Desperate for some advice from guys and girls?

[CoronaFree]

* Advice Wanted Please... from both sexes *

Long while ago when in bed with my girlfriend (watching some XXX) I asked if she would ever consider a threesome of any kind.
Nothing more was mentioned about the subject for couple of weeks and after a night out (and one or two drinks) asked
me if I'd thought about inviting a third person into our bed... and tbh I hadn't, but I was very keen to hear what she was thinking
here..'OK, so I might do, but I wouldn't know how to find anybody' she says.
My response was was 'Well, I could maybe help, what were you thinking.. a male or female?'
She honestly said she couldn't see herself with another woman as she had been fairly inexperienced with that side of things
but if it were to happen with another female then she would definitely feel more able to 'open herself' to idea of seeing me with
another woman.
Finding a willing suitor was much easier than I had anticipated, and I'm not going into any details here other than a good time was had.
Few months later I happened to mention a 'return match' as in maybe she may now look at another female joining us.. but said she
just couldn't, jealousy would kick in and things would never be the same again for us.
Then just before my birthday about 6 weeks later she just comes out with 'would I do a threesome again, with her and another
male'.. stupidly I said yeah, as I did enjoy the last encounter, so she said 'OK, you sort the details.. I'm down'.
So, my reason for asking is.. what should I say/do to make her see I think she is being unfair? I have no interest in them getting
it on at all, just the thought of two pairs of hands is all I'd be wanting, pleasuring me, like she had been.
Would I be wrong to issue an ultimatum as such? Like find someone to join us or I will type of thing..
My head is all over place, I, so why can she not
sacrifice her feelings and give me my one fantasy? I would never even want to ever again.. end of..
Thanks in advance to all that comment here.

[Andres77]

Fairs fair...🙄.
My wife had some mfm threesomes in college. During our marriage we've had 3 fmf threesomes with a girlfriend of hers. We have lots of wild raunchy dirty fantasies but they're too risky and we'll never do them. But I did offer to her that if, let's say, if one of her old boyfriends ever visited the USA (she's from South America) that she trusted and knew he'd respect her and we could trust him to be std free would she be up for a mfm threesome? She jumped on the idea. He's the guy she'd done all the threesomes with in college so he'd be experienced and she'd trust him. So that's our plan.
She might have played you... but that she's leaving it up to you to find the guy is more reassuring. If she already had a guy picked out I'd be concerned.
Maybe that's an option, find an ex that will be respectful and she'd trust. You're just going to have to trust her. Declare that it's a one time thing. Though you were open to more pussy but the tables have turned.
Watch mfm porn by yourself first. Prepare yourself for all the options that can happen. Be as gracious to her as she was to you. Prepare to just deal with the jealousy ahead of time. It's just a few hours. Then watch mfm porn together. You had fun with two girls, right? Let her have fun with two guys. Enjoy watching her feel good. Be happy for her pleasure. Two guys is more intense than two girls and girls can cum a lot more so... don't be jealous. Be up front about your feelings but don't make a bunch of rules either.
Have you done anal with her?
She'd better be up for it. From listening to my wife, she doesn't enjoy anal by itself but she was dp in every mfm threesome she's had and the orgasms are intense. She needs her ass and mind to be ready for it.
Watch the mfm porn together, have another dildo. Role play, practice positions. Have lube and extra towels and wipes handy.
There are lots of folks in here who've done it. Getting advice was a good idea.
I hope you have fun and that it works out for you.

[Andres77]

Was this up changed? I opened it last night and read it and answered it this morning. I thought that you'd written that you already had the threesome with another girl.

[Andres77]

Oh... I'm stumped there. My wife gave me the fmf first. Now I'm ready to pay her back. her backing out is kinda fucked up. Well, the advice that I meant for you, use that with her. Good luck, that's a shitty twist.

[CoronaFree]

No, nothing changed at my end mate. As I replied to someone above she said she may be up for a ffm in future, but to start she'd only consider me and another guy. But when it came to 'returning favor' so to speak she says she just cannot bring herself to do it.. but would be open to another mfm if I could arrange that !!

[Avicenna]

She’s not likely to see it that way. Maybe the jealousy argument might work

[CoronaFree]

Just seems so one-sided at this time. thanks for your response though, appreciate it.

[loves2learn]

This is quite long winded. I’m not sure I completely followed. My thoughts are you did a ffm threesome with her. She wants to do fmm with you. Could you set some boundaries like oral sex is ok but not penetration. It feels a bit hypocritical to me that you still want her to do another ffm, but are not wanting to fmm.

[Andres77]

Agreed. She handled seeing you with another girl and doesn't want to do it again. You enjoyed yourself. Now it's her turn. Prepare yourself for what's coming and just enjoy it. Get your mind right. She didn't give you ultimatums she might become resentful if you drop one on her.

[CoronaFree]

No my friend, the opposite.. she said she may be open to ffm in future, but wanted to try 2 guys first. which we did, but now says she cannot go through with it, but will have further mmf if I'd like !

[loves2learn]

Ohhh. Thanks for clarifying. Yeah. That sucks. I’m sorry.

[loves2learn]

@coronafree a lot has happened in a month for me. Wanna pm about this?

[Anonymous]

This sounds so complicated, which is why adding another person into the bedroom ruins relationships.
And you say you’d only want to fulfill the fantasy once, but sometimes opening that can may lead to you never wanting to close it.

[CoronaFree]

No, it would be a single time for me (at least on my part anyway), I have had other mmf long time ago (not with this partner), and subject was never mentioned as they were just spur of moment/one off situations. Just seems to me so one-sided right now that's all. thanks for responding though, appreciate it.

[Anpu23]

Welcome to the mess of bringing others into the bedroom
First, open and honest communication is a must, sit down and discuss both of your feelings wants and desires. If anyone is uncomfortable then just don't. You'll end up killing the relationship.

[Iron_Man]

You certainly don’t want another male in the picture man and you shouldn’t be having a females either

[CoronaFree]

All commenters seem to have gotten confused, maybe it's how I've worded it all. We had a mmf.. but now it's her turn to find (I'd certainly help her) a female, but she just says she feels she can't :(

[Iron_Man]

You don’t need a 3some of any kind

[CoronaFree]

Well.. if we all had your view some may say life would become boring, but hey each to their own opinion and choices eh

[Iron_Man]

Life would not become boring because you can spice up your sex life with lingerie All kinds of sex games without crossing the line. You don’t have to have threesomes

[Anonymous]

Yeah that happens my girlfriend did the same thing to me

[Anonymous]

I would never go down that road.

[CoronaFree]

Well, all I can say is the world would be a strange place if everyone had same sexual fantasies, as what's good for one wouldn't be for another if you understand that LOL. thanks for responding though, appreciate it.