to non-virgin women. And the answer to that is quite simple: a woman who is still a virgin has proven that she knows how to control her sexual impulses. It also shows that she is seeking exclusivity in a long-term relationship. As a monogamous man, that is what I am looking for in a partner.

casserolie · Accepted Answer

i think its cause we are tighter? or its just the satisfaction of having this person as yours kind of thing

Sincerly_KittyCat · Accepted Answer

I dont get it either. Especially when the dont want to be committed to her. Its disgusting in my opinion.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

We are not, it’s more hassle than it’s worth TBH. it sounds great idea, but it’s a bit of a pain (physical for her often as not) and can’t be spontaneous not with silk sheets.

summiter · Answer

I look at a girl the same whether she is a virgin or not and I also treat her with respect no matter what. I have had the honor of being a few girls first and it was an honor. I went slow and made sure it was all about them and not me.

normalice · Answer

A virgin's reaction will be more genuine. And i suppose it also gives guys some license to dictate what the girl will believe is enjoyable. Or it could also be an "ownership" thing.

karenchick111 · Answer

Every guy wants to be a girl's first.

GirlInTheGarden · Answer

Guys like to be the best, a sure way of being the best is to be first so there's no comparison hence the virginity obsession

kkirk4442 · Answer

For various reasons. For some, it's the challenge of taking your virginity. Others, because they are attracted to your virginal innocence. It's a little like exploring new territory, only with a person.

bowenw · Answer

Probably because they are losers that don't know how to please a woman in bed and a virgin won't know any better.

KatherineJ · Answer

I think it’s an ego trip for them.

hhH2traveler · Answer

I think thats its just culture saying that its so amazing and then they then wonder. Well, I've never tried it so maybe it is so good.

Helplesslycrushing · Answer

Your lucky, when I tell guys they back off like i just don’t know😒

DiegoO · Answer

Because they are retards. They ignore the fact that virginity really doesn't exist. It's to ambiguos to be taken seriously (in science), also, they assume sex can only be vaginal. Sex is: vaginal, oral, and anal. You can have oral sex and you would stop being a virgin, by comon sense. Why do you think condoms comes in 3 packs? For oral, vaginal, and anal SEX, and because you should never use 1 condom, for the all 3 types of sex. A condom used for oral, shouldn't be used for the other types of sex, and so on.

Bagyy · Answer

Cuz you then get to be the special someone in that person's life no matter what happens later

jeremy_09 · Answer

it's pretty hot to do a virgin

derdepedie301 · Answer

Because it feels special to be first one but i dont matter for me much.

Meldrum · Answer

Some men fantasize about virginity, being the first to take your cherry. I did it once and there was nothing magical about it. She was in such pain, even after I tried so hard to be gentle, she nearly passed out. I don't want that experience ever again. Why hurt someone to give them and yourself pleasure? She could lose it just riding a horse.